Mubuzima bwa buri muryango, kimwe nubuzima bwimibereho, hari ibihe byibibazo. Kandi akenshi kwivuguruza cyane mumuryango ukure kuburyo abantu bigeze gukundana bahindukirira abanyamahanga rwose, ndetse no mubanzi babi. Nk'uko imibare yemewe, 65% by'ubukwe mu Burusiya bwacitse mu 2018. Niba ubitekerezaho, ni imibare itabishaka: Imiryango irenga kimwe cya kabiri cy'Uburusiya ntabwo yatsinze ikizamini ku mbaraga. Byongeye kandi, igice kinini cyubukwe gitendukira mumyaka yambere yo kubaho.
Impamvu eshatu zingenzi zo gutandukana, ukurikije imibare imwe - ubukene no kudashobora kugaburira umuryango, kudashoboka no kudashaka no kubarana, ubuhemu nabafatanyabikorwa bafatanyabikorwa. Izi mpamvu zimwe zirashobora kwitwa ibintu byingenzi zigena ikibazo mumibanire yumuryango, hamwe nibiranga gusa ko ubuhemu bwaba ariho, ingaruka zo kutanyurwa na mugenzi wawe cyangwa amarangamutima , igitsina).
Umuhanga mu by'imitekerereze y'Abaroma Talanov
Birashoboka gutandukanya byinshi mubintu bibi cyane mubijyanye no kubaho mubibazo byimibanire yicyiciro cyubuzima bwumuryango. Mbere ya byose, uyu ni umwaka wambere ubana aho abashakanye bamenyereye (cyangwa batamenyereye) kubana. Umwanya wa kabiri uteye akaga ni ivuka ryumwana numwaka uramukurikira - bibiri. Muri iki gihe niho bigira uruhare runini cyane. Ikibazo cya gatatu nimyaka 7-8 yubukwe. Ikibazo cya kane ni imyaka 15-20 z'Ubukwe, iyo abana bakuze, abashakanye barakura, ntabwo babuze gusa, ahubwo banabura kubaho mu muryango.
Biragoye cyane gutanga inama zo gutsinda ikibazo mumibanire, nkuko buri muryango uri kugiti cye. Umubano wa buri jambo ufite ibiranga kandi aho akanama kamwe gakwiye kandi icyitegererezo kimwe cyibikorwa ntibishobora kuzana ibindi byifuzo. Ibyingenzi cyane kurwanya ikibazo mubusabane nubushobozi bwo gutega amatwi no kuganira. Umubano uwo ari wo wose w'abantu hagati - ubwoko bwa diplomasi. Birakenewe kubashakanye, mbere, kugirango umenye kuboneka kukibazo, naho icya kabiri, kwiga gutuza gutuza no gufata uko ufata uwo mukundana, kabone niyo yaba itandukanye niyawe, icya gatatu - ntabwo ari ugukora Kuvuga ibisubizo bikubiye mumarangamutima, icyaha gito.
Ahari ikibazo gisa nuwatsinze, mubyukuri kivuga gusa ko umubano wawe wumuryango ukeneye guhinduka gato, bisuzumwa. Muri icyo gihe, ni ngombwa cyane kudakora umubano wumuryango mubiganiro rusange, ntukemere ko abavandimwe cyangwa inshuti nabakobwa bakobwa kugirango bamenye imyitwarire yawe, bigira ingaruka kubyemezo byawe. N'ubundi kandi, ubuzima bwawe gusa nubuzima!
Ikintu cyingenzi mubuzima bwumuryango uwo ariwo wose ni umuzimu wije. Niba abashakanye batakaje inyungu zabo muriki kibazo, ubwo umuryango nkuwo uzarimburwa haba kubora kumugaragaro, cyangwa gukomeza umubano hagati yabanyamahanga babiri. Muri societe ya none, ntakintu cyimye muganira kubibazo hagati yubuzima bwimibonano mpuzabitsina, menya impamvu zabo, gerageza kubikemura muburyo bwemewe.
Birumvikana ko umugore numugabo we ari ngombwa cyane mubuzima bwabo hamwe kugirango "bakomeze amajwi" kugirango bashimishe igice cyabo cya kabiri. Guhindura ubuzima bwumuryango mubikorwa, mu nshingano zirambiranye biganisha ku gikona. Kubwibyo, vugana byinshi hamwe nibindi byinshi, uzane ikintu gihuriweho - ni ikintu gikunze guhuriza hamwe abashakanye nkuko bidashoboka, kubahana kandi ntushake ibisubizo byibibazo byumuryango wawe kuruhande.