Akenshi insanganyamatsiko yamafaranga irababaza mumibanire hagati yabashakanye, kandi abanyura mu gutandukana bazi ko amafaranga ari ikintu cyingenzi mumibanire.
Intwari y'intwari y'iki gihe iherutse inyurana n'umugabo we, yimukiye mu wundi mujyi, asiga ibintu byinshi by'uwahoze uwo bashakanye. Basa nkaho ari ukuri, urugwiro kandi nta gikona. Ariko, ikibazo cyamafaranga kituzuye cyagumye hagati yabo. Mburabuzi, gutandukana ni gahunda yumugore we, we no guhangana n'amazu mashya, ibitero by'ingengabitsina, ingengo y'imari. Kandi uwahoze ari umugabo bivugwa ko yibasiwe n'uruhande rero, mu nkuru y'indishyi, yakomeje amazu n'izindi nyungu za HALDO.
Ariko, binyuze mu nzozi z'inzozi zacu, urundi ruzi rw'inzozi zacu, rushingiye ku bitekerezo nyabyo ku buryo byagombaga gutandukana.
Gusinzira cyane:
"Uwahoze ari umugabo yari yarose. Turi munzu yacu, bisa nkaho tubaho, ariko ndi muburenganzira bwabashyitsi. Ndamubwira ko ikintu gikonje kuri njye, ndi munzu ahantu hose Merznu. Ndabivuze gusa, ntukirimbe kubisubizo. Kandi mu buryo butunguranye ndaje ndeba ko bikuraho wallpaper inkiki n'impapuro zose hamwe nimpapuro zimwe na zimwe zandikirwa, kandi zigororotse hejuru y'ibiti by'izi nkike. Ku kibazo: "Urimo ukora iki?" Arasubiza ati: "Urasubiza uti:" Wavuze ko hakonje, ndi inzengu zose, nzagukonje ahantu hose kandi ntazakonja. " Natunguwe nuko ntoya yanjye "Ndimo ko akonje" igikorwa gikomeye, cyane ko nzi ko gusana ari bishya kandi inkuta zirashyuha. "
Ibitotsi bya herneine byerekana uburyo nk'urwego rwe rwo gusabana mu buzima busanzwe. Mu nzozi, uwahoze ari umugabo we yiteguye kumwitaho, kugira ngo aha ibikoresho ubuzima bwe, gusubiza umuhamagaro ntabwo ari ugufasha, ahubwo ni uburyo bworoshye bwa muntu. Birashoboka ko herine yacu itazi kubaza cyangwa gutangaza ibyo bakeneye bifite uburenganzira. Birorohera wenyine kuruta kuba mumwanya wo kubaza. Iki nikibazo rusange cyabagore bakundaga gahunda "Nanjye ubwanjye".
Ubushobozi ni ingirakamaro, ariko bugaragaza gusa igice cyimico ikenewe. Wishingikirize wenyine - uyu ni umwe mu baburanyi ubwigenge. Ariko rero, menyesha kandi ushimangire uburenganzira bwabo nubushobozi bukenewe bwumuntu mukuru. Bitabaye ibyo, biragoye kwanga, kuvuga "oya", gusaba ibikwiye no kurengera umwanya wabyo.
Inzozi zacu, birashoboka cyane, akenshi ziruta mubuzima aho bibaye ngombwa kandi bidakenewe. Ariko, ibitotsi "bimutoza" kugirango ubone uburambe bushya ari ugutangaza ibyo bakeneye n'ibyifuzo byabo. Kurugero, menyesha uwahoze ari umugabo ko ari ngombwa kuzana gahunda mu bijyanye n'ubukungu bwabo, kuvuga, kuko amasezerano yabo y'amafaranga akwiye kurera ubutane, hari umutungo bashobora kugabana n'amategeko. Bizabona inzu "ishyushye", kandi azirekurwa no kumva icyaha cyumitungo yinyongera, washinzwe kubisanzwe.
Nk'itegeko, niba hari akajagari mu mibanire n'icyemezo kidarenganya ubwo aribwo bwose, ibi ntibyemerera abahoze ari abahoze ari umwete no kubaka ubuzima kumurima usukuye. Ibivugwa, inzika n'uburakari bizabihambire imyaka myinshi, guciraho iteka cyangwa kubaka umubano na mugenzi mushya, ariko ku musemburo ".
Turasaba ibyago byo kuba inyangamugayo no gushikama gufata ibyago byo kuba inyangamugayo no gushikama, kuzana umubano nuwahoze ari umugabo kandi witegure umubano mushya niba arose.
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Maria Dyachkova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yibikorwa byimikurire yimyidagaduro Marika Khazin