Umwe mu basomyi bacu basangiye ibitotsi bishimishije. Yarose iyi nzozi mugihe umugabo yatangiye kumwitaho ibyumviro.
Tugomba kuvugwa hano muguhitamo umufasha tubaho byinshi: kandi dukeneye urukundo no kuba hafi, kimwe no kwibwira ubwawe: "Meze neza, mfite umufatanyabikorwa uhoraho." Kandi iki cyifuzo gishobora guhagarika ibindi bintu byabandi vuba mugihe umukandida akwiriye mubipimo byose, biratubwira ko ibyo ari bimwe! Kandi ibindi birangira k'ubugingo n'umubiri birashobora kuganisha mwizina ryintego ikomeye. Ariko, binyuze mu nzozi, igisubizo nyacyo cyibyabaye cyangwa abantu iruhande rwacu. Dore urugero.
"Umugabo anyitayeho. Nakunze ibintu byose muri we - isura, imiterere, kumva urwenya. Hamwe nibi byose, arakomeye kandi ashaka umubano ushobora kuganisha ku bashakanye. Afite umutekano, cyane cyane. Muri rusange, mubisanzwe nanyiziritseho, kandi ibi byafashwe. Ariko kuringaniza gusomana kwambere - igihe yasomaga, numvaga nkumvikane no gushaka guhagarika gusomana, sinigeze nkunda gusomana. Muri icyo gihe, ntibyahumanye bidakwiriye kuri we, ntanywa itabi, bityo rero ntabwo aribyo. Kandi, mubyukuri, sinasobanukiwe kuki. Ahasigaye byose, ndabikunda. Ariko byari ku bya physiogique. Kandi iki kibazo kirahangayitse cyane. Mbere yo gusomana byansunikira. Noneho ndumva ko nshobora kubitekereza nkinshuti. Natekereje mbere ko bizatsinda, birashoboka ko byaba byiza, ariko biracyasomana byari bidashimishije. Numva nacitse intege kandi ntitumva uko bimeze? Ahasigaye byose, ndabikunze rwose, kandi ko ikintu nyamukuru, ashaka ko umuryango kandi ashobora gutanga. "
Ku munsi wo gusomana bidashimishije intwari yacu, inzozi zarota.
Ati: "Nahagaze imbere y'ubwinjiriro kuri bkoni, mbona mu rugi rw'ikirahure inshuti yanjye imanuka mu muhanda - kuyitontoma kandi yishimye yiruka kuri bkoni. Kuri balkoni hari uruzitiro rwiza, iyi niyo etage ya mbere. Inshuti irahagaze kandi itegereje. Ndashishikarije kandi ndamusoma ku itama. Hano ahindukirira imbwa - Umuyoboro wa Zahabu. Ndabitangiye kubitonda. Hanyuma ahinduka igikona. Ndabona ikiyaga imbere yinzu, ni kimwe cya kabiri. Ndacyahagaze kuri bkoni, haracyari abagabo babiri batamenyereye ko bavuga bati: "Mureke kuba imbwa, nk'igituza gifite umutwe muto n'ubwonko buke, ku buryo atazarokoka . " Ndebye igikona kandi nemeza - nibyiza, byaba byiza wo kongera kuba imbwa. Ahindukirira umutsinzi, kandi muri iki gihe, mbyuka. "
Niba uhuza ibitotsi n'ibikorwa bikurikira, noneho ubutwari bwacu buzi ko umufatanyabikorwa atamukwiriye: ni imbwa ntarengwa - nziza, ariko ntibikwiye kuri we. Metamorphose yinshuti ye mu nzozi ibiganiro gusa. Ariko mubyukuri bigerageza gukoresha ukuri kubikorwa byabo, kuko umuryango wumuryango ushaka. " Reka umubiri uvuge ibitandukanye, reka gukoraho no gusomana bitera kwangwa - bikomeza gukomera cyane - ukwemera muburyo bwiza. Urugero, "Ngomba kugira umuryango, kandi uyu mugabo arashaka kundeka nanjye." Nibyiza ko inzozi zacu zirangiye ntabwo zavuze ko zifite udusanduku tutatu tumenye ko umugabo ari ntarengwa ya mugenzi we. Ariko urubanza rwe ntirusanzwe. Abagore bayobowe n'imyizerere yabo bahindurwa mu bafatanyabikorwa batandukanye mu izina ry "indangagaciro" nk'iyi. Ndaha agaciro muri asubiramo neza kuko muriki kibazo tuvuga imyizerere, stereotypes kuruta uburambe. Kwemera kwera muri stereotypes hamwe na societe, benshi babana nabagabo babo babakubise, cyangwa banywa, cyangwa bagahinduka. Kwizera ikibazo cye bihumura amaso kubintu bigaragara, kubeshya no kubabaza umubiri wabo, kumuhatira kumvira ibitekerezo byinshi.
Ariko gusinzira ni amahirwe yacu yumwami mubumenyi bwukuri. Ukuri kwacu kwacu, bishobora kugerageza kwihisha ubwacu cyangwa, kubinyuranye, tubizi kandi tukabaho dukurikije.
Amahirwe masa ku nzozi zacu!
Maria Dyachkova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yibikorwa byimikurire yimyidagaduro Marika Khazin