Buri mukobwa nyuma yimyaka 25 atangiye gutinya iki kibazo: kuki utashyingirwa? Ntabwo uzigera uzi uwo azaba "ahageze" ubutaha kandi nicyo kindikwe kuzana numwanya we wenyine. Kandi ugereranije nibi, ahantu hirekuye kubugingo, byeze kwanga kwanga kandi bikwiye gutsindishiriza muri rusange mubandi bantu. Ariko rimwe na rimwe ntibyoroshye gusubiza iki kibazo nawe ubwawe. None se kuki utashyingiwe?
Imyaka 23-28 - igihe kinini, cyiza cyane mubuzima nabahungu, nabakobwa. Niba kandi kuba umusore muri iki gihe ari ibisanzwe, kubaka umwuga, guteza imbere imibanire no kwiteza imbere, mukobwa, kubwimpamvu itumvikana, benshi baracyabona umubyeyi utera kubyara imyaka. Twese twaba byiza tumenyereye igitekerezo cyuko umukobwa utama amahitamo ashyigikira umwuga we ari ibisanzwe kuri societe ya none. Kubaka ubuzima bwawe, wishingikirije wenyine kugirango wumve gusa wizeye utitaye ko umugabo ari kumwe nawe cyangwa atari kumwe nawe, - ikimenyetso cyumuntu ukuze, ukomeye. Kandi iyi niyo mpamvu iremereye bihagije kugirango utarongora.
Ikindi gitekerezo cya societe yacu kuva kera kugeza igihe kinini cyo kumenyera: gushyingirwa - ntabwo iherezo ubwaryo kumukobwa ukirishye. Ubuswa bunini butekereza ko mu myaka 30 umugore ashobora kutarashyingirwa gusa kubera ko "nta muntu ufata." Ibinyuranye nibyo, gushyingirwa no gutandukana byerekana ko imiryango yaremye abishaka, afite imyaka "nka 30" iramba, iramba. Harimo kubera ko benshi muri iki gihe bashyingirwa ku nshuro ya kabiri, batanga amakosa ya kahise kandi bafite bike birenze ubushake hamwe ningero zimyitwarire, bizeye urukundo rwurukundo.
Ngiyo ikindi gisubizo kubibazo "Kuki utashyingiwe?" Kuberako bamaze gutandukana. Kandi igaragaza ikindi kibazo nyamukuru cya societe yacu: Urubyiruko ntizizi kubaka umubano mumuryango. Niba ubukwe bwakinwe nababyeyi, niba ababyeyi batanga amazu n '"umutsima", ingorane zikomeye zigaragara mugihe hakenewe kugira icyo ukora kubintu wenyine cyangwa ngo ugire igisubizo cyawe. Vine kuri ibi nta kinyoma ntabwo ari ku bashyikirwaho gusa, ariko, kenshi, kubabyeyi badakemuwe cyane kugirango bareke Umwana cyangwa umukobwa.
Paradox ishimishije: Abantu bashakanye, reba mumaso ya societe kurushaho birashimishije, gutsinda cyane muri gahunda yawe kuruta kwigunga, nubwo ubukwe butandukana! Niba ufite amashuri, akazi, urasa neza, ariko uri wenyine - uri amakosa. Niba warashatse kandi utandukana - Ufite amahirwe make. Ariko, gutandukana, ntabwo ari umugabo, bigomba kugereranywa nubunini bwananiwe ubuzima. Abantu benshi ntibashobora gukira nyuma yo kunanirwa igihe kirekire.
Ibi byose bitubwira iki? Ko irungu ntabwo ari interuro, ntabwo ari ugupima kandi ntatsinzwe. Fata umwanya wo kwigunga ufite ibitekerezo, noneho uzibukwa mugihe urongoye.