Umwihariko wa psychologue Umwizerwa Mikhail Labkovsky agira ati: "Iyo umuntu azutse kwihesha agaciro, ubuzima bwe burahinduka rwose." Inzobere yemera ko ari ngombwa gutangira gukorana nayo - kugirango wige kwikunda utarigeze unyuramo, ariko nkuriya. Abandi bavuzi bemeranya numwanya wabwo, urebye ko aribyo rwose kubibazo bidahari. Ariko, abantu bose ntibashobora kwikunda - kandi niyo mpamvu.
Kugaragara
Sosiyete yateguwe kugirango agerageze guhuza byose munsi yubusanzwe. Iri ni urugero rwo gukurikirana no kwemeza ko bihuye - abantu biragoye kwemera ko abandi bashobora kwigishwa, gukomera cyangwa slimmer. Kuva hano hari amabwiriza nkuko umuntu agomba kwitwara, icyo kwambara nuwo kuba inshuti nibindi. Kandi neza, niba mu bwana bwakozwe mu gikari bwemeza umwana ko "atari ameze." Birababaje mugihe bimaze kunengwa mu muryango na byo: bita umupfayongo, gutukwa mu bwuzuye cyangwa isura idakwiye. Hagati aho, ni amagambo yabantu ba hafi bisubikwa mumatsinda yimbitse kandi bigira ingaruka mubuzima bwakurikiyeho bwumuntu. Girane hamwe nabana kandi ntugerageze ugeraho uhereye kubidashoboka kugirango utange igitekerezo cyururimi rwumuntu utuje.
Shigikira umwana kandi umuhe urukundo
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Uburambe bubi
Ibikurikira nyuma yababyeyi bashobora gutanga ikimenyetso gikomeye kumuntu abakundwa. Mu bwangavu, ni ukugaragara ko hitaweho kwitabwaho hagamijwe gusuzuma imico y'imbere, benshi bazakura nyuma. Ingano yamabere, kuzenguruka amabere, uburebure bwumusatsi ndetse nuburemere bugaragara - byose bizanengwa. Niba ufite umwana wubugimbi, ukurikize witonze uko umeze hanyuma ugerageze gukomeza isano ya hafi, uzengurutse urukundo nurukundo. Ntabwo rero bizafunga imbere yawe, kandi uzashobora gufasha mugihe gikwiye, gushidikanya gutesha umutwe mugutezirira. Niba wigeze guhura nikibazo nk'iki, tekereza kubyo abantu bakubwira ko amagambo yo kwiyahura? Umugabo wishimye arashaka gusangira umunezero, no kudatuka abandi ni abantu benshi bafite ubwoba bwo mumutwe bagerageza gutsinda ubutware no guhisha umutekano muke.
Shakisha umufasha uzagushimira, ntabwo warababaje
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Ikosa ryamakosa
Akaga gakurikira kuri psyche uzagutwara kurangiza kaminuza. Hano abantu bagabanijwemo amatsinda abiri: Bamwe bahitamo imbaraga zose gutanga gushakisha uwo ukunda bakamenya ko mumuryango, abandi bahangayikishijwe cyane nakazi. Niba wumva ibya nyuma, bivuze ko ibyo aribyo byose mugihe cyo gukora imirimo yakazi birashobora kugukoraho cyane. Reba uburambe bwo gutsinda abantu batsinze: Soma ubuzima bwabo, reba film za documentaire. Uzumva ko inzira zabo zigenda zigana ku ntego zacitse, ntabwo ari umurongo ugororotse. Umucuruzi umwe yavuze interuro nziza ko nta bantu wigeze kuba ibicucu. Buri wese muri twe ashobora gukora amakosa, ariko ibi ntibisobanura ko tudashobora kubimenya no kwiga kuri rake yacu. Impungenge zimwe zatsinzwe: Menya ibintu byose utuje kandi umenye ko ari byiza ko utegereje imbere.
Ntushake kumenyekana kubandi bantu - buriwese agomba kubanza kwiyitaho, hanyuma akibwira umuturanyi. Uzuza ikikunde wenyine - wige kumarana nawe wenyine, utigira mu biruhuko, ahubwo ukore ibiruhuko kuva buri munsi. Ba inshuti yawe magara kandi wemere uwo uri we. Icyo gihe ni bwo Zen azaza aho uri - uzi ko wikunda.