"Umuntu ntabwo ari umwana. Umugabo numuntu mukuru, yamaze gushingwa. Ushobora kuvuga gusa - ndabikunda cyangwa ngo nshake, cyangwa gushaka undi. " Uyu mwanya ni kimwe mubitekerezo byukuntu wabona ururimi rusanzwe rufite umuntu. Kugirango wongere wigishe cyangwa ushishikarize ibitekerezo byawe rwose ntabwo aribwo buryo bwiza. Ariko niba wizeye ko abahuye bose bafite igihe gito kandi basobanuwe nimpamvu zihariye, birakwiye ko umubano usigaye. Azakubwira ibikorwa byo gukora nibyo gutegereza kumufatanyabikorwa.
Vugana na ikirere kidafite aho kibogamiye
Ibiganiro ku ngingo z'umuntu kuzengurutse abana, abavandimwe, itumanaho kubareba firime, kimwe no gutekereza nyuma yimibonano mpuzabitsina - rwose ntabwo arigihe cyiza cyo gusangira ibibazo rwose bigira umuntu uhangayikishwa numuntu. Nibyiza kujya mumujyi, kurugero, mwishyamba, aho ushobora kugenda hamwe ukaganira nubugingo. Umwuka mwiza ugira uruhare mugutezimbere Serotonine, bizagira ingaruka nziza kumutima kandi icyarimwe uzatuza, kuguhatira kukwizera. Muri babiri aho nta ngeso yo gusangira ubunararibonye, ibibazo bibaho kenshi - tekereza igihe umara mu biganiro byonyine.
Muburyo butabogamye bwo kuvuga byoroshye
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Gusubiramo intima
Umukunzi wawe arashobora kumva ko unaniwe kukazi cyangwa kwita ku bana, ahubwo utsinde amarangamutima yawe yongeye kubaho. Umuco wa sorriarchal udushima ko imikoranire yimbitse hagati yabantu igura imibonano mpuzabitsina gusa - ntabwo. Urashobora gukora massage ukunda cyangwa ugasaba kugira wowe, guhobera no gusomana, utekereze kumutwe wawe - tekereza kubyo agukunda nawe. Iyo ugarukiye umuntu guhura nawe cyane, yumva yihaye Imana kandi akababara, yizera ko wamusonze. Impungenge iyo ari yo yose kuri buri gihe mugihe cyikibazo, mugihe bigoye ko uvugana ningingo zishimishije, zivuga ibyawe ntabwo ari ngombwa kubakunzi no guhindura imyumvire myiza.
Vuga ibyawe utabangamiye abandi
Mugihe cyamakimbirane, ingingo zose zigiye: kwibuka kuva kera, kwerekeza kuri bene wabo, ibisabwa kumwanya wamaranye igihe cyashize, umufatanyabikorwa udahuye nkicyiza. Bose ni amakosa kubera impamvu ebyiri: Uzaba ubuzima numuntu, ntabwo ari umuryango we, kandi ntabwo uri imbata, bityo ukazagenda igihe icyo aricyo cyose, kandi ntukitotombeye mumyaka y'ubusa. Abakwe benshi barashaka guhaguruka ku mwanya wa "abahohotewe" n '"umukiza" - ubanza ntibanyurwa n'imibanire, ariko ntibanyuzwe no kudafata icyemezo ku mpamvu iyo ari yo yose - kuva abana babizihizwa, Iya kabiri irashaka gukiza umukundwa kubera ikibazo cye - kuva mubusinzi kugeza nubwo yo gukwirakwiza amaboko. Niba utitaye kuri ubwo bwoko bubiri, bivuze ko ushobora kwerekana bihagije umwanya wawe mubibazo, uvuga amarangamutima yawe gusa, kandi ntukureho undi. Kuvuga wenyine, uha umukunzi amahirwe yo kukwumva no kuvuga nawe, usobanure gusa amarangamutima n'ibikorwa byawe.
witondere muburyo butandukanye
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Gukemura ibibazo
Umutuzo w'abafatanyabikorwa mu bumwe ugira ingaruka kuri buri kimwe muri byo. Noneho, iyo umwe kuri plation cyangwa atitabira ubutumwa, amarangamutima yundi nawe azahinduka udahungabana. Impuhwe zikomeye ni, ikibabaje bizaba umuntu ukunda, mugihe uzarangira. Akenshi ntabwo twemera impamvu barushye cyane cyangwa bize kwishimira isi hirya no hino, gutinya guhura no kutumva umufatanyabikorwa. Ariko intambwe yambere iganisha ku kibazo ni kumenyekana no kwemeza amarangamutima mabi. Urashobora gufata akazi kenite, gusana inzu, imodoka itayorohewe cyangwa kubura amarangamutima mashya. Ntukiga kunyurwa na mato, ariko ubeho nkuko ushaka. Gusa rero uzaba umuntu wishimye, kandi icyo kizayobora - impinduka mumibanire yawe cyangwa gutandukana - uzabona nyuma. Birashoboka ko umukunzi wawe arota kimwe akanyanyaje kukwakira, gutinyuka!