Kaminuza - Gushyingirwa - Akazi - Abana - Gahunda isanzwe yubuzima bwabantu. Ariko ninde wakubwiye ko ugomba kujya inzira ya trotted, kandi ntukubake ubuzima kubushake bwawe bwihariye? Urugero nk'inshingano zishobora kureba ibinyejana bibiri bishize, igihe abagore bari batarumvikanye ku buringanire mu burenganzira kandi ntibarwanye imyumvire y'uburinganire. Yasobanuye impamvu zikunze kwifuza kuba nyina, kuri buri kimwe muricyo gihari ikibazo runaka cya psychologiya.
"Ngomba gukomeza ishyingiranwa ryacu ku kiguzi icyo ari cyo cyose"
Abakobwa, mukwibuka: Ntabwo havutse ivuka ryumugabo umwe umwana azakomeza mumuryango. Menyesha amategeko ya federasiyo y'Uburusiya, umugabo ntashobora gutandukana numugore mugihe atwite kandi umwaka 1 nyuma yumwana amaze kubyara, atekereza kubyo ukeneye kugirango akomeze ubukwe nk'ubwo? Niba umukunzi wawe adashaka kubana nawe, ariko witeguye gutamba imitekerereze yamenetse yumwana utaha kugirango abungabunge imyenda yubusa yigihe kizaza - ibi ni ukuvuga kutagira ubwenge bwawe. Ntugashyire umusaraba kubera gutandukana nuwo ukunda - uzahura rwose numuntu wiyubashye uzishima. Umukunzi wawe nawe afite uburenganzira bwo kwishima - Mumushimire imyaka yakoreshejwe hamwe no kurekura.
Abana ntibazagumana umuryango
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"Ubu ntazabura rwose"
Iyo umugore amenye ko kumugabo we, kuvuka k'umwana bizahinduka ibyabaye bitegerejwe, arashobora gutekereza ku nyungu bizamuzanira. Ntabwo ari ibanga kubona amajyepfo ahitamo cyane gukomeza ubwoko, bityo akagerageza guha nyina w'umwana wabo kandi umwana ubwayo ufite byose. Mu guhaha Abakunzi, ndetse nibi birashobora guhinduka imbaraga zo gusama kandi ibyo waguze byose bizandikwa kubikenewe umwana. Ariko, gukosora umugabo wahoze ugutegurwa, ntibishoboka gutsinda. Aho kuzamura amafaranga, nibyiza gutangira kwinjiza wenyine - kugirango ubashe kugura ibyo ushaka byose, ariko guhaha bizarambirwa kubera kuboneka kwa byose byagurishijwe.
"Gukora umwana - urashobora kwicara murugo"
Hariho ubwoko bwabagore badasohoka mu mateka imyaka myinshi. Aho kugira ngo nemere ko umugabo we ari ukuri kuba badashaka gukora, birororoka kwandika bidashoboka ko bitita ku bana. Umwe arahuye, indi ndogobe igana ku ruziga rw'imbyino, uwa gatatu gukusanya icya gatatu ku ishuri - bigaragara ko umunsi wose wa nyina ahugiye mu bibazo byo mu rugo. Mugihe bizakura umwana muto, umugore azegera mu gihe cy'izabukuru - ubwo ni bwo buzima bwose bwo guhangayikishwa n'ukwezi gukurikira. Kandi nubwo abantu bose bafite umudendezo muguhitamo kwe, gushaka kubaho ubuto bwawe kuburyo, tekereza kubibiri biri inyuma - ubwoba bwo gukomeza ubunebwe budakenewe cyangwa bubi?
"Amaguru ya kabiri, n'aho afata inguzanyo"
Ikintu kibabaje cyiminsi yacu ni ivuka ryumwana kugirango yongere umwanya uva cyangwa kugura inzu itandukanye yababyeyi. Nubwo politiki yo gushyigikirwa ni ngombwa rwose kandi ingirakamaro, amafaranga yose yahawe kubyara imiryango myinshi ifatwa nkibyinjije, ntabwo ari ubufasha bwimibereho. Biragaragara rero ko, gusa kubyara ababyeyi ba mbere, ababyeyi bakiri bato batangira "kugerageza" gusama n'umwana wa kabiri. Nkigisubizo, abana bafite itandukaniro rito mumyaka kora ikibazo nyacyo cyumuryango udahungabana - amafaranga kugirango abana nibintu byose bikenewe bigomba gukoresha inshuro ebyiri.
byara umwana "kuri wewe" ntabwo ari inzira
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"Umuntu wese atinya, kandi ndi igikona cyera"
Impungenge z'abagore bafite imyaka ishaje zegera 40 zisobanurwa - kuzengurutse inshuti ze zose ntibatangwa mu banza, ariko umwana wa kabiri n'uwa gatatu, kandi uracyazamura injangwe zawe mu wahoze ari umusore. Ndebye uko bishimishije, ariko bihinduka ikibazo nyacyo, imizi yicaye imbere muri wewe. Nyizera, ubifashijwemo numwana, ntuzahaza ukeneye kwita kumuntu, ariko ahubwo uzane egoist nkigisubizo cya hyperteks no kwifuza gutanga ibyiza. Nibyiza gukora ubwoba bwimbere - biri muri byo ukiri wenyine. Ubwa mbere, wishime kandi ukikunde, usanga umugabo akubereye kandi abyare umwana mumuryango, urukundo rwuzuye no kwitegura kugerageza kuzura hamwe.
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