Bambal, ariko, nyamara, imyumvire yagutse cyane mu mutwe w'abagore benshi basa n'izi: "Ntukamenye umugabo ubanza mubyiyumvo byawe." Ibi birateye isoni, byuzuyeho ko bizakoresha kandi bikabura. Ntabwo ari igitsina gore cyangwa cyinjira. Muri rusange, impamvu nyinshi zo guhisha ibyiyumvo byawe. Ariko, kimwe na stereotype iyo ari yo yose, ni uburyo bwo gukorana gusa, ntabwo rwose bukwiriye kuri buri wese.
Intwari yiyi ngingo yabanje yatangiye kuvugana numufatanyabikorwa ibyiyumvo bye, inzozi zumuryango nabana. Nubwo byari bimeze bityo ariko, yagombaga guhangana n'ibyiyumvo biherekeza iyi ntambwe: ubwoba, gutegereza iterabwoba, umutekano muke. Erekana ibyiyumvo byawe Mvugishije ukuri, udafite Manipulations - Iki nikimwe mubikorwa bishobora guteza akaga.
Rero, Intwari ya Intwari yacu nyuma yikiganiro cya mbere cyuzuye na mugenzi we igice cye gishize:
"Narambuwe. Ndataha ndebe ko mfite akajagari, ibintu byose byahinduwe, ibintu biri hafi. Ndumva ko narwaye abajura, batsimbaraye byose hamwe nibintu byose. Igitekerezo - Nibyiza, hano, cyane cyane ubwoba bwanjye bwaragaragaye ... bambuka byose maze bafata igihe gito ... Ndacitse intege. Noneho ndakingura agasanduku mbona ko amadorari yanjye atakuweho. Birasa nkaho bihenze kandi biragaragara cyane. Ndumva ko ikintu nyamukuru gikiri kuzigama. Numva byoroshye ndetse n'umunezero ugaragara ... "
Ikigaragara ni uko ibitotsi bye bihamya ko haterwa imipaka ye. Abajura bashimuse byose bihuza umutekano. Usibye ifaranga, ubu ni bwo butunzi nyamukuru abajura batabibonye. Birashoboka ko yumva ko na nyuma yo gutera, ikintu nyamukuru gisigaye hamwe.
Nyuma y'amezi atandatu, ikiganiro cyabaye hagati yabo, cyimbitse. Abashakanye bavuga ibyiringiro byabo, ubwoba, ubwoba. Mwijoro, ibitotsi bisa birakurikira.
"Ndi mu rugo, mu nzu yanjye ishaje. Umuntu avunika, abajura bamwe ... Ndumva ko igihome cyanjye cyashaje ... hamwe nitsinda rimwe ryabantu bahuje hanze (abadafite aho baba) baragerageza kuntwara ... ariko rero ntibinjira muri koridor. Noneho umuntu arambiriza ko bazaza nijoro, nyuma ya 12, kandi bazantora amafaranga. Umuturanyi wanjye aramwomboga ... ndumva ntayoroheye. Numva ko mvunitse imipaka yanjye ko ntafite igihome ... ahubwo, aba bantu batagira aho baba bafite urufunguzo ruvuye mukibuga cyanjye gishaje. Ndumva ko nkeneye igihome cyo guhinduka. Ndumva ntakingiwe muri iri joro, kuko bazagaruka. Byongeye kandi, ndumva ko batazakora ikibi kinini, ariko nta nkombero, kandi nzi ko banyambura ku mubare. Ndagerageza kubona igihome, ariko biratinze, amaduka ntabwo akora. Hafi aho nta mugabo uzamfasha kwinjizamo iki gihome ... mugenzi wanjye aragaragara, ikintu kigerageza kunkorera ikintu, ndabishima. Mu buryo butunguranye, numva ko hari iduka ryijoro kandi mfite imodoka, nshobora kuhagera, nubwo ubwikorezi butagenda. Ndagura ikigo, cyiza rwose, ndamuzana murugo, ariko sinshobora kwinjizamo ... nta nsinga hafi yumutungo. Ntabwo nzi icyo gukora. Amasaha 12 yegereje ... Isoza rya nyuma ntirigeze ritera, ndi mu rujijo rworoshye (nubwo nta bwoba bukomeye) kubyerekeye umutekano muke n'ijoro ridafite aho uba ... "
Turabona ko inzozi za Intwari zakunze kwambuza igitero cya "nzu" ye - ahantu yumva akingiwe.
Birashoboka, kwerekana ibyiyumvo nimwe mu bwoba bukomeye bw'inzozi zacu. Ayihuza nigitero, ubujura
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Garagaza ibyiyumvo byawe, umuco nuburezi mubinyoma bimwe. Wishimishe kandi utuze - mwiza. Teguka, ikibi, ubwoba, ubabaye - bibi. Umuco wubakiye ku ihame ry "ryiza - mabi", "ntushobora kuba", rishyiraho ikintu na gato nta kuroba. N'ubundi kandi, buri wese muri twe afite ibyiyumvo bitandukanye, ariko bamwe muribo bagomba kwihisha kubera imiterere "umuco". By the way, urukundo nurukundo birashobora kandi kwitirirwa abihishe. Cyane iyo bitarimo. Cyangwa ufite ubwoba ko atari mubwoko. Kuma bizafasha gusubiramo ibi bibujijwe no kwerekana ibyiyumvo.
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Maria Dyachkova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yibikorwa byimikurire yimyidagaduro Marika Khazin