Hashingiwe mu ntangiriro z'ikinyejana cya 20, Gestalt-psychology mu Budage yahise ikundwa kubera ko yafashije abantu guhangana n'ibibazo byabo bitesha umutwe. Mu nama hamwe na psychologue, abakiriya basenya ubwoba nibibazo byabo muri iki gihe, bakabona impamvu nyayo kera. Buri kintu kidakemutse kidusunikira kuri dutonganiza muburyo bwamarangamutima mabi, imyifatire mibi nibindi birinda kubaho mubakire kandi bishime buri munsi. Bizagerageza kugufasha gukemura ibibazo no kubona inzira yo kuva mubihe bigoye.
Ibaze ibibazo
Niba udafite amahirwe yubukungu kugirango uhindukire mumitekerereze, ukoreshe kwisesengura - Ubu ni bwo buryo bwo gukoresha igihe cyose uhuye nikibazo. Fata urupapuro no hejuru yikigo andika izina ryikibazo cyawe, noneho ibaze ikibazo "Ni ibihe byiyumvo bintera?" Hanyuma wandike ibintu byose biza mubitekerezo byawe. Tekereza impamvu buri marangamutima ahujwe niki gikorwa - shakisha ibisubizo mubihe byashize, wibuka ibihe byihariye. Niba ntakintu kiza mumutwe, hamagara ababyeyi cyangwa inshuti zawe - bazagufasha kugarura kwibuka. Kurugero, umuntu arashobora kwitondera amazi, nta nubwo yibuka ko yarohamye mu bwana bwe. Mu ntebe ya psychotherapiste, kwibuka byishimirwa na hypnose, ariko uzakenera kwigenga kumpapuro zibyabaye kera.
Itegereze isoko yikibazo
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Shyira ahagaragara ibyiza n'ibibi
Umuntu wese, niba ashaka kwiteza imbere, agomba gukora kuri kamere ye. Nibyo, abakundwa bagomba kugutera niba bashaka kuvugana nawe nta makimbirane kandi wifuza gukosora umuntu wigeze kuba. Ariko, ibi ntibisobanura ko wowe nkumuntu mukuru adakeneye gukora kumakosa yawe - ubugizi bwa nabi, gutinya abantu, ibibi nibindi. Abantu bishimye ntabwo ari abatazi ibibazo, ariko ababyumva. Fata urundi rupapuro hanyuma uyigabanye mu nkingi ebyiri - kuri imwe, andika imico yawe myiza, ku wundi - mbi. Wibuke mugihe wabonye ibintu byiza byiyi mico - ibi bizagufasha guhuza ibyabaye nibisubizo byayo. Twizera ko ari ngombwa kudakora ku myifatire mibi gusa, ahubwo twibasiwe neza, kugirango tutesora ibyiyumvo byibinyoma kuburyo ubuzima bwawe bugizwe nibintu byawe gusa.
Imanza zuzuye zitaratara
Ntabwo ari ngombwa gutekereza gusa, ahubwo no gukora. Niba wowe, kurugero, utaguze igipupe cyiza mubana, warose, fata kandi ugure wenyine. Kimwe kireba kwishyiriraho "nibyiza nzagura ikintu cyegereye, kuruta kwishimisha" - Akomoka ahanini, mugihe ababyeyi batanze ibyo bakeneye kubana cyangwa abuzukuru. Ariko, imvugo hano ntabwo yerekeye kugura gusa, ahubwo ikoresheje ibikorwa wiyemeje. Urashobora kwicuza kuba ibibi bisubije umukobwa wumukobwa wishuri, bababaza umuturanyi cyangwa ntibavuganaga nubugingo nuwahoze ari umusore - baza abasore kandi basobanure ibyo wumva. Nubwo wabonye kunanirwa kuvugana, uzamenye ko wagerageje gukora ikintu, kandi uzaryama mumahoro.
Ntugume wenyine, saba ubufasha
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Ntutinye kubona ubufasha
Tumaze kurokoka ibintu bibi, twese dukunda gufunga abandi, kwizera ko ibibazo byacu bikenewe gusa. Nibyo, kumva inshuti ityaye itameze neza ntabwo ikunda umuntu, ahubwo ishyigikira umuntu, imico yayo ifite agaciro, wenda abantu bose. Hamagara umukunzi wawe umbwire ko ubabaye - azakumva kandi atanga inama zizerwa. Ntugomba guhora umuntu ukomeye, nijoro utakambire umusego: imbaraga nukumenya ikibazo no gufungura mucyemezo cyo guhindura ibintu. Ntugahishe amarangamutima yawe kandi ntukagire isoni - bagutera uwo uriwe.