Hatabayeho imibonano mpuzabitsina biragoye kwiyumvisha umubano uhuza kandi ufite ubuzima bwiza muri couple. Ubucuti bwimbitse bugira uruhare mu kurema amarangamutima hagati yabantu babiri, kandi agafasha kandi umubiri kuguma muburyo bwiza.
Ariko, akenshi byananirana mubuzima bwimibonano mpuzabitsina, kubera ko imibonano mpuzabitsina ishobora kuva mumezi menshi. Twahisemo kumenya icyo kwifata igihe kirekire bishobora kuganisha.
Gutezimbere indwara
Dukurikije ibisubizo byubushakashatsi, imibonano mpuzabitsina isanzwe idufasha kubabaza byibuze inshuro eshatu kenshi. Usibye kuzamura ubudahangarwa, igitsina kigira uruhare mu kuzenguruka amaraso mu gitereko gito, kubera ko ibyago byo guteza imbere Uturi bigabanuka kuri zeru. Byongeye kandi, ukurikije abagore ubwabo, imihango imbere yimibonano mpuzabitsina isanzwe ntabwo iba ibabaje. Ingaruka nziza zo guhuza ibitsina ntizigaragara gusa kubagore gusa, ahubwo ni kimwe cya kabiri: abagabo barashobora kandi kubaho mu nzego z'igice gito, bigira ingaruka mbi ku ireme ry'intanga no gutera ibibazo no gusama.
Kugabanya inyungu mubuzima no kwiyongera kurakara
Mugihe c'imibonano mpuzabitsina, itanga urugero runini rwibyishimo, bituma umubiri uruhuka no kuyobora leta ya psychologiya murutonde. Imibonano mpuzabitsina ifata imwe mu mwanya wa mbere mu rutonde rw'ubu buryo bwo gukuraho imihangayiko: abantu barwaye kurakara barushaho gukemurwa kugira ngo bakemure ikibazo cyangwa imibonano mpuzabitsina, aho gukoresha ibiyobyabwenge. Ntukavuge kubyerekeye kwiyubaha mubantu bafite imibonano mpuzabitsina mubuzima bwimibonano mpuzabitsina, niba uhuye nigitutu gihoraho mumutwe uvanze, birashoboka ko bikwiye gukora kugirango ugaragaze ubuzima bwimbitse?
Nta Daix iganisha ku mitekerereze ya psychologiya
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Ibibazo na Libido
Imibonano mpuzabitsina ihoraho muri couple ifasha kwirinda ibibazo nibyifuzo bisanzwe, bishobora kandi ikuzimu niba imibonano mpuzabitsina iba idasanzwe mubuzima bwawe. Ukurikije imibare, abantu birinda gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina cyangwa igihe cyo kwemerera kubura by'agateganyo bumva ko igihe kigeze, kandi birashoboka cyane ko ikuzimu. Byose bijyanye na psychologiya yacu, muburyo bumwe "bukuraho" mubitekerezo bitari ngombwa. Garuka ushishikajwe n'imibonano mpuzabitsina nyuma yo kubura igihe kirekire ntabwo byoroshye, akenshi ugomba kwitabaza ubufasha bwinzobere.
Umubano urakabije
Nkuko twabivuze, muri couple, igihe kinini kibaho mugihe kirekire kidahuye, ntizishira gusa, ahubwo kikanirwa nibindi bice bisigaye. Kubagore, ni ngombwa bidasanzwe kumva amarangamutima numufatanyabikorwa, biba bidashoboka niba nta mibonano mpuzabitsina amezi menshi. Umugabo kandi areka kumva ko akunda imitekerereze ya psychologiya ku mugore we, kubera iyo mpamvu, abashakanye batangira gutongana no kumena uburakari. Impaka ndende zirashobora kutagenda nabi umubano, ariko nanone biganisha ku gutukwa.