Igihe kimwe, muri Kamena 2015, umugabo wanjye yavuze ko ashaka ko tubyara undi mwana. Amarira yibyishimo yatembye kumatama. Abana bacu bombi baratubereye "ubwacu", igihe bahitamo. Kandi hano - amahirwe yo kubona ubundi burambe no gusohoza inzozi zawe - kuba mama kubandi bana.
Nishimiye kubyumva. Byari byiza cyane cyane kubwumugore wibyishimo, kwizera kumugabo we, mubyukuri bisangira ninshingano ze kubwiki cyemezo no kwifuza.
Kandi nashakaga rwose gutumira umuryango wacu ubugingo bwundi mwana. Ku "mategeko" yose. Dushingiye ku bumenyi bwinshi nakiriye mu myaka yashize, mugihe nize psychologiya, iby'umwuka, narimo kwishakira inzira y'ubugingo, no kuyishyira mu bikorwa ni ibyerekeye gutwita, kunyura muri Ibyiciro byo kuvuka, kubyerekeye kubyara kubyara.
Byari leta nshya, mbere yuko ntamenyereye. Imiterere yuburyo runaka bwo kwizerana ibyimbitse mubibaho. Izere inzira ngenda. Byari ibintu byinshi - kwizera ko mfite amikoro uhagije muri njye, kandi isi inyitayeho. Kuri njye mbona bwa mbere mubuzima bwanjye nahisemo kuba muburyo bwemewe rwose. Iyo ntagushidikanya ko nari mpari. Nta rwego rwurwego.
Mu buzima bwanjye rero, mwana w'igindi yagaragaye atangira gukura muri njye.
Yaranshimiye igitangaje. Nahagaritse kurya inyama, kuko byahagaritse kuba ibiryo byiza kuri njye. Nanze ibiryohereye - bahagaritse kunzanira umunezero. Natangiye kumva umuziki wa kera utigeze ukunda mbere. Twasetse ko roho yubugingo - kuva muri Tibet yagurutse, ituje nkiryo ryaturutse imbere. Kandi rero yaramyoboye kandi birumvikana, kubwimiryango yacu yose.
Twese twategereje uyu mwana.
Kubwimpamvu runaka sinigeze nshushanya amashusho nyuma yo kuvuka.
Sinashoboraga kwiyumvisha uko aryamye, kandi dukina abana. Uburyo tugenda hamwe. Uburyo bwo kumara igihe. Byantera ubwoba gato. Kandi natuje kubera ko ibintu byose bizaba mugihe gikwiye.
"Twese twategereje uyu mwana. Kubwimpamvu runaka sinashushanyije amashusho nyuma yo kuvuka. "
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Gutwita byose numvise meze neza.
Kandi kugeza igihe aba nyuma bakururaga umwanya wo kugura ibintu kumwana. Sinifuzaga kubigura cyane. Kandi umutwe gusa wavugaga - ni ngombwa, kandi uzavuka kandi ntugire umwanya wo kwitegura.
Ibyumweru bibiri mbere yo kuvuka, narasohotse ndagurira akazu gato, igipangu, impapuro. Umukobwa wumukobwa yazanye igihome cya matelas no kugaburira intebe.
None umunsi utegerejwe na gato uraza. Uyu munsi, wahuze cyane n'umunsi w'urupfu rwa nyogokuru. Nyirakuru niwe mugabo wenyine mbere yo guhura numugabo we wankundaga bidasubirwaho. Gusa kubyo ndi. Ntabwo nkeneye kwiga neza urukundo rwawe, kwitwara neza, kurikiza amategeko.
Nyirakuru imyaka 5 mbere yuwo munsi. Kugeza ku ya 5 Mata 2016.
Igihe amazi yimutse, narishimye cyane ko umuhungu wacu azavuka uwo munsi. Umunsi umwe, ubwo buyobora bwaragiye kuri njye, undi azaza.
Sinari nzi ko nyuma yamasaha ane umuhungu wanjye yapfira kubyara kuva hypoxia.
Egor yarapfuye. Mubyukuri uwo munsi kandi icyo gihe, igihe nyogokuru yapfuye hashize imyaka 5, mwarimu wanjye wurukundo.
Twatunguwe.
Jye n'umugabo wanjye sinashoboraga gusinzira iminsi itatu. Hanyuma atangira kuza amata.
Umubiri wanjye wose wabajije umwana. Amaboko yashakaga kubikomeza no guhobera, amabere - kugaburira. Ndi urukundo.
Isi yanjye yose yarasenyutse muri iyo minsi.
Mbere yibyo, nizeraga ko niba ubaho "neza," kubaho ubizi, gukomera, gukunda - noneho bizandinda intimba, indwara, igihombo. Nizeraga ko ibibazo n'amarangamutima biza kubadutumva. Kubatumva ukundi. Kubwibyo, kuba narizwe cyane, byateye imbere, nashakaga, narahindutse, nagombaga kuba "gukingira" byose "bibi", bibaho mubuzima. Kandi hano byagaragaye ko sisitemu idakora. Ko nta garanti. Kandi ntawe wampaye kandi ntazahatanga. Ko ntafite imbaraga nke kandi simyemeza. Kandi nta burinzi kuri ibi.
Nyuma y'icyumweru, twashyinguye Umwana.
Ku mpanuka yishimye, hamwe natwe tuvugana natwe kuva kumunsi wa kabiri umwe mubanyanzobere bake muri psychologiya yo gutakaza pernatal.
Yadufashije cyane. Yashubije ibibazo byose, yabwiye gukora mubibazo bisanzwe - guhera ku cyemezo cyurupfu no kurangira mu irimbi. Yari afite ibisubizo ku bibazo byacu byose, yambwiye ibyamunararibonye ko natewe inkunga nanjye n'umugabo wanjye. Kuberako ibyiyumvo aribyo byabaye hamwe natwe gusa, kandi ntabwo bisobanutse icyo gukora, aho nahindura uburyo. Ibyiyumvo bisa nkaho byabasaze.
Mu kwezi gutaha, twigiye ku bantu benshi bamenyereye amateka yo kubura abana: yavutse, kubyara, kutavuka (abapfuye muri Mama).
Byaragaragaye ko inkuru nkiyi iri mumiryango myinshi, gusa muri societe yacu ntabwo gakondo kubivugaho, kandi birateye ubwoba.
Dore ababyeyi kandi baraceceka. Kandi uhangayike wenyine, uko bashoboye. Inkunga kuri aba bantu muri kiriya gihe yari ingirakamaro kandi inzira ikwegera. Buri ruhare, buri jambo rihamye, buri mpuhwe zashubije nshimira cyane mumutima.
Umurambo wanjye wagaruwe nyuma yo kuvuka kwa Egor. Nararize cyane. Kandi ntacyo yakoze usibye ibyo. Ntabwo nari mfite ibyifuzo cyangwa imbaraga. Ibyo nakoze byose mbere, noneho byasaga naho ntacyo bivuze kuri njye. Kandi mugihe runaka nasanze nkeneye gukora umubiri. N'ubundi kandi, ndashaka undi mwana. Kandi mfite umugabo nabana, kuruhande nshaka kugira ubuzima bwiza. Nahisemo rero kujya mucyumweru cyicyumweru kubera akazi ko gukira no mu mwuka - Qigong.
Nyuma yo kubura umuhungu Alegizandere yahisemo kujya mu rugendo rwa buri cyumweru kubera akazi ko gukira no mu mwuka - Qigong
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Nyuma y'uru rugendo, nagiye kuri ultrasound, kandi abaganga ntibashobora kwizera ko impinduka nk'izo zishoboka nziza. Umubiri wanjye wagaruwe imbere yanjye.
Umutego munini kuri njye ni ukuticira urubanza. Nkuko namenye nyuma, kumva icyaha ni umutego kubabyeyi benshi, hari ibitagenze neza, kandi umwana ntiyabaye. Nasanze ingingo nyinshi nagombaga kubiryozwa: Iyo uza gufata ikindi cyemezo, nahisemo Mama, sinatongana na mama, nagiye kubyara binyuze muri Cestarean n'abandi benshi, noneho ibintu byose bishobora kuba bitandukanye , kandi umuhungu wanjye yaba azima.
Kumva ushinja ibifungo nkingese. Niba kandi wemeye gukwirakwira no gukura, kandi ukiri imbere, noneho wowe ubwawe uzuru.
Ntabwo ari kubwibyo, nanyuze mu byamubayeho kubura Umwana, atari ibyo yabagaho muri njye amezi icyenda kugira ngo mpfira buhoro buhoro, nahisemo.
Kandi akurura inzobere, inshuti, abo tuziranye, yabasabye kumfasha - Nabonye ko nshaka kubaho. Mureke agitazi uko yabikora.
Buhoro buhoro, impinduka zitangaje zabaye muri njye,
Umurambo watangiye kubona sensesi itazwi - buri selire yumubiri numvaga ubikoraho. Mu gitondo, ubwo nampunja amaso, amarira atemba ku matama n'ubwiza nabonye, areba mu kirere n'izuba. Nambaraga ukuboko aribaza n'iki gitangaza icyo nshobora kumutera. Narebye mu ndorerwamo mbona umugore mwiza (mbere yuko ntigeze mbona ko ndi umuntu mwiza).
Nasohotse mu muhanda, kandi abantu bose bamurikira imbere, mu bundi undi hari byinshi, mu muntu - munsi. Ndetse n'abo bantu - ku isoko cyangwa abashoferi ba tagisi - ibyo ntabwo nakuyemo mbere kandi bakabatekereza munsi y'insanganyamatsiko yanjye, gushikama, aba bantu babonye amajwi atagaragara. Narebye mumaso yanjye mbona ubuziraherezo nurukundo. Bahindukirira buri muntu mu buzima bwe, nabonye kandi nitabaza ubwiza bw'imbere, isoko, urukundo rwatandukanijwe na we. Nahagaritse gusuzuma abantu muburyo bwabo - umubiri, imyenda, amoko, imisatsi, kubungabungwa neza. Kandi bitangaje mugusubiza, nakiriye urukundo, kwitaho, kwitabwaho. Ntabwo ari ijambo rimwe ribi, ibimenyetso, kwigaragaza.
Nkaho isi yose yari urukundo. Urukundo rwatembaga. Urukundo rwantengurutse mu bandi bantu.
Mugereranije no guhinduka kwanjye imbere, numvise ko bitagishaka guhangana mubuzima mubuzima. Sinshaka ikindi kintu. Byatangiye gusa nkaho bidafite intego, ngufi.
Ati: "Numva ndishimye. Nbeho buri munsi nkuko nshaka kubaho, "Alexander yemera
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Guhitamo kuva ikuzimu, aho nabonye, ndeba nta makuru ahagije yerekeye kwifasha nyuma yo gutakaza umwana, nasanze nshaka gufasha abandi babyeyi bava muri iyi ikuzimu, kuva kuri ubu bubabare busenya byose. Kandi imbere ubwabyo numvaga imbaraga zo kubikora.
Nabonye ko niba mbyumva muri njye imbaraga zo gufasha abandi bantu kuri iyi si intege, nzabikora.
Kuberako imbibi zabuze kuri njye. Imipaka mubijyanye no kubuza. Natangiye kubona isi munsi yinguni, aho ibishoboka byose. Aho nshobora gusaba ubufasha bwumuntu uwo ari we wese. Aho Imana imfasha, nanjye ubwanjye nkoresha urukundo akunda abandi bantu.
Aho buri muntu - amara urukundo binyuze wenyine. Iyo nta fatizo rihari, aho habaye itumanaho kurwego rwo kwiyuhagira.
Muri iyo miryango nabuze umuhungu wanjye, ndashaka kubyara indi nshya - umudendezo w'ubuntu, kuruhuka, gukunda kandi bifite agaciro buri mwanya wubu buzima nkimpano ihenze.
Hariho ikigega cy'urukundo cyo gufasha ababyeyi ikibazo kitoroshye "mu maboko". Kugeza ubu, iyi niyo shyirahamwe ryonyine ritanga amakuru yubuntu no gutera inkunga imitekerereze kubabyeyi nabagize umuryango wabo nyuma yo gutakaza impanuka ya peterontal.
Negera ndishimye. Nbeho buri munsi nkuko nshaka kubaho. Naretse gusubika ibihe, amateraniro, nsohoza ibyifuzo byanjye. Kuri njye, byari bihenze cyane kuvugana nabakunda, hamwe nabankunda, hamwe nabakeneye ubufasha bwanjye.