Cyangwa umugoroba umwe mwiza uza sms. Wowe, ku bw'impanuka ukamenya izina ry'uwagutumye, baza: "Ninde?" Aratera ati: "Yego, nta kintu cy'ingenzi."
Amahano n'uburakari bwose, ko kugeza ubu mugenzi wawe atibagiwe urukundo rwa nyuma, yaguye kuri wewe. Amamiriyoni y'ibitekerezo yihutira mu mutwe: "Arashaka kumukunda," "arashaka kumukunda," "arashaka kuwusubiza ati:" "Arashaka kuyasubiza ati:" "Arashaka kuyasubiza," ati: "Kandi hano none, ni ukubera iki atambwiye ko bakomeje gushyikirana?" ...
Kandi ibihe nkibi akenshi.
Reka tugerageze kubimenya uko bigenda bigaragara mu mibanire, usibye abafatanyabikorwa nyabo, abahoze batandatu babyiteho. Nzatanga ingero nke zikorwa. Kugisha inama yaje umugabo wari wubatse igihe runaka, yazanye abana. Ariko mubibazo byibibazo mumibanire numugore we byaguye mubitekerezo bya melancholike byurukundo rwe rumaze igihe kirekire. Ndetse yashyigikiye ihuriro rikomeye na we, yashimye mu biruhuko, yakurikiranye urupapuro rwinshi. Ntiyahinduye umugore we kandi ntanubwo agerageza gusubiza kahise. Kubera akazi mu itsinda rya psychologiya, yashoboye kumenya ko yihishe muri iki gihe yiyongera ku mibanire n'umugore we. Ubujyakuzimu, hafi no kugirana ubucuti byari bifite ubwoba. Yahungabanije rwose ko umugore we ashobora kumukwegera cyane, reba ibirori bye. Kubwibyo wahisemo gukora muburyo bwurukundo cyahise. Ingingo ya nyuma muri iyi nkuru ni uko yagiye mu mujyi yavukiyemo, aho azazira uwambere. Ngaho, bahuye bavuga impamvu umubano wabo utagenze neza, kuko ubu babaho nicyo imirimo yabo yingenzi bafite. Hanyuma uyu mugabo abwira mu itsinda ati: "Biragoye kubona umuntu wo mu isi kure cyane kuruta uko byari bimeze mbere! Turi abantu batandukanye kuburyo badashobora kubana uyu munsi! Nagarutse mvuye mu mujyi wanjye mvanze cyane kubyo nashyize ingingo. Ntabwo nkeneye kubaho ibihumura kubyerekeye umunezero. " Nyuma yibyo, umugabo umuntu mukuru mukuru yatangiye kuvugana numugore we: yarushijeho kuba umunuko kandi adasanzwe kandi adasanzwe, yavuganye nawe kumugaragaro kubintu byose bibabagerageza. Byahuje bidasanzwe, hamwe nabashakanye kandi bakize umubano wabo. Igisubizo cyibi byose nibyaye undi mwana.
Undi munyamuryango yasanze mugenzi we avugana cyane n'uwahoze ari umukobwa we upfamutsa, agenda. Ishyari n'uburakari bw'abatabitanyi bacu ntibazi imipaka. Nkigisubizo, amahitamo meza kuri we yahisemo gutandukana nabakundwa. Nta byumweru nkuwahoze ari umusore we kandi uwahoze ari Payasya yatangiye kubana. Nyuma yaho, babwiye ko abitabiriye amahugurwa yabwiwe ko yakekaga ko mugenzi we amukoresha nka ansiasia kugirango arokoke icyuho. Ko umubano ubwayo na we warambuye, ibihimbano, nta byiyumvo byihariye biva kumpande zombi. Kubatabiriye, byari isomo atagomba gushaka abafatanyabikorwa badafite uburenganzira.
Urundi rubanza rwabaye hamwe numugore mugihe cyo gusara. Yarashatse, azamura umukobwa we. Umubano we mugufi urashobora kwitwa utishimye: uwahoze ari umugabo yanyoye aramukubita. Nyuma yo kuvuka k'umwana, baratandukanye. Yitabira amatsinda, akikijwe n'abantu be bamushyigikira, yemeye ko mu by'ukuri atigeze akunda umugabo we. Kandi ko rwose yahujwe ninshuti ye yinzego. Uburere bw '"Umukobwa mwiza, ukwiye" yakinnye urwenya rw'ubugome. Yakomeje kwibuka umukunzi we mu myaka myinshi, umukobwa we, yagize ubwoba bwo kongera kumwinginga. Ubwoba bwo kwangwa bwari bukomeye ku buryo, ndetse yasize wenyine nyuma yo gutandukana, ntibyafashe icyemezo cyo kubikora kugeza igihe umukobwa we akuze kandi atamuvaho. Irungu n'igitekerezo ko nta kindi cyo gutakaza, kidutera uruhare mu kuba yasanze umukunzi we, we ubwe yahukanye mu myaka myinshi ashize kandi wenyine. Byaragaragaye ko ibyiyumvo byabo byaranzwe. Nibareke basanzwe bose atari imyaka 20, batangiye kuvugana no kumeneka, bagerageza guhanuka imyaka 35 gutandukana.
Niba uvuze muri make izo manza zose, noneho igitekerezo nyamukuru ni: "" "" "" "ni nk'inzu yibagiwe icyuma, ntabwo byazimye ku nkombe. Bakurura ibitekerezo n'imbaraga, bidutera mubihe byashize. Tujya impaka amagambo yacu yahoze agomba kuvugwa rimwe, gutsindishiriza cyangwa gusaba imbabazi. Nubwo bimeze bityo ariko, ntakindi kuri twe kuruta umubano utandujwe. Twese turabizi. Ariko iyo tubonye ko mugenzi wacu atarangije umubano, kandi umaze kugerageza kubabubaka natwe, noneho iyi ni akanya koroshye. Ntuzashobora guhagarika iyi contrat kuri IT: Ntabwo Blackmail cyangwa hysteria, cyangwa imibonano mpuzabitsina kuva mugitondo kugeza nimugoroba cyangwa umugoroba cyangwa umutego uzagukiza kuba umukunzi wawe ataragukiza.
Kurangiza umubano ni inzira idasanzwe isaba igihe n'amacumbi byose bijyanye no gusenyuka: inzika, umubabaro, urukundo, urukundo, kwicira urubanza no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba no gusiba. Ntibishoboka rwose kwihutisha cyangwa gusimbuka. Birashoboka gusa gushyigikira umuntu ufite igihombo cye. Psyche ntabwo izi gukuraho ibyakubayeho. Azi kubihagarika, guhagarika cyangwa gusohoka. Ariko ibi byose birigeze. Byongeye kandi, ibyiyumvo byimuwe bukunda gusiba isi yose ya nijoro. Kubwibyo, abantu basa nkaho ari ubusa, kwikunda, kwikunda, badashobora gukunda no kugirira impuhwe. Kandi nta buvuzi bwiza buva mu rukundo rwahise, kuruta kurokoka ibintu byose byegeranijwe, kandi bireke kera.
Rero, guhitamo bikomeje kuba ibyawe. Mumenye ko umuntu uri iruhande rwawe ntabwo ari umudendezo mwiza, ko akeneye inkunga no kugira uruhare. Haba mubyukuri menya neza ko ubu buryo budakwiriye kuri wewe, igice.
Ibyo ari byo byose, nta "bumagi" cyangwa uburyo rusange bwo gukemura ikibazo nk'iki. Ku muntu, kuba "uwahoze" bihunze mu kwibeshya, ku muntu - urukundo rutarangiye, nta muntu ugiye kurangiza. Kubantu, ni inzira yo gusa kuba nziza: komeza ukundwa nyuma yikiruhuko gikomeye. Kandi kumuntu nuburyo bwo guhangana na divayi mugutandukana.
Ikintu nyamukuru nugusobanura uko ibintu bimeze, bidakwiriye kurema ikinamico.
Maria Dyachkova (Zebekova), Umuganga wa psychologue, Umuvuzi wumuryango, Umuvuzi wumuryango hamwe namahugurwa Yumuryango Yambere Yikigo cyigisha Mariya Khazin