Ntabwo ari byinshi cyane, ariko biracyari ikosa ribabaje kubabyeyi bato - gukwirakwiza inshingano mureremba umwana mugihe umuntu, Mama, ubwoko bwa papa, gusa ahana imyitwarire mibi kandi ashyira Uwiteka Amategeko y'ubuzima mu nzu. Akenshi ibintu bihinduka birushijeho kuba bibi niba ababyeyi bafite ibibazo byumunara: umuntu yerekana ibitero, kandi icya kabiri kirinze umwana, kuba intwari kuri we. Asobanura impamvu ugomba kureka icyitegererezo cyimyitwarire - Hariho impamvu zihariye zayo.
Gutsitara mu mibanire yumuryango
Birashoboka ko wabonye urwenya mu matsinda y'ababyeyi, aho umwana asabye mama uruhushya rwo kujya ku rugendo n'inshuti, abona ko yanga papa, azi ko azavuga ko azavuga ngo "Yego." Ntabwo utegetswe numufatanyabikorwa gukomera kumwanya umwe kubibazo byose byuburezi, ariko, kubara ibitsitara gutsitara gutsitara gutsitara. Tammy Van Hollander avuga ati: "Abana bakeneye kumenya ko ababyeyi babo bakorera hamwe nk'itsinda kandi bashaka gushyigikira inyungu zabo bwite." Gutanga ibisubizo bitandukanye kubisabwa numwana, uba wiga kuba manipulator kandi wige gukemura icyifuzo gikwiye kumuntu ukwiye - ntabwo bizagira ingaruka kubejo hazaza, nkuko amayeri azayiteramo, ubushobozi bwo kubona no kubeshya - kure yimico myiza.
Muganire kuri gahunda yawe yo kurwanya umufatanyabikorwa
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Gushikama no guhumurizwa
Umwarimu w'ishami ry'ishami rya psychologiya ya kaminuza ya Hofstra Jeffrey J. Fro yavuze ko amategeko ashyigikiwe mu nzu ashyigikiwe n'ababyeyi bombi akora ihumure kandi rihambiriye gushyiraho ishyirwaho ry'icyizere hagati ye kandi ababyeyi. Ikindi kintu nigihe buri mubyeyi afite amategeko yacyo - muriki gihe, umwana yazimiye kandi yumva amarangamutima kubera kutumvikana, nkuko bigomba gukora. Ikirushijeho kuba kibi, niba icyarimwe uyiha inama zita kunyuranye na diametrically hamwe no kuyobora. Bitinde bitebuke, ariko hamwe nimyitwarire nkiyi, umwana ahitamo umubyeyi ukunda - uzaza uwo azabaza. Dychotherapist Van Hollander yagize ati: "Ibi bitiranya umwana, kuko akenshi yumva aremwa kubera icyaha cyo guhitamo umwe mu baburanyi, kandi nanone na bo barashobora guhangayikishwa no kuba umubyeyi umwe azatonganya undi."
Kurema ibidukikije kandi byiza kugereranya uburinganire
Mu Burusiya, iyi nyigisho ntabwo ikunzwe cyane, ariko mu bihugu by'iburengerazuba, abana bagerageza kwigisha nta mibanireboye hamwe n'ibikoresho bijyanye n'amagorofa. Niba umwe mubabyeyi afashe uruhare rwa Angela, bitera igitekerezo kidasanzwe cyuburinganire mumwana, mugihe igitekerezo cye cya "Sekibi" mugaragaza undi mubyeyi agira uruhare mu gushiraho igitekerezo kibi gusa mu bundi bwoko. Ibi byigaragaza ukiri muto mugihe umwangavu ahura nabandi bantu mubucuti bwurukundo cyangwa bwubucuruzi. Abahungu rero, mama bahoraga barayabuyaho, bakunze kutizera abakobwa, kandi muburyo bunyuranye - kubakobwa bafite ba data bari bafitanye isano nabasore. Ku bana, ni ngombwa kugira umubano mwiza, ufunguye hamwe n'ababyeyi ndetse n'andi masomo yo kwigana, tutitaye ku gitsina cyabo.
Umwana ntagomba kuba "amatungo" mubabyeyi
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Intonganya zitagira iherezo hagati y'abafatanyabikorwa
Gukenera guhora ari umugenzuzi - kumurimo wo murugo, isohozwa ryinshingano zo murugo nindi mirimo - irashobora guhatira ababyeyi umwe kumva inzika kubindi. Umuntu wese ashaka ko abana be bamukunda kandi bakamushimira, ariko bakaba umwigisha wubahiriza amategeko ari ngombwa ko gukura no guteza imbere umwana - ahubwo ni ababyeyi. Ati: "Ababyeyi bagomba gushyigikirana mu byemezo byafashwe. Van hollander agira ati: "Uburezi bufitanye isano n'ingorane, kandi buri wese afite uburyo bwabo bwo kwiga." Rero, urashobora kugira amategeko avuguruzanya nawe, niba udatanga umwanya wo kuganira no gukora gahunda imwe yuburezi.