Mugushakisha inzozi z'umugabo, abagore bakunze kugwa muri "umuyoboro" w'abagabo bafite abagore benshi badashaka umubano ukomeye. Abagabo nk'abo basobanura imyitwarire yabo mu kudashobora kwibanda ku mugore umwe, bivugwa ko yashyizwe muri bo kamere. Ariko, abahanga mu by'imitekerereze ntibashobora kubyemera. Ariko nigute umugore ashobora kumva ko umugabo udakwiriye kumara umwanya, kandi ninde uzakomeza kumuvaho, akimara kubona icyifuzo?
Uhora wumva abandi bagore
Urukundo Biragoye kubuza iyo abonye umukobwa mwiza. Byongeye kandi, ntazigera anengwa, mu buryo bunyuranye, ntibizashobora kuromera, kandi akenshi abagabo bahitamo gukora ishimwe riteye isoni. Birumvikana ko buri mugabo akurura ibitekerezo ku bwiza bwo kuba muri zone yo kugaragara kwabo, ariko benshi muri bo barashobora kwigumya imbere ya mugenzi wabo, niba umugabo wawe atitaye ku myitwarire ye, wowe biragaragara ko uhagarariye "inetu ya Casanov".
Intego ye nukugukurura muburiri vuba bishoboka
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Ntacyo uzi kuri we
Umugabo udategura umubano muremure ntuzigera ukwemerera mubuzima bwe. Ntarengwa aho kwinjira uzafungurwa nigitanda cyacyo. Akenshi, umugabo abwira izina na terefone, ariko kuri ibyo byose: Ntazagutumira ngo usure, ariko icyarimwe arashobora kumarana na gato murugo, kugirango nyuma ya Kumena umutegereje ku bwinjiriro kugirango usobanure umubano, biroroshye cyane ikuzimu iyo ishyaka rigenda hagati yawe.
Agerageza guhindura "kubitero" byihuse
Umuntu uwo ari we wese ufite akamaro igitekerezo cyawe kuri we ntazagushira kandi azatinya kugira ibitekerezo bibi. Ariko si niba umwitayeho nka nyirabuja amezi menshi. Nk'itegeko, urukundo rujya mu buryo bwa hafi bumaze ku munsi wa mbere: aragerageza kuguhatira we ubwe, gusomana, ibyapa bihabwa kurangiza nimugoroba "ahantu heza." Intego y'urukundo ni ukugera ku bucuti uko byagenda kose, kandi ibyo ubitekerezaho - ntibimureba.
Azagerageza kugushimisha
Nubwo umuntu ufite abagore benshi atitaye kubyo ubitekerezaho, icyarimwe bizakora mubuzima bwawe. Ntabwo ari amayeri mabi, yemera. Urebye, birasa nkaho afite impungenge rwose, impamvu ubabaye cyane, uzagerageza kuguseka no kuzamura ibintu, nibishimishije - biramukorera mubyukuri. Umugore yumva nkumugabo, amwitaho. Uyu mugaragu aragerwaho. Tumaze kubona aho uherereye, bizakorohera no kugabanya umubano wawe mubyerekezo byimbitse.
Akenshi arabura
Umugabo udashobora guhitamo guhitamo umugore akenshi arabura muburyo bwawe. Urashobora kumarana iminsi myinshi cyangwa ibyumweru, noneho birabura kandi ntibitangaza igihe gito. Washoboye kuzana iterambere ryibyabaye, ariko ahita atangazwa kandi yitwara, nkaho ntakintu cyabaye. Tekereza niba ukeneye umugabo uzashakisha rimwe na rimwe, kandi ninde utagiye gutinda nawe igihe kirekire?