Mu mijyi minini, iyi miterere yimibanire yakiriwe cyane kuruta uko biri hanze. Injyana y'umujyi, kubaka umwuga, yakuweho na gahunda n'iminsi myinshi nkaho byatsindishiriza "umubano w'ubuntu" kandi bikaba byiza cyane ugereranije no kurema umuryango.
Iya kabiri ibona ko itakemuka yabantu babiri kubabana, kuvuka kwabana no gushyigikirwa, nkukurire no kwishingikiriza kubakunzi.
Umubano wubusa wemerera abantu gukomeza kwigenga kwa buriwese nubwigenge. Yita ku mabiri yacu, yishora mu byishimisha, nta nkomyi yajugunye igihe. Inyungu ziva muri ubu buryo bwimibanire. Bibaho ko abashakanye rwose babaho mumyaka, ni inshuti nziza, bagenzi bacu bagenda, kuruhuka, kwishimisha no kwishimisha, babana, ndetse no mu muryango.
Ariko umubano nk'uwo ufite amabuye y'amazi yabo. Imibare ivuga ko babiri babiri, imibanire yabo ntabwo yanditswe, igera ku manza 6-7 y'impinduka, iri hejuru ya kimwe cya kabiri. Mubukwe iyi ijanisha ryagabanutse: Hanze ya 10 zombi zihindura abafatanyabikorwa gusa muri 5.
Byongeye kandi, umubano nk'uwo urangirana no kwifuza kwa umwe mubafatanyabikorwa kurema umuryango, tubyara abana. Ku gice gihamye kandi biramba, mubyukuri, iyi mibanire yubatswe kumurima utuje abantu hagati yabo. Abafatanyabikorwa bombi biragaragara ko bashinze umupaka mugutezimbere umubano wabo (akenshi bibaho utabishaka), bitagiye kwimuka. Mugihe ugerageza umwe muribo, iri ni itegeko ryibanga ryo kumena, umubano ureka kuba mwiza kandi ushimishije.
Imitekerereze yumuryango ivuga ko icyifuzo cyo kurema umuryango ntabwo ari kashe yumuco gusa namakuru yamateka. Imbere mu muryango ufite imipaka yicaye neza, buri munyamuryango wumuryango arashobora guhaza ibyifuzo byacyo: mukwiringirwa, urukundo, iterambere, ibibi, nibindi bifatwa nkimiterere idashidikanywaho aho Ababyeyi / abafatanyabikorwa bemeye icyemezo gifatika cyo kuba hamwe no kunyura ingomaki n'imbunda ikiganza.
Mu mibanire yubuntu, iki gice cyibanze ntigihari. Ndetse no kwiringira umubano hari "bidashoboka": kwiyongera ku gihe cyangwa amazu, gutsimbarara ku ivuka ry'abana, kugira ngo bibone ishyari abana, kugira ngo babone gahunda ku gihe kizaza cya kure. Ibi byose bigira ingaruka cyane kumva ko twizewe n'umutekano. Mubyukuri, abashakanye batuye muri ubu bwoko bwimibanire bahora ari maso: mu buryo butunguranye bizarangira nonaha?
Kenshi na kenshi, umubano nk'uwo urangira kuko umwe mubafatanyabikorwa akuze mu guhanga umuryango akabona ko akwiriye uyu muntu.
Ariko, umubano wubusa, niba utabikeka igihe kirekire, nkumuhekemu wa kera, nintambwe yingirakamaro kubantu benshi. Ishimwe iyi Imiterere umubano, ushobora kwiga kubahiriza imipaka bwite undi, gutangaza ku byifuzo n'intego byacu, guteza ruhande iruhande, kugerageza imbaraga zabo bwite no mu bikorwa bararikira.
Nubwo ibyo byose bishoboka mubuzima bwumuryango, cyane cyane niba urimo ukuraho umugani wa gahunda, ubuzima nubugome bushingiye kubashakanye kuri. Ariko guhitamo buri gihe ni ibyawe!
Maria Dyachkova (Zebekova), Umuganga wa psychologue, Umuvuzi wumuryango, Umuvuzi wumuryango hamwe namahugurwa Yumuryango Yambere Yikigo cyigisha Mariya Khazin