Undi Zigmund Freud yavuze ko "icyerekezo cy'imyumvire cyo gusohoza ibyifuzo bitanga kunyurwa." Birumvikana ko bijyanye n'imibonano mpuzabitsina. Ariko uwashinze psychoanalysise yanditse ashimangira ko ari hafi yisi. Kandi munsi yiki cyimbaho cyamagambo ye asa nkubwibone. Nyuma ya byose, no kubagore, amagambo yavuzwe arenze ubushobozi. Ariko, ndetse no kubohorwa ubu, ishyirwa mu bikorwa ryayo ryoherejwe ku isi yo kunywa ibintu n'ibiryo, akenshi bisimburwa guhungabana. Mu Burusiya cyane cyane.
N'Uburayi na Amerika, Hagati aho, bimaze igihe kinini mu gihe cyo kutaba feminism, ahubwo ni uw'isi. Ni irihe tandukaniro? Ingingo ya mbere y'Abanyemisnism ni "uwahohotewe mu mugore", no mu gihomesiga, umukobwa aba afite uburenganzira bwo kwidegembya, yizeye kandi yiganje mu gihe. Kandi ikintu cyingenzi muri cyo ni ukumenya umudamu wimbaraga zabo zimibonano mpuzabitsina. Ibi ni ibyingenzi kuruta hafi kuringaniza. Birasa nkibyingenzi kugirango ubifate, kuko amagambo yumva ajijuka no kureshya. Mubyukuri, ibintu byose ntabwo byoroshye. Ingorane nyamukuru zo kwita kuri stereotype yo gutekereza.
Yego. Ati: "Ndashaka nka mbere: gukurikira inzu no kwishora mubana. Ibisigaye ni inshingano z'abagabo. " Ati: "Abadeniste ni bo babuze intege nke gusa! .." Kandi rero. Mu kirusiya cyamamare, ayo magambo aratsinda kugeza ubu. Kandi wemeze gusa itegeko: icyitegererezo cyimyitwarire giterwa n'imizi mbonezamubano. Kugeza ubu, nta buryo bushoboka bwo kwinjiza amafaranga yo kwihaza, ndetse no kuzamura ubukungu mu gihugu, ibintu bizahinduka buhoro. Ariko bizaba.
Abakobwa ba none babaye intwari
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By the way, hafi "nka mbere." Birashimishije? Ku ijwi ry'umugore, nkiyi, muri rusange watangiye kunyura nyuma ya saa sita gusa mugice cya kabiri cya XIX. Hanyuma hamwe na applub nini na grin. Hano, reka tuvuge tuti: "Mu mugore, ibintu byose ni amayobera. Ariko amayobera ye yose afite kwifashisha gusa. Izina rye riratwite! "
Tera kumutwe wimvugo ihinduka "nkuko" amagambo ya Lyodmila Gurchenko ubufasha. Igihe kimwe, yavugaga cyane kuri ibyo: "Nkuko nyirakuru na nyirakuru nubwenge yigeze kuvuga ati:" Nakundaga gusoma umukinnyi wa Jenerali. "
Ariko subira inyuma. Ifite inzira ishimishije - igitsina cyiza. Vuba aha, yagenwe numugabane wa Nadezhda Tolokonnikova (igituba cya pussy): "Ibi ni iyo umugore adatsika kuvuga ku mibonano mpuzabitsina, ntabwo ari isoni zo kuvuga kubyerekeye kwinezeza. Byongeye kandi, birashobora gusobanura byoroshye ibikenewe gukorwa kubwibi. Kandi igihe we, ntatinya kubaho ubuzima bwo guhuza imibonano mpuzabitsina, niba ushaka kugira abafatanyabikorwa benshi kandi kutagira ubwoba ko indaya izahamagarwa. "
Ku giti cyanjye, nkunda iki cyerekezo. Nyuma ya byose, guta amakoraniro, guhuza imibonano mpuzabitsina mubuzima bwa none, ahari umuvuduko wonyine aho umuntu ashobora kuba afite umudendezo. Hamwe nibintu bitazashyirwa mubikorwa. Niba kandi urwego rwubuzima bwumugore rurimo kumenya, kimwe nigiti cyumuhogo wumwuka mwiza nyuma yo gutandukana cyangwa umubano mwinshi, kuki?
Ariko muri societe ya sogokuruza nyuma yubuso bwa soviti, uru rwego rwubwisanzure ni ngombwa bihagije. Nkurugero, kwamamaza cyane kuranga siporo: "Amarira afite urushinge rw'umugabo, icara mu maso y'abagabo." Amasaha abiri, iyi slogan yabaga mumwanya wibikorwa kandi yakuweho bidasubirwaho. Kubanga, mubyukuri nibyiciro cyane, mubyukuri, umukino uri mumarembo rimwe. Ariko ubwayo, reka tuvuge, nkuko igice cyo kohereza ubutumwa kigira akamaro. Icyifuzo cyanyuze mubyifuzo byamarangamutima byukuri. Cyane cyane icyifuzo cyumugore.
Kwigira ntabwo ari ugukomeza gusa ubwoko
Muri icyo gihe, niba ukoze ku mbuga zo gukundana, sinibuka ko ijambo "cunnirsus" ryamuritse ibibazo ndetse n'imyirondoro y'agateganyo. Uku nuburyo bigoye bisa nkaho biteye isoni. Nubwo imibonano mpuzabitsina ari igice cyubuzima, kandi cunnirkus ni igice (rimwe na rimwe kwihaza) igitsina). Ingingo nyine ni nka zabigenewe, bitandukanye na blowjob. Ndetse no kubohora, nubwo muburyo bwo gucika intege, ahubwo bwahuye nubusobanuro: "... kandi niba ntashaka kwicara mumaso yanjye, ariko niba ntashaka kubeshya mu mugongo, iyo nkora byose hano ... "
Hano rero ni imibonano mpuzabitsina - ibyerekeye imyitwarire kumibonano mpuzabitsina. Ariko byerekanwe kandi bigashyikirizwa abandi bantu banyuze mumagambo. Kwizerwa kwifuzwa - bigoye. Ikiganiro gikurikirwa nugaragaza ubusokuru - gukuraho uruganda. Igihe cyose abagore babo ubwabo batangaza kumugaragaro ibyo bakunda, abagabo bazafata ibyemezo: ibishobora, ariko ibishobora kuba byiza kandi bibi. Byongeye kandi, hamwe no guceceka k'abagore, "mbere" na "nyuma yuko" imibonano mpuzabitsina ibona ko benshi bakundana.
Abagore bize nta bwoba bavuga "oya", igihe kirageze cyo kwiga no kuvuga yego, ariko hamwe n'umwuka watsinze imibonano mpuzabitsina.