Alexander Poleev, psychotherapiste, imibonano mpuzabitsina, umukandida wa siyanse ya leta muri kaminuza ya Leta ya Moscou:
Ati: "Ntekereza ko mfite itariki ya mbere yimbere, umuntu wese ushaka ibitekerezo byiza. Kubwibyo, kubafatanyabikorwa bombi, nibifuzwa kuryama muburiri busukuye, byiza impumuro nziza; Umugore, birumvikana ko ari ngombwa kwambara imyenda y'imbere, kora. Kandi aya mategeko yoroshye agomba kubahirizwa mubuzima bwose, kandi atari bwa mbere gusa. Niba umuntu yikunda, biroroshye.
Kwiyitabira kwangiza imibonano mpuzabitsina kubibazo byabashakanye, ariko mubitekerezo byanjye, ntabwo byanze bikunze. Nkuko imyitozo irerekana, imibonano mpuzabitsina ya mbere ntabwo ikunze gutsinda kubintu byose: abantu, akenshi ntamenyane, abagabo badashobora guhita babona igihagararo cye no kugenda, bikatinya ko umugabo azabibona selirize ye cyangwa yatemba mascara. Abafatanyabikorwa bombi ntibakemuwe kubwirana mu buryo butaziguye, urwuri rufite urukundo ruzabashyikirizwa umunezero mwinshi. Kubwibyo, gake itariki yambere izana orgasm byibuze umwe mubaburanyi. Inama zanjye rero: Uhe amahirwe andi cyangwa menshi yo kwiyerekana nyuma yambere.
Niba abantu babaye abafatanyabikorwa basanzwe cyangwa abashakanye, birumvikana ko bakeneye gukomeza kubikurikira - reka tuvuge, kwiyuhagira gusa mbere yimibonano mpuzabitsina gusa, ahubwo ni mbere yo kuryama bidatera kwanga umukunzi we. Ariko, isano ndende ifite umutego wayo rwose - Kurambirwa imibonano mpuzabitsina, biboneka hafi imyaka ibiri kubana. Umugore w'imbere uwo ari w'imyenda yakoraga, nubwo yayigishije imisatsi, nubwo wa muntu yishyuye gute ifishi ye, ntabwo bitwitirira "ubutayu buryamana." Kugirango udakonja kugeza kuri buri wese, ugomba kwiga kuvugana hagati yibyifuzo byawe byumva hamwe nibitekerezo. Kandi. Ntibishoboka kwigana orgasm - bitabaye ibyo, kwitiranya ibinyoma byabo, aho bigoye kwemera umufatanyabikorwa.
Fashanya bahishurwa mu mibonano mpuzabitsina! Bitabaye ibyo, byogejwe neza, byambaye kandi bihumura kandi bihumura ", ibicurane nibiyobyabwenge birashobora gusinzira rwose munsi yigitambaro.
Anna Checkkevich, imyitozo ya psychologue, psychotherapiste:
Ati: "Kandi abatangiye kubaka ubuzima bwabo bwite, n'abashaka kubyemeza, kugirango birinde gutenguha ndagira inama. Witondere uko uri, - N'imibereho yacu ", n'umubiri wawe. Kurera izo guterwa ntibiterwa nibitekerezo rusange, gutegeka, bifatwa nkibyiza kandi bihuriweho. Fata - bisobanura gukunda umubiri wawe uko bimeze ubu. Kandi hano ibitangaza bitangira! Umugabo washoboye gutuma iyi ntambwe ikurura abantu bidasanzwe kubandi muburyo ubwo aribwo bwose. Biva mu gihome kidasanzwe. Abantu bishimye ndetse bahumura nkumwihariko!
Imyumvire myiza ubwayo ntabwo ishingiye kumakuru yo hanze. Byaragaragaye ko mubuhanga byagaragajwe ko mubakobwa bafite isura yicyitegererezo hari abibwira ko ari babi, bafite icyubahiro gito hamwe namahirwe mabi murukundo. Kubyerekeranye kubwimpamvu runaka ubibona nkaho bidashimishije. Kandi benshi mu bakobwa buzuye bumva ubwiza, n'inshuti zabo n'abo bazirana kubana nabo, bitandukanye.
Nigute rero kwitwara kumunsi wawe wa mbere kugirango ukurura umuntu kandi nka we mugihe kizaza? Igisubizo kiroroshye cyane: mubisanzwe! Umuntu wese arihariye kandi yihariye. Niba uruhutse, utabizi, noneho uhoraho, kuko nta nkabo (ibyo), nta muntu wahariho. Mugihe uri karemano, ntukeneye gutsindwa no kugira uruhare rudasanzwe kuri wewe - reka tuvuge ko umushukayi. Kudatenguha umukunzi wawe birashobora kubaho mugihe utahuye nacyo (ye) ibiteganijwe. Niba usanzwe kuva intangiriro yumubano wawe kandi utagerageza kuzuza ibyifuzo byundi muntu, gutenguha ntibizavuka. Kubijyanye no kubahiriza amategeko yisuku yumuntu ... niba ukunda umubiri wawe n'umubiri wawe, ntuzigera uhindagurika - gufatwa, gukaraba, gukaraba wenyine, kwambara neza. Ntabwo ari ukubera ko ari ngombwa kubandi, ahubwo ni ukubera byinshi. "