Abagore ni abashinzwe iperereza ko sherlock holmes, ariko, ubuhanga buragoye mugihe cyo gukundwa. Ibyiyumvo biranga ubwenge kandi birashobora gukuraho nubwoko bwiza cyane bwo kurwanya ibikorwa bidasobanutse byumuntu wawe. Ahari "Oya, ntabwo ameze nka" - imvugo ikunze kuba abagore bavuga. Urashaka kumenya neza ko uwahisemo ari kumwe nawe? Koresha inama zacu kubiranga ibiranga kumenya umubeshyi:
Ibyiyumvo bya manipulation
Byemezwa ko abagore ari ba shebuja ba siporo kumukino ku mitsi. Nibyo, hariho ikintu kimwe. Ariko: abagabo bashoboye gucunga ibyiyumvo byabatoranijwe. Ahari ikintu cya mbere biga ni ukubaza ikibazo: "Mubyukuri ntunyizera?" Bamwe mu bahagarariye igitsina biremereye bashyirwa mu mutwe w'umukobwa igitekerezo cy'uko muri uru rubanza bazahita bahitana. Mubyukuri, ninde ushaka kuba igizwe nubusabane aho abantu batizerana? Ariko guterana ibitekerezo bikunze guterana ibitekerezo ko umugabo ataguha agaciro - yiteguye kubona ikintu gishya gishoboka. Niba kutizera kwawe gushingiye kubintu bifatika, kandi ugaragaza kumugaragaro impungenge zacu no kwitegura guhindura ikintu, kandi umugabo aho gushyigikira no gusohora urwenya bitwara neza - tekereza niba ukeneye umubano nk'uwo? Umuntu wuje urukundo ntabwo azatanga nkana ububabare nkana, ahubwo azagerageza gushaka umwirondoro.
Abagabo bakoresha amarangamutima ntabi kurusha abagore
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Umutuku
Mu buryo butunguranye, imisaya yoroheje cyangwa itarangwamo buto ivuga kubyerekeye isoni z'umuntu - mu gihe hari ubushyuhe bwiza mu cyumba. Iyi ni gahunda ya physiologique: Amaraso ako kanya gukomera kumutwe kugirango habeho imirire yubwonko, bikabyara mubibazo bitoroshye, kandi bikamufasha kubona igisubizo cyikibazo gishobora gusubiza ikibazo cyakarere keza. Nanone, umugabo azagerageza kwihisha mugihe cye - kugirango akure amaso ibumoso cyangwa ibumoso, asobanurwa nacyo, icyerekezo cyubwonko ni Ushinzwe ibitekerezo bikenewe kugirango uzane ingingo zemeza. Nyuma yamagambo ye, rwose azakureba rwose kugirango ushimire uko wabyitwaramo amagambo ye.
Niba witeguye gukemura amakimbirane, kandi nta muntu, noneho birakwiye gutekereza
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Gukanda kubandi bantu
"Yego, abantu bose baravuga!" - Imvugo nkiyi irashobora kumvikana kumunwa wumubeshyi. Kandi icyifuzo cyo gusobanura neza ubivuga, birashoboka ko atazasubiza - yerekana uburakari cyangwa ajya kuwundi ngingo. Impamvu irasobanurwa gusa - umuntu ntabwo azi neza mumagambo ye rero, aragerageza kubashimangira hamwe nuwabibonye, nubwo adahamagara Inkomoko yihariye kugirango atabangamiye. Niba uhisemo kuyihagarika no kumenyana nay nimugoroba uwatoranijwe, noneho ushobora kubona inkoni ye yo kuroba - birashoboka ko yemeye imbere inshuti cyangwa abo dukorana bazavuga inshuti bakundwa niba barazimya. Wavuga "kunyura" abakobwa banyu? Birumvikana ko atari byo! Rero, kugirango witeze ukuri inshuti zumugabo.
Ijuru rikunda "Guhindura imyambi"
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Interuro idahwitse
Amagambo nka "ndababwiza ngo" Nzongera kuvuga "," Ndashaka kuvuga ", ndashaka kuvuga" Kuvuga nk'umutekano muke wavugishije. Turashobora kuvuga ko yihishe inyuma yabo - icya mbere kizashimangira ikibanza, naho icya kabiri n'icya gatatu - umugambi wo kuvuga amakuru umuvugizi atanze atizera. Nanone witondere umwanya mugihe umugabo yabuze amakuru yingenzi nk'aho no kuri bana, ariko yitabwaho cyane kubintu bito - ikirere cyangwa ibisobanuro byimanza. Muri rusange, "goatre" nyamukuru mubiganiro byawe bizaba uko uzabona igiti cye kidasanzwe Maneru - kurambura amagambo, noneho nkuko bisanzwe, cyangwa bikosora umusatsi cyangwa gukosora umusatsi. Baza neza impamvu ati nkuko bisanzwe. Birashoboka ko umugabo ahangayikishijwe kandi nta ntego afite yo kukubeshya, mu gihe wazanye gahunda y'amayeri yo guhura.
Ibimenyetso bikunze kuvuga amagambo
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Gukomera kwiyongera mu ngendo
Abantu bakunda gushimwa cyane mugihe bavuga ikinyoma. Umubeshyi w'umuhanga arashobora guhinga ubu buhanga kandi, mubinyuranye, bikabije, kurenga ku gituza, kumena amaboko mu gituza, ndumirwa intoki mu gihome cyangwa ngo mpindure imitsi. Niba ushaka kumenya amakuru arambuye yibintu byihariye, ubanje humura umugabo - vugana nawe kuburyo umunsi wagiye, uzane gahunda muri wikendi hanyuma tubwire inkuru zimwe na zimwe zerekeye abo tuziranye. Nyuma yo kujya muri ibyo rwose ushishikajwe nibibazo. Ntugire ibyago kuvuga ko inzira nk'izo ari inyangamugayo kuri abakundwa, ariko umugore ufite ubwoba ni mubi cyane kuruta ibisubizo byibibazo bitoroheye.
Mbere yo kugerageza kubara umubeshyi no kubikekwa mu gushuka gato cyangwa kuba bibi, akazi ka mbere hamwe nawe. Birashoboka ko ubwoba bwawe bwite cyangwa uburambe butagereranywa bwo kubanza kubeshya kugirango usuzume. Gerageza kuvugana nuwatoranijwe ubikuye ku mutima kandi byose, noneho hazabaho ikizere hagati yawe. Wumve neza ko ugaragaza amarangamutima yawe, kuko nahitamo kuvuga ngo "Mfite ubwoba" cyangwa "Ntabwo nzi neza" kandi tuvugana numugabo kuruta kumukeka rwihishwa. Ntamuntu numwe ushobora gusoma ibitekerezo byacu uretse twe ubwacu. Inama zose za psychololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololololog zimenyeshwa ni kamere ishimangiye - Ntamuntu wiyemerera kubara neza umubeshyi. Niba uhora ushidikanya kumugabo wawe kandi uteganya ibazwa hamwe nibiyobyabwenge, nibyiza kumena - uzigame psyche na we, kandi nawe. Kora mbere muri byose, noneho abantu iruhande rwawe bazakwirakwira kubyo wasabye.