Iki nikibazo gikunze gukemurwa kuri psychologue. Ingingo kuri interineti ivuga ko kudasinzira ari igisubizo rusange cyo guhangayika. Ibinini hamwe n'imihango mbere yuko habaho akazi ko kuryama ntabwo buri gihe bifite akamaro. Ikigaragara ni uko ibyifuzo bikunze kugaragara, inama zizwi, uburyo bwo kugabanya ibintu bitesha umutwe. Ariko niba Inkomoko yo kubaho kwimihangayiko itamenyekanye, noneho ingamba zizaba zigihe gito.
Ndashaka gusuzuma impamvu nyinshi zo kudasinzira mubikorwa byawe bwite.
Umugore yaje aho ndi, ntabwo ari na gato kubera kudasinzira, ariko byagaragaye ko yacika intege. Byaragaragaye ko umukiriya wanjye yari meza cyane. Bikabije - kuko kwigirira nabi. Niwe wabwira umugabo we umuhungu we umuhungu we umuhungu, Mama, nyirabukwe, umutware, abo mukorana, inshuti. Byaragaragaye ko abona umunezero we bishoboka ari uko bose banyurwa. Kandi ibi ni umutwaro uremereye - ubeho kugirango ushimishe abandi. Mwijoro, yishora mu kuba yatekereje ku ngamba, kuko ari byiza kumenyera no gushimisha. Birumvikana ko, atari byo bidakora. Nigute ubwenge bushobora gusinzira niba bugomba kuba maso kugeza igihe abantu bose babaye beza. Gusinzira kwe nigisubizo cyo kwiheba, kwinjiza cyane mubuzima bwabandi bantu. N'ubundi kandi, umunezero ni ikibazo cya buri wese, kandi yatekereje kugeza igihe tuvuganaga n'uruziga rwe hafi. Ku bijyanye na bo, yibeshye ko ari inshingano ze. Kandi kudasinzira bizamuherekeza kugeza igihe atangiye guha inshingano zishingiye ku byishimo byabo mubuzima.
Urundi rubanza ni imbaraga nyinshi zigomba gushyirwa mubikorwa. Kandi nyirubwite arabyanga bidafite ishingiro. Akenshi, abantu bigaragara ko batabyiniraho ubucuruzi bwabo. Akenshi ni abakozi beza b'ibwoko runaka mu buryo busanzwe mu ibanga banga umwuga wabo. Byongeye kandi, bafite inzozi nziza: Mu bugingo bazi icyo bashaka gukora, ariko ntizigire ibyago. Noneho kudasinzira nigisubizo cyingufu zituje, zibaha nkimpano kubibazo byazo, umuhamagaro wubugingo bwabo. Kandi ibi birahamagarira kwirengagiza kubera gahunda, ibitera amababi kandi bidafite ishingiro kandi batinya ko biri murwego rwo ubwabo. Nko nk'urugero, umukobwa umwe ukiri muto warose kuba umutsima akora mumeza yemewe.
Kuva aho yemeye gukora ubucuruzi bwe bwite, ikibazo cya Ssimnia cyarazimiye na gato. Yatangiye no kuryama amasaha make, kuko ubuzima bwe bwari imbaraga nyinshi, agarura no gutanga imbaraga, nko gusinzira neza.
Ahari impamvu nyamukuru itera kudasinzira ari uguhangayikishwa cyane. Umuntu ariho "kurwana" yiteguye. Inkomoko y'iterabwoba ntirihari, cyangwa ahubwo, ihari ahantu hose, kubera ko atari ukuri, ariko mu bitekerezo byayo bibi. Adrenaline, yatewe mumaraso hamwe na buri gitekerezo, ntabwo yemerera gutuza no kuruhuka. Hamwe nicyiciro nkiyi, birashoboka ko arikintu gikomeye. Ikigaragara ni uko guhangayikishwa cyane ari ibisubizo byuko abantu nkabo babayeho imyaka myinshi "kumugaragaro", urugero, hamwe na mwene wabo - umugabo wijimye cyangwa umubyeyi wumugore. Biragoye kuruhuka, nkuko voltage ihoraho yigeze kubafasha gukangurira gukangurira. No gufasha abantu nkabo mubibazo bya kudasinzira, birakenewe witonze kandi muburyo bwo kubigisha gutuza. Kubwuyu, imigenzo yubuhumekeshwa nuburyo bwo gutekereza irakwiriye bifasha kwibanda ku byiyumvo byabo bifasha kubyara umusaruro.
Ibyo ari byo byose, kudasinzira ni ibimenyetso byerekana ko imbaraga zawe zimena aho zikwiye kuyiyobora. Kudasinzira nikimenyetso cyo gusubiramo imirimo yayo bwite no kwibanda kubuzima bushya.
Maria Dyachkova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yibikorwa byimikurire yimyidagaduro Marika Khazin