Birashoboka, abantu bose mubuzima bwe byibuze bigeze bumva bamenyereye cyangwa bava muri ecran ya televiziyo kubyerekeye "abana batoroshye." Abahanga mu by'imitekerereze bandika kuri bo, Filime zifata amashusho, aho abana nkabo basa nkaho bahanishwa ababo. Cyangwa birashoboka ko byose atari byose?
Ababyeyi benshi binubira cyane: "Nta kintu nako dushobora gukora, umwana ntacyo agora cyane," nta mpamvu yo gusobanura gusobanura uburyo abo bantu bari munsi y'inzu imwe n'inyeshyamba nto.
Hamwe naba bana, biragoye cyane kubona umubano. Bahakana byimazeyo ubutware bwabasaza kandi ntibagengwa n'amategeko yashyizweho. Benshi mu bakuze, ababyeyi n'abarimu bakunze gutanga imitsi kandi nta cyifuzo cyo guhangana nacyo, haracyariho kujya ku mwana wabo gusa, aratuje.
Kuki abana bakura "bigoye"?
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Ntugomba guhangayika cyane: Urashobora kubona uburyo bwawe kumwana uwo ari we wese niba ushoboye kwiyumvisha umwuzure, nawe, kandi bizaroroherwa, uzabona umwana wawe afite uruhande rutandukanye rwose.
Ariko, uburezi bwumwana ufite imico itoroshye bizakenera ishoramari ryinshi ryimitekerereze nibibazo byamarangamutima, kandi rimwe na rimwe birashobora kuba ngombwa gufasha umuhanga mu bya preychologue. Ikintu cyingenzi ababyeyi bagomba kumva ni umuntu uri mumwana we, bagize ubwayo.
Kuki abana bakura "bigoye"
Imiterere ya psyche yumwana igira ingaruka ku bidukikije, cyane cyane umuryango we. Niba ababyeyi badatandukanijwe nukubahwa, nibintu byose bireba umwana hafi yabo, aba ni uruhinja rwisigasi, ntibishoboka ko ushobora kwiringira iterambere ryiza ryumuntu.
Urufatiro rw'umuntu mukuru rwashyizwe mu bwana n'ababyeyi. Umwana agomba kumva ko akunda kandi akamurwanya mumuryango nibiba ngombwa. Akurikiza aya masomo - urukundo no gusobanukirwa, - uzagera ku bwumvikane kandi ushyire intangiriro yiterambere ryurukundo rwumwana.
Igishimishije, ntabwo buri gihe, "" butoroshye ", wenda, nibyo byose biri mubihe byayo no kubona amatsiko menshi.
Gerageza kwemerera byinshi
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Bagerageza kumenya iyi si bakoresheje ingero zabo bwite, akenshi bibeshya kandi bagategereza ibihano mugihe uri umubyeyi ukomeye. Gerageza kwemerera byinshi.
Ahari byumvikanye bidasanzwe, ariko tekereza: Hoba hariho inyungu zibuza kubuza? Umwana wawe birashoboka ko yakoze byose muburyo bwe, byari bikwiye guhinduka gusa. Gerageza byibuze rimwe kugirango ukemure igihe kinini cyabujijwe, kandi reba ibisubizo.
Ntibikenewe ko umwana azasobanukirwa vuba ko ushobora "kwicara ku ijosi", ahubwo, bizakuraho ikibazo mugihe umwana azakora ikintu kugirango agusuke.
Ibiteganijwe bizaba byiza kubona umwanya wo gukora ibintu byose bidashoboka mbere, kugeza igihe ibibujijwe byatangiye gukurikizwa. Ugomba gutegereza igihe gito kugirango umwana ashobore kumva ko iyi atari ingaruka zigihe gito z'ababyeyi, n'ubushobozi bwo gukingura umubano mushya, ndetse no gukingura, nyuma bizahinduka.
Iyi ni intambwe igoye, kuko yizera ko uburenganzira butaganisha ku kintu cyiza. Birumvikana ko bidayobora, ariko ntibishoboka guhamagara kwemererwa, ahubwo, kugenzura byoroshye imyitwarire, ariko umwana afite uburenganzira bwo guhitamo umwana.
Inama zo gushyiraho umubano numwana
Ugomba guhora uvugana, ntacyo bitwaye mubihe: waba ugiye gutembera cyangwa kuruhuka hamwe murugo. Umwana akeneye kumva atitayeho no gushyigikirwa n'ababyeyi, gusa muriki kibazo, imitekerereze ye izagira ubuzima bwiza.
Ugomba guhora uvugana numwana
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Agomba kumwubaha, kandi ibi birashoboka niba umaranye umwanya munini, vugana nawe kandi ugerageze kubyumva. Muburyo bwo gutumanaho, ugomba kwerekana witonze umwana, icyo yibeshye nuburyo yagombaga gukora.
Kubabyeyi Ni ngombwa cyane gukoresha amarangamutima, ariko ntutekereze cyane nu mukandara: Ihohoterwa ritanga urugomo gusa. Buri gihe gerageza gusobanura hamwe numwana, werekane impamvu zo kutanyurwa. Inzira nziza - nyamuneka.
Muri kimwe mu bihe bidashimishije, gerageza kumvisha umwana gukora ibyawe, usobanure umwanya wawe no gusobanura impamvu bizamurushaho kuba byiza kuri we. Kandi ntiwumve, nta mpamvu yo kwibagirwa indero na gahunda yo ku munsi, kubera ko umwana azagerageza gukinisha intege nke n'imiterere yose.