Tuba mu isi ihinduka vuba, aho uyu munsi ukina uruhare rw'umukobwa woroshye kandi utishoboye, kandi ejo haza igihe gikomeye kandi cyigenga. Ahari, nta na rimwe mu mateka y'abantu bakomeye bahinduwe vuba: mu kinyejana gishize, uburenganzira bwacu, umubano w'urukundo n'urugero byakorewe gusubirwamo. Ntibitangaje kubona benshi mu rujijo gusa kandi batumva uburyo bwo gukora kugirango batasa neza kandi ibicucu.
Steemeotypes, stereotypes, stereotypes ... uyumunsi, abaturage batera imbere barayabuza, kandi muburyo bwinshi sosiyete yateye imbere ifite icyiza: Abagabo bashyizwemo imyitwarire myiza: abagabo n'abana, gutukana rimwe na rimwe birababaje, gutukana , gukandamiza. Ariko mubyukuri, nta kibi kiri mubintu byanditse stereo, kuko ni ishusho gusa yukuntu. Ifasha gusoma vuba "" na "umunyamahanga", adakoresheje ibikoresho nigihe rusange ntabwo aribi rwose.
Birakenewe kumenya ukuri: Mubidukikije, ntamuntu numugabo numugore byagumye, nubwo byumvikana gute
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Igihe kimwe n'imibereho, stereotypes irahinduka, birasanzwe. Noneho amashusho yose yuburenganzira n "" icyiza "arabyumva cyane kandi agasuzuguro, kandi iyi ni inzira nziza, ariko ndende kandi ndende kandi igoye kandi igoye. Biragaragara ko abadafite uruhare runini mu guhindura imyumvire, urujijo: Niki cyasaga nkumyaka iboneye, kibazwa n'ikimwaro. Kurugero, niba byari bisanzwe rwose mbere, byafatwaga nkutegereje kuva muri cavalier yo kwishyura fagitire kumugoroba uhuriweho nimugoroba muri cafe, uyumunsi azafatwa neza nkubujura. Ese umuryango - cyangwa uzatuka umugore watekereje ku bushakashatsi mu kimenyetso cyiza? Umugabane wingengo yimiryango? Bizajya mu itegeko cyangwa gusaba umukunzi kuri ibi? Reka duhangane nibyo twanze nibyo tujya.
Abakobwa b'umuhungu
Noneho ...
1. Hanyuma. Twese twarezwe muri Parariyal Paradigm: Umugabo ni umunyamahanga, umutunzi wibanze. Iyi moderi irashaje hafi nkisi ubwayo, ariko igomba kwemerwa ko noneho iminsi ye isuzumwa.
2. Noneho. Sisitemu urwego no guhinduka kwayo, amahame mashya namategeko - ibyo tubona ubu. Kubera iyo mpamvu, birashoboka kubahiriza abasabirizi bagaragara - imibereho ikaze, niyihe Zano irengerwa uburenganzira bwabo. Hamwe na bo, hariho kandi abahawe impungenge badashaka guhinduka.
3. Hanyuma. Usanzwe uyumunsi urashobora kwiyumvisha uburyo icyitegererezo cyuburinganire kizasa mugihe kitimukanwa. UBURENGANZIURANU BUKURIKIRA Inshingano zingana, kuko serivisi ziri mu ngabo, iteka nibindi "igitsina" bishobora guhinduka.
Twese dukomoka mu bwana, kandi niho dukuramo iyo moderi yimyitwarire, tuzakurikiza tukuze. Igabana risobanutse mu bagore n'abagabo biba mu rubyiruko, nubwo umwana muri imyaka itatu kandi runini afite imyaka itatu aracyariho, ni ayahe manywa afite - abahungu cyangwa inkumi. Ariko ba se benshi baracika intege, bamenye ko abahungu babo bishimiye kubana nigipupe cyangwa gutwara iduka - erega, ni "abakobwa"! "Ni nde uzakura niba akina na Barbie aho kuba umupira?" - Fata ba se bato, guhungabanya no guhangayikishwa n'ejo hazaza h'umwana wabo. Mububabujijwe nta bikinisho cyangwa imyambaro bidafite ibikinisho gusa cyangwa imyambaro gusa, ahubwo no kwigaragaza ibyiyumvo byabantu bato. Kunita, gushimishwa, kugwa muri hysterics - mu ijambo, kwerekana amarangamutima nkabana, atari umuntu uzamenya uko yiboneye: Ntabwo ari umuntu ukurura imyumvire yimyitwarire: Ntibishoboka kwerekana - Ntibishoboka kwerekana intege nke - birashoboka kwerekana intege nke - ntibishoboka gutanga abakobwa gutanga kandi kurushaho, nibindi.
Ni aronse na etaje nke: Mu by'ukuri, ababyeyi biragoye akozwe mu bakobwa ba nymph nke gitabara, batashakaga kwumira kurangurura guseka, amajwi cyangwa vuba kwiruka, kurwanya cyangwa akajagari hirya mu umwanda. "Uri umukobwa!" - Ibibujijwe byose na kirazira bikubiye kuriyi nteko. Abakobwa ntibakwiriye kwirukana umupira, kurasa luka, kurwana - bityo rero abakobwa bajya muri ballet, umuziki, gythics gymnastics. Nka nkoni bashaka kubyina, bahabwa ibice bya siporo.
Umuntu azavuga ati: Bati: Ababyeyi bazi byinshi. Yoo, ariko sibyo. Muri iki gihe, abahanga mu by'imitekerereze bahishwa ko abana bavutse - imiterere ku giti cye, kandi ni ngombwa kwiga kubaha ibyifuzo byabo hakiri kare bishoboka. Ibi, by, by, intambwe nini muri psychologie yubumuntu - no kuyikora, ikiremwamuntu cyafashe imbaraga nyinshi. Noneho ababyeyi benshi kandi benshi bahitamo uburyo bwa demokarasi bw'imyitwarire ijyanye n'abavandimwe, bagerageza kudakurikiza ibyifuzo byabo, ahubwo ni inyungu z'umwana n'inyungu z'umwana.
Tuvuge iki ku nshingano z'uburinganire? Yoo, ntabwo ari byiza cyane. Gutinya ko kubera ipantaro yijimye cyangwa mu bipupe, umuhungu azaba "bake cyane ndetse no mu babyeyi batera imbere, bityo rero turacyahinga abana ba paradisiti ikomeye y'umugabo n'abagore.
Kuva Guhindura Ahantu
Byasa, ni ikihe kibazo kirimo? Ariko ugomba kumenya ukuri: Mubidukikije, nta mugabo numugore bagumye, nubwo byumvikana gute. Ntabwo uhakana ibintu bya physiologique (byaba ari ibicucu kandi birasekeje kwitwaza ko turi kimwe), umuryango utera imbere ugerageza uburenganzira bungana nabanywanyi. Umuntu wa kijyawe aradutangaza cyane niba ubaye mubijyanye nakazi gasanzwe k'umugabo cyangwa ku mugore cyangwa inshingano: Umuntu wese arashobora gukora ibyo ashaka, kandi adashobora kutumvikana cyangwa ngo atungane. Muri Finlande, igihe kinini gishize, umugore ni umunyamuryango wuzuye w'ubuzima bw'imibereho n'ubuzima bwa politiki: ku nteko ishinga amategeko y'igihugu, Eduskunt, yahoraga itorwa n'abadamu benshi, kandi rimwe na rimwe umubare wabo urenze umubare wa abagabo (ninde washobora kwiyumvisha ikintu nkiki?). Umukobwa uyobora ibirori (Ukuntu Anderson yo muri Finlande akamwe) ntabwo ari igitangaza kandi ntabwo ari ukuri ukundi, ariko scandinaviya. Abagabo baba abahanzi beza cyane, imisatsi yimisatsi - kwibuka nubwo akunda Hollywood Chris McMillana cyangwa Serzh Norman.
Ibintu byose bimeze neza, ariko kugeza ubu ntabwo - oya kandi tureba kare kumusore dushishikajwe nubuhanga bwa manicure, cyangwa umukobwa urota kuba umutware. Byongeye kandi, ishyano, ariko mu bihugu by'uwahoze ari USSR, igipimo cy'abagore kiri ku kigereranyo kiri munsi y'abagabo, nubwo badafite imyanya mikuru kandi bagakora imirimo imwe n'imwe mu buryo bw'imibonano mpuzabitsina.
Umugabo numugore ba none ntabwo arimwe, ariko bingana
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Ibiganiro byabereye muri twe bigoye cyane birahinduka, kandi nibi nibisanzwe: ntugomba kugerageza gushyikirana nawe mumunsi umwe. Nigute? Kugerageza kumva no kubyemera: Nukuri, buriwese afite ubwenge, kandi umuntu uri hafi arashobora kureba icyiza, ariko ikibi. Ku bijyanye n'abantu b'abandi, fata byinshi cyangwa bike byoroshye, ariko iyo iperereza ryagaragaye mubantu bakunda - mubana, mu nshuti, mu bafatanyabikorwa, tumaze kwigaragambya. Ni ngombwa guhangana n'ibyamamare by'imbere, ntibikemurwa no kutamenyekana ku bantu ukunda: uko byagenda kose, ntawe uzabikora, ariko kutizera kandi kuba maso hagati yawe bizagaragara rwose.
Igorofa ikomeye, hasi idakomeye ...
Kuva mu biganiro byinshi - gukora imyitozo. Twabonye ko turi hagati yisi ihinduka, kandi hano impinduka zadukozeho kugiti cyacu. Urugero rushyira mu gaciro kandi rufite ishingiro: Wahambiriye kumenyana shyashya. Kandi bimaze hariho ibibazo. Ninde wegereye (wanditse, witwa) uwambere? Nigute "byemewe" ubu? N'ubundi kandi, mbere, abakobwa biyubashye ntibashobora kwerekana ingamba; Yakomeje kwiyoroshya gusa kurasa mumaso no kumwenyura mu buryo butangaje (nibyiza bucece). Reka tunywe burundu kandi duhabirure: ibishoboka byose! Ntamuntu uzagushinja kuzamurwa mu ntera, niba ukora intambwe yambere yambere - cyangwa umukozi wawe cyangwa societe yitonze.
Noneho igihe kirageze. Ninde ushobora guhitamo ahantu? Wibuke, twubaka uburinganire, rero twumva neza kuganira kumahitamo na cavalier, dutanga ibitekerezo byacu. Nkibisubizo byimishyikirano, hitamo icyerekezo ukunda byombi. Ikibazo cyoroshye kuri konti ntikirabona igisubizo kimwe. Byaba byiza, ugomba gushyikirana "ku nkombe" - bityo uzarinda ububi. Kurikiza Amategeko yoroshye: Wiringire wowe ubwawe no kumafaranga yawe. Ntabwo bikwiye kuvura uwo tuziranye, ariko nanone gutegereza ko azagurira ifunguro rya nimugoroba, ntukabe. Ntabwo uri guhuzwa na uzami ikomeye, ntubizi kandi kubyerekeye buri yandi yinjiza. N'ubundi kandi, ntutegereje ko uzafatwa n'inshuti mwahuye no kunywa ikawa, cyangwa mugenzi wawe ugendera mu biro byabereye icyayi?
Mugihe kizaza, niba inama idasanzwe izakura mubindi, ikibazo cyimari kigomba kuganirwaho ukwayo kandi neza. Ntakintu giteye ubwoba kandi kidasanzwe muganira ku ngingo - Byongeye kandi, ibyo biganiro ni ingirakamaro, bashimangira icyizere. Buri mugabo n'umugore babaho nkuko bigaragara kandi bwiza kuri we, bityo ntaho bihamye nibisubizo. Ukunda igitekerezo cyingengo yimari isanzwe? Cyangwa ni hafi kandi zumvikana igitekerezo cyo kugira amafaranga yawe "ujugunya" nibiba ngombwa? Urahawe ikaze! Ikintu nyamukuru nuko abafatanyabikorwa bombi bemeranya nigikoresho cyumuryango.
Niba ugiye kumunsi wambere, uracyahitamo uko bafitanye na konti imwe, umushahara! Ntutegereze imbabazi umuntu utagira ubwenge, umwizere n'ibitekerezo bye ku byiza. Amaherezo, ntabwo ategetswe kuri wewe.
Niba imyifatire yumukunzi ushoboka yerekeza kuburenganzira ninshingano bingana kuri wewe kandi ntibikwiranye, ntugomba kwizera ko ari umwete watsinze.
Birashoboka guhindura umuntu murubanza rumwe - hamwe nicyifuzo cyayo gishyushye kandi kirambye. Bitabaye ibyo, itandukaniro ribibona rigomba gukaraba ibyombo rwose bizatuganisha ku gutukwa.
Nkuko, abagabo barwaye cyane imyumvire, hafi yamaze kwizihira, ariko ndetse no ku gihe kugeza igihe bizamura umutwe. Tuvuge, byanze bikunze, kubyerekeye ishusho yubuvuzi bwanze / gucukura, muburyo bwose butanga umuryango. Birumvikana ko umufatanyabikorwa ushoboye "gupfukirana inyuma" hamwe na kavukire ye mugihe umufatanyabikorwa wa kabiri asigaye nta mibereho, ni amahitamo meza, ahubwo akoresha nkana ijambo ritabogamye "umufatanyabikorwa". Inshingano zo kuba abashakanye neza, ntibashobora kwihanganira umuntu gusa, kandi nta mugizi wa nabi. Bamwe mu bahagarariye "imbaraga" (ikindi kintu, munzira) bahanganye neza nubuyobozi bwurugo. Kandi ni nde, mu binyejana byinshi, ibinyejana byinshi byishora mu nzu n'abana, bazi ubwoko bugoye kandi w'ingenzi! Ntugatererane urujinda rw'uwo mwashakanye mugihe winjiza bihagije kandi udakunda gushinja icyari. Wibuke: Umuntu wese arashobora guhangana nibyo abeshya ubugingo.
Yakoresheje nian
UBURENGANZIRA Bungana basubiza inshingano bangana, kubera ko serivisi ziri mu ngabo, iteka nibindi "igitsina" bishobora guhinduka
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N'inzira, ku bana. Mu Burayi, by the way, mbere gato yo mu Burusiya, kureba umubyeyi yamaze guhinduka. Kwita ku bana byaretse inshingano zo kubyara gusa - kugeza igihe umugore adashobora kuva ku kazi mu kiruhuko cyo kubyara (keretse niba ugomba gutinyuka gutinyuka mugihe cyo kuvuka mu buryo butaziguye), kandi icyemezo kizajya kumugabo we. Mu gihugu cyacu, ubu buryo burasa nkibyinshi, kubishyira mu gatonga, butangaje - Mwaramutse, stereotypes! Nubwo bitabaye ibyo, niba kuva mu bwana umuhungu yasobanukiwe ko mubyukuri hariho inshingano agomba gusohoza, ariko nibyo umugore we agomba gukora?
Kuva hano umubare munini w'abana bibaye mu myaka itatu ya mbere: Ababyeyi bato ntibashobora kubyemera, umubyeyi uherutse gutuma "aruhutse" (Uku ni ko sosiyete isa naho ariho, kandi muri Umugoroba, utaha, bisaba ifunguro rya nimugoroba n'umutuzo. Mu muryango aho inshingano zo gutandukanya atari yo, kandi ababyeyi bari abafatanyabikorwa bose, abana bamenyere ubundi buryo bw'imyitwarire - ingamba zifashanya n'inkunga. Kubona neza ubufatanye biregwa nkubucuruzi busanzwe, aho buri wese ashinzwe buri.
Twaguye mugihe gishimishije kandi kitoroshye: Twitegereje urwego rwa sisitemu kandi hari ukuntu bitabira inzira ishimishije yo guhindura inshingano zuburinganire. Ntutinye cyangwa ngo ugabanye. Wibuke ko impinduka ari ishingiro ryubuzima, ryibande ku bwenge, wemera ubushishozi n'ibyifuzo byawe. N'ubundi kandi, niba uyikurikiye, rwose uzakikijwe nabo ubwabo bifuzaga kubona muruzinduko rwabo rwa hafi.