Dr. Ubumenyi bwa Kaminuza ya Calgary Chitter yavuzweho ko ari ukuri: "Abana ntibakangura mu gihe cy'imyaka cumi n'itatu hamwe n'umunsi werakaje. Ndetse n'abana bato bazi imibonano mpuzabitsina, ariko muburyo butandukanye gusa. " Mubyukuri, inzira yubugimbi bwumwana itangira kuva akivuka - hamwe no gukoraho igituza cya nyina no kudashaka kwambara gutembera. Hamwe n'imyaka, imibonano mpuzabitsina ibona ubundi buryo bushingiye ku gushaka ubumenyi buva hafi n'ibitabo byihariye. Umaze kuba umubyeyi, ugomba kumva icyo bikwiye kandi utagomba gukora kugirango uzamure umwana wamurike kandi utari muto.
Paul Yerejwe atangira kuva akivuka
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Tangira Ubugimbi
Akimara kuvuka, imyumvire yumwana ntabwo itarahinduka amategeko yimyitwarire muri societe, azaba mumyaka yakurikiyeho. Abaganga bavuze inshuro nyinshi ko icyifuzo cy'umwana cyo kwiga umubiri we kidakeneye kubonwa nko gutandukana mu iterambere ryayo. Munsi yimyaka 4, kuko abana basanzwe bakora ahantu habo hafi, ndetse no mubantu; icyifuzo cyo gukora kuri Mamako cyangwa abandi bagore; Witondere witonze imibiri yabandi mugihe umwana aguye ahantu rusange. Ntubwire umwana kwigire kandi urebe abandi - ari ibishishwa, bitabaye ibyo, akwanga kwanga umubiri we kuva akiri muto. Nibyiza gusubiza ibibazo bisanzwe bijyanye nimpamvu imibiri yabahungu nabakobwa itandukanye. Niba udashobora kubisobanura wenyine, shakisha ubufasha kubuvanganzo - ubu hariho ibitabo byiza kuri iyi ngingo kubana bafite imyaka itandukanye.
Kureka akarere wenyine
Mfite imyaka 4-6, abana bagaragaza ko bashishikajwe n'inzego zabo zishingiye ku mibonano mpuzabitsina, ariko bakaba bataramenya ibyo yitwa. Ntukibuza umwana kwigira, ariko sobanura icyo utagomba gukora ibi hamwe nabantu. Ndetse nibyiza, niba uvuze ibyerekeye anatomiya yimiterere yumugabo numugabo imyanya ndangagitsina yumugabo kurugero rwibishushanyo bya schematike hanyuma usobanure ibyibanze byamashuri yimibonano mpuzabitsina. Kurugero, kugirango ashobore kumukoraho, cyangwa abantu ba hafi mugihe cyisuku na muganga mugihe cyo kugenzura. Nibyo, ni ingingo itoroshye, ariko gufunga amaso no kwiringira igitangaza. Nk'uko ninde, hafi 20% byabakobwa na 5-10% byabahungu bakorerwa urugomo mubana. Ibyiza, niba unyuze muri wewe kandi usobanure amategeko yumutekano wumwana.
Niba atariteguye kuvuga wenyine, tanga gusoma igitabo hamwe numwana
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Wige kuvuga neza
Gusobanura ibibazo byo gutangaza, gerageza kuvuga bisanzwe kandi ntugaragaze amarangamutima meza. Guseka kubibazo byumwana cyangwa gusetsa ku nsanganyamatsiko yo kwera - ntabwo ari igikorwa cyiza. Ku myaka 7-12, abana basanzwe bashishikajwe cyane ninsanganyamatsiko, igaragarira nkimikino hamwe nubusambanyi - amacupa "," icupa "," abakobwa ba mama "nabandi. Ku myaka 13-16, abana batangiye kwerekana kumugaragaro abo mudahuje igitsina. Ntutinye gutangira kuvugana ningimbi mugihe abantu bakora imibonano mpuzabitsina, uburyo bwo kwirinda gutwita badashaka kandi ni ayahe mahame agomba kuyoborwa muntangiriro yubuzima bwimibonano mpuzabitsina. Nk'uko uruhinja rw'igihugu gihungabana ku mwana, mu bushakashatsi buherutse gukorwa ku rubyiruko rwabanyamerika, abantu 9 kuri 10 bavuze ko byabanyorohera gusabira ibikorwa by'imibonano mpuzabitsina no gukumira inda zidashaka niba bashobora kuvuga ababyeyi babo kuri izi ngingo.
Ufite amashuri yimibonano mpuzabitsina hamwe numwana wawe binyuze mubitabo nibiganiro byawe bwite? Andika igitekerezo cyawe mubitekerezo bikurikira.