Uburezi ubwabwo ni inzira igoye, ariko, uburere bwumugore muto bisaba kwitabwaho bidasanzwe kubabyeyi bitewe nigikoresho cyiza cya psyche kuruta abahungu. Ababyeyi benshi bakora amakosa akomeye, kandi ntibabimenye. Tuzakubwira ibihe bigomba kwitondera cyane cyangwa gusubiramo inzira.
Umukobwa ntukeneye gutondagura
Ibi bireba kubakobwa nabahungu, ariko, akenshi "ibikomangoma" bihinga abakobwa, bivuye mu bwana bakizihiza umukoro, ibibazo kandi byuzuzanya uruziga rw'itumanaho hagati y'umukobwa. Kubera iyo mpamvu, umwana arakura, yizeye ko abantu hafi bazahitamo ibibazo bye byose, mubisanzwe, ukuri kumukobwa ukuze uzahura nabyo, birashobora kunyeganyeza cyane umukobwa. Ntabwo ari ngombwa kwemerera iterambere ryibintu nkibi, bityo rero uhagarare cyane no gukora buri mwana usanzwe.
Kunda umwana, ariko ntukemere ko ibikorwa bibi.
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Ntukemere umukobwa ko ari mwiza cyane
Iki kintu gikurikira rwose kuva uwambere. Birumvikana, kuri wewe, umukobwa ni mwiza cyane kandi mwiza, ariko abatezimbere baburiwe - Iki gitekerezo mugihe kizaza kizakurikizwa kubantu bose bazahurira munzira yumukobwa wawe. Umukobwa udashobora gusuzuma neza ubushobozi bwayo no kugaragara, ingaruka kugirango uhangane cyane, icyayicyo kizabaho.
Ntugahinduke inshuti nziza yumukobwa wawe
Nta gushidikanya, gukomeza kwiringira umubano numwana nibyingenzi, ariko, ababyeyi, akenshi mama, bigatangira kuvugana numukobwa we, kimwe ninshuti nziza. Wibuke ko ibisobanuro byahise kwawe bishobora guhungabanya cyane psyche yumukobwa wawe: Ntazashobora kukubona umuntu mukuru ushobora kumufasha, kandi ejo hazaza umukobwa ashobora kugira ibibazo byubaka umuryango wabo. Kureka ibisobanuro birambuye ku nkuru zawe zurukundo kubakobwa bawe bakobwa.
Ntukavuge ngo: "Uri umukobwa!"
Birashoboka ko ikosa rikunzwe cyane. Mu kuvuga iyi nteruro mu ijwi riranguruye, uba ushyiraho ubwoko runaka bwimyitwarire, kimwe no gutanga ibisobanuro kumyitwarire yayo. Ibi birashobora gutuma umuntu asubiramo kuruhande rwumukobwa: Irashobora gutangira gukurikiza umurongo wumugabo wimyitwarire, kubera ko mubwenge bwe abahungu bambuwe ibyo bibuza. Kora imvugo idahwitse, ariko kumico yawe yumwana.