Kwicara mu ntebe ya psychologue, kuri buri wakiriye kabiri urashobora kumva amarira, inzika, kandi rimwe na rimwe uburakari no kwigunga no kwigunga, bisa nkaho ari byiza , imiryango ifite ubwenge kandi isa nukunda.
Banyuze kuri njye, abana bakuze b'ababyeyi bakuze, baremerewe n'ibiranga byose byo gukura, bari bicaye muri iyi miryango, kuvana ku mishinga y'amategeko manini ya buri kwezi. Oya, oya, yego, no kunyerera mu majwi y'inzozi za mama, amaherezo uzayumva induru y'umwana kandi ikanafata ku mirimo, ibyerekeye papa, izahana. Ibyerekeye nyogokuru, izahagarika gukoresha kandi ku gahato, ariko guhobera gusa. Kubyerekeye abavandimwe bazahagarika gutwara, kandi bazahamagara nabo gutembera. Noneho inkuru ko gukomeretsa n'akarengane k'ubwana bukomeje ubu. Uwo Mama yarenze inama, na papa na bose, Urugero, ntirusigaye kandi ntaramwomera, naho bavandimwe, na bashiki bacu ... kuri iyi mvugo, ibyiringiro byo kunyurwa n'ibi ukeneye byibuze rimwe. Niba undi muntu, noneho ureke mugenzi wawe cyangwa abana bahangana noneho kuzimya inyota yigihe cyurukundo.
Muri benshi muri twe, umwana akomeje kubaho, asaba urukundo rwababyeyi no kumwitaho
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Nk'itegeko, ntabwo ikora. Cyangwa imirimo, ariko ntabwo ari igihe kirekire. Ijwi ryumuvumo urakaye kandi ubabaye uraguka mugihe gito.
Kenshi na kenshi, mugihe nakazi kanjye, turegera abakiriya kugeza aho ushobora gukomeza gushaka kurota, hamagara. Urashobora gukenera, urashobora gushakisha urukundo no kumenyekana. Iyi ngingo nyamukuru yacyo (umukiriya) yumuntu. Ariko akenshi kugirango urokoke gutandukana nukwiyerekana kwiyegurira bene wabo ukuze. Igitekerezo cyo kwiyegurira ngomba kurekura no kuririra. Kandi, nubwo hagaragara akababaro, gukura no gukuraho intego y'ibinyoma kugirango tunyure mu butabera bwa hafi, umunezero, urukundo no kwizerwa. Nishimiye iyo numva ikintu nk'icyo: "Nanze igitekerezo cy'uko Mama azankunda nk'uko nkeneye." Ibi bivuze ko ubu yabaye umuntu mukuru kandi ukuze, ashoboye kwiyumvisha isoko y'urukundo, kandi ntakomeze kugaburira abishingikirije kubakunzi.
Hasi nzaha inzozi zinzozi, ubu ziri mubikorwa byo gukora gahunda nkiyi, kandi, ucibwa nkuko, ari munzira yo gukira.
"Ubwoko bumwe bw'igihugu (ntabwo Uburusiya), kandi nkeneye kwinjira mu kibanza runaka. Umuhanda muto wongera ku mpanuka ya dogere 180. Ku muhanda, mu nzira aho bihutira kwihuta, barihuta hasi, guteka hejuru no kugenda. Ntabwo abantu bose basubirana umwanya wo kwiruka, bagera kuri Hejuru, bicare ku mwogo kugirango ngire imbere. Umuhanda uragoye cyane kuburyo njye, abanyamaguru , kuri yo ntabwo ari ahantu. Mfite ivarisi ku ruziga, nta nzira ya bypass, ku mpande zombi z'imihanda ibiri y'urukuta, byose birasa n'umusozi. Njya ku bundi buryo, bwuzuye Snowdrifts, ndumiwe cyane, ndende cyane, genda ahantu nyamara, ugomba gusimbuka. Nkeneye gutandukana no kunyura mumodoka yihuse icyarimwe. Ndibuka ivarisi, yahujije ibara Urubura, rwabaye rutaratagaragara, ariko namuteye kunyeganyega nyuma yanjye. Kugira ubutwari, ntangira kunyerera urubura. Bitandukanye nibyo ntegereje, ndanyerera buhoro kandi buhoro, nka shelegi yohereje, yatewe munsi yanjye, nta ngaruka ziteganijwe, ndatangaye akaga. Noneho ubu ngiye hejuru yumuhanda, kuva aho imodoka zagiye. Hano ishyamba nisoko yo hambere, igihugu cyuzuyemo amazi yashonze, kandi ibigondo byoga mu kiyaga, izuba, no kumva ko ari ubusa, amajwi yumvikana yabanyamahanga, kandi amateka ni ibyiyumvo. Naharaniye hano? Ntabwo ariho hantu.
Mu buryo butunguranye ndabona umuryango wibiti biganisha ku karere kwo hejuru cyane. Kuri njye mbona ko nzagira umutekano aho. Mumazegukingure, mama yarakinguye. Iyi ni hoteri cyangwa inzu yikiruhuko hamwe na bungalow ntoya kumusozi, hari ikintu gifitanye isano no kubyina, igihugu cyamabere. Birasa nkaho nashakaga inkweto zo kubyina.
Gusa umuntu asubirana rimwe na rimwe
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Igihe kirageze cyo kugenda, papa ajya kumara. Nasohotse ku irembo, mbona mu kirere igicu cyirabura, igihuhusi na tornado, manitse bihenze. Imbwa yanjye iri kumwe nanjye. Ndereka papa ku gicu kandi ndabyumva ko meze ko ntagenda. Papa atitaye ku gicu. Ndamusabye kuzana umutaka, yagabanije azana atitaye ku buzima bwanjye. Amaze kuzana umutaka, igicu cyabaye kibi cyane. Nahisemo ko gari ya moshi, ajya gushakisha hoteri. Umusozi yafunguye uko ageze ku kibaya, guca hamwe na suitevi gari ya moshi-romors, ibiranga, abasiganwa ku basiganwa ku rubura. Kuki kubikorwa remezo aha hantu hari inzira isanzwe ifite? Nabyutse kuri ibi '.
Igice cya mbere cyibitotsi ni imodoka zitumba n'imodoka ziteye akaga - ni imyumvire ye igaragara kwisi nabandi bantu muri yo. Kuzenguruka akaga, ubukonje n'iterabwoba.
Igice cya kabiri cyibitotsi ni gusubira mu kigereranyo murugo hari umubyeyi na papa. Nubwo inkubi y'umuyaga, ifite umutekano muri iyi nzu - hoteri. Kandi icyarimwe, abona ko mubyukuri nta mihanda irimo kuri iki kirwa.
Vuba aha, ku mahugurwa yakurikiyeho, bavuga ko umuntu ari we wenyine ugaruka ku babyeyi kandi asaba gukomeza kumukunda cyangwa, ahubwo, kuri Dub. Mw'isi y'inyamaswa, nta muntu ukuze usubira mu babyeyi kandi ntashaka impungenge zabo. Yaremye umukumbi we kandi yuzuza ibyo yita ku rubyaro rwe. Umuntu uri muri ubu buryo bwihariye muri urwo rwego, akaba akomeza igitekerezo cyo gusubira mu nzu y'ababyeyi hanyuma amaherezo kubona "urwango."
Birashoboka, subconscious yinzozi zacu zohereza kuri ibyo bihe bya kure byimibonano mpuzabitsina nabakunzi bamwibutsa ubushobozi bwayo bwo kubaka urugo rwe rwizewe hamwe nukundwa ukiri muto.
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Maria Dyachkova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yibikorwa byimikurire yimyidagaduro Marika Khazin