"Yego, ubifashe gusa muri Frendzone gusa," wemera ko umugabo n'umugore ari isi ebyiri zitandukanye, bihuye n'urwego rw'umubano bwite. Ubushakashatsi bwerekana ko umukunzi wawe atari yibeshye cyane - umuhanga Bleshka uruzi rwo muri kaminuza ya Wisconsin yabajije abashakanye 88, ibaha gusubiza ibibazo. Dukurikije ibisubizo, abo bagabo bari bashishikajwe no kugirira impuhwe Abakobwa bakundana kuruta abo. Nahisemo gukemura ikibazo no gutanga amategeko y "imyitwarire yumutekano" hamwe ninshuti zabantu.
Fata neza
Mugihe mwembi utari muburyohe, biroroha kuvugana. Urashobora rero kujya gusangira hamwe ukanywa ikirahure cya divayi, utatekereje ko gusomana no guhuza ibitsina byakurikiye. Nibyiza kuganira kubitekerezo byawe hamwe ninshuti kugirango rwose umenye neza ko udafite kandi udashobora kuba ejo hazaza. Ibi byose birashoboka mugihe uri abantu babiri bakuze bubashye abantu bubaha uburenganzira bwo guhitamo ubundi kandi kudashaka kwangiza ubucuti bwimpuhwe. Nibyo, kandi niba hari abafatanyabikorwa batandukanye mu bitekerezo byawe, ntibishoboka ko bibanda ku wundi nkurubuga rwo kuramya.
Emera mu ntangiriro
Ntutangire ubucuti numuntu niba wumva ko akuyoboye. Noneho rero warababaje gusa mugihe kizaza, mugihe amarangamutima yawe yamenetse, kandi azakomeza gutungurwa no guhindura ibintu kandi azahatirwa guhagarika kuvugana nawe. Gutangira kuvugana hafi kuruta kumenyera, ni ngombwa kuganira ku bintu byose byubucuti bwawe nongeye kwemeza isano ikoreshwa. Reka mbyumve ko nta kurambagiza ku ruhande rwe, usibye umuco, nko gukingura umuryango cyangwa gufasha no kwambara ikote, ntuzafatwa.
Menyesha ikigo hamwe numusore wawe
Imashini inshuti numukunzi
Babiri basobanukiwe ko uri mu mibanire ikomeye, ntuteganya, uzemeza inshuti muribi. Birashoboka ko umusore azaba inshuti nziza yinshuti yawe uzishimira kumara umwanya wawe wubusa. Ba inyangamugayo kandi wumve neza kuvuga uburyo ukunda umufatanyabikorwa. Ntugomba guhangayikishwa nibyo inshuti izumva muri iki gihe: Niba utitaye kuri we muburyo bwimibonano mpuzabitsina, hanyuma ntarengwa azagira - umunezero kuri wewe numuntu wawe.
Guhuza umubiri
Guhobera inshuti yo gusezera - Iri ni ihame ryimyitwarire. Ariko umusome ku itama cyangwa kukwemerera kwiyongera mu ntoki - nayo. Igenzura imyitwarire yinshuti yawe: Niba wumva utamerewe neza cyangwa byibuze, bivuze ko hari ibitagenda neza kubitumanaho. Ntugafate impano n'amabara nta mpamvu, kandi niba inshuti ivuga iti: Ibi ni biyumva neza, mubyukuri tuvugana nawe kubwimpamvu udakunda itumanaho.
Shaka akantu gato
Kubyara inshuti hamwe nabakobwa bakobwa cyangwa inshuti. Akimara kubona urukundo rwe, itumanaho ryawe rizaba hafi - ibi nibisanzwe, nkuko abantu bahitamo gusangira amakuru nabafatanyabikorwa kandi noneho hamwe ninshuti. Ariko, bizagutandukanya no guhangayika kandi dukeneye gutekereza kubyo umuntu akirana nawe kugirango itumanaho, kandi atari hamwe nicyizere cyukongeza ejo hazaza.