Uyu munsi biragoye kwiyumvisha ubuzima bwuzuye nta tegeko. Ubuhanga bwo gutumanaho buhabwa agaciro gahamye kukazi, bigukemerera gushiraho ubuzima bwite no gushaka inshuti. Ariko, akenshi ni ubushake bwo kubona umwanya wo hejuru cyangwa kwiga gushyikirana bituma dusaba imitekerereze ya psychologue no kwitabira amahugurwa yose. Ariko nigute twiga gushyikirana bitagira impagarara wenyine? Tuzabibwira.
Nturinde gutumanaho
Kenshi cyane, umuntu wambutse, mugihe ukeneye kwinjira mubiganiro numuntu, bigerageza kwirinda ibihe aho agomba kwirengagiza. Hindura inzira. Niba wowe, kurugero, reba inshuti uhura nimpanuka kumuhanda, ntugerageze kuzunguruka mubundi buryo, vuga, niba ubikora, kora ikiganiro. Guhera ku ntambwe nto, bidatinze uzahagarika guhura n'itumanaho iryo ari ryo ryose.
Ntukemere kwishyiriraho ufite ibibi
Igice kinini cyibibazo mugihe contiction zigizwe kubera imyumvire yacu. Dufate ko tuzi ko umuntu ikiganiro kirarambiranye, ariko ugomba kuganira nawe ikibazo cyingenzi. Urateganya mbere yo kuganira, ibyo, mubyukuri, birahindukira, ahubwo, gerageza kugenzura amaboko yawe. Kumenya ingingo zo kuganira nuwo muhanganye, tangira ikiganiro kugirango uganire kumwanya wingenzi kandi uhindure ikiganiro kumuyoboro ushimishije cyane, ntukabe mwiza kuri bombi, ntukagire neza kuri bombi, ntuhane interlocuct kugirango tujye ku ngingo mbi.
Ntutinye kuba uwatangije ikiganiro
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Tangira ikiganiro wenyine
Imyitozo myiza yo kunoza kwigirira icyizere - kuvugana numugabo mbere. Ubwa mbere, bizagora cyane kubera ubwoba bwo kwangwa, ariko uko uzarushaho kubona igisubizo cyiza kubitabira ikiganiro nawe, niko kwihesha agaciro. Ariko, birakwiye kandi gusuzuma uko ushobora gutangaza amakuru yawe: Niba ubona ko umuntu atashyizweho kugirango ashyireho, tegereza ikibazo cyoroshye.
Imikorere ntabwo buri gihe ari ngombwa
Nibyo, iyo umaze imishyikirano yingenzi, ugomba kubahiriza intera runaka, ariko mubindi bihe byumye kubibazo byawe nibisubizo kugirango uhatire interlocully kugirango uhangayike kandi utakaza inyungu mubiganiro nawe. Nta mpamvu yo kubikora. Gerageza kuruhuka, ushobora no gusetsa, kandi cyane, hitamo ingingo z'ikiganiro uzishimira byombi, kuko nta kibi kirenze gusamira we gusa n'ibibazo byayo.
Teza imbere abahanzi
Harimo amashusho hamwe na blogger uzwi cyangwa ikiganiro numuntu uzwi ukunda miriyoni, birashoboka ko wabonye umukinnyi wihariye wimyitwarire yiyi mico. Umuntu urambiranye ufite ikiganiro kuri imwe, ntabwo ari intera, ntishobora gutsinda mubateze amatwi. Gerageza gukoresha ikizamini cyawe: Shakisha amashusho murusobe hamwe numuntu ushimishijwe, umuntu ukunda, urebe bike mubiganiro bye, aho atari mu nshingano, ariko akavuga. Gerageza kumva ni ayahe mabanga yo gutsinda, kuko buri muntu uzwi azi gushyira abantu. Igikorwa cyawe nukumenya icyafasha umuntu gukurura abarebaga kandi tugerageza gukoresha ubu buryo bwo kuvugana nabandi bantu.