- Maxim, niyihe mpamvu yo gukora ikigo cyawe?
- Hari mu 1996. Twahise twigarurira abaminisitiri nto mu kigo cyadukaga. Kuki muri Mediologiya? Nibyo, kubera ko bigaragaye ko umubare wibitero kumutima uri hejuru yinshuro 4 ugereranije ninshi ugereranije nabagore, gusubiramo kwabo ni byinshi cyane, kandi impfu zidasanzwe mu ndwara z'umutima ni hafi inshuro nyinshi. Hano hari dipanseri kandi yadutumiye gutera imbere no gushyira mubikorwa gahunda zidasanzwe zo mumitekerereze kugirango ufashe kwirinda ibitero byumutima kenshi mubagabo.
Iyi mibare ibabaje yasobanuwe yoroshye - ikintu cyingenzi, imyitwarire yabantu: Banywa inzoga nyinshi, banywa itabi, byinshi mubuzima bwabo. Muri icyo gihe, bari munsi y'abagore, bakora umurimo, kandi umuryango ni inkunga ikomeye y'amarangamutima.
- Hariho igitekerezo cyumuryango utigera ahagarara kubagabo mbere. Ariko umwuga, akazi ...
- Muri Suwede, ubushakashatsi bwakozwe bwerekanye ko abagabo bonyine barwaye cyane kuruta umuryango. Nubwo bisa nabantu bose bafite irungu ryoroshye kandi batuje. Ntakintu nkiki! Wenyine nta rwego rwo gushyigikira amarangamutima. Nkuko, abana kubagabo bafite uburyo bwinshi bwo gushyigikirwa amarangamutima kuruta kubagore. Gusa hano ibi byose birabizi.
- Ibibazo Byuburusiya byose ni ibihe?
- Ku myaka yacu, hari intambara ebyiri - ubukangurambaga bwa mbere na kabiri. Ikigo cyacu cyarakozwe mugihe cyo gutangira gutaha kuva muri Caucase capled mubyimviro byose basore - Urungano, inshuti, inshuti. Kandi twatangiye gahunda yo gutera inkunga imibereho n'imitekerereze yagarutse mu ntambara.
No hagati yo kwiyamamaza no kwa kabiri twagiye mubindi bibazo bikomeye byabagabo - ba se wenyine. Igihe twabara umubare w'ibyo (kandi ntabwo twakoresheje imibare y'impapuro gusa, kandi amaguru yacu yanyuze kuri aderesi zose kandi agenzura ukuri kw'ibihe), baratangaye cyane. Barnaul yungutse imiryango 600. Kumujyi utuwe nabaturage 650 - ntabwo ari numero nto. Ahanini ba sonewe ba papa ni abapfakazi. Abagabo basanzwe, biyubashye bakunda abagore babo. Kandi iyo umugore apfuye, iyi shusho yumugore we yakundaga kuba yababujije kongera umuryango. "Kumenyana bishya? Ni nyirabuja mubi, nyina udakwiriye wabana banjye, "bakunze kugira ibisobanuro nkibi.
Nibyiza, kandi twishora muri ibi bibazo, twahise tugera kubibazo byitwa ikibazo cyimibereho: ibintu byo kwiyahura, kubura icyerekezo cyubuzima, bisobanura ubuzima. Ni ukuvuga, ibisekuru byazimiye byagaragaye (nyuma yo gusenyuka kwa USSR). Ni 1998. Nuburyo twatangiraga akazi kacu. Noneho dufite icyerekezo kinini: kandi dukorana na ba se, hamwe nabagabo bagaragaje ubugome. Dufite kandi icyerekezo gikomeye kumusiganwa. Twaranyemeye no ku nkiko abantu bose batanze icyifuzo cyo gutandukana, batutwoherereza, mu kigo cy'ibibazo. Kubera iyo mpamvu - 30% by'imiryango irashobora gukizwa.
Ubushakashatsi bwa Suwede bwerekanye: abagabo bonyine barwaye cyane kuruta umuryango.
- Abagabo bahitamo psychologue igorofa hamwe nabo cyangwa baracyari abagore?
- Kurenza abagore. Ariko mu kigo cyacu ntaho bya phychologue gusa, inzobere nini cyane - Umunyaminyabuzima Seneologiste n'abavoka ba AMERIKA. Kuberako kumugabo, umuzingo wimibonano mpuzabitsina ari mwinshi kandi wingenzi kandi cyane, cyane cyane, uhujwe cyane nubundi buzima. Yatakaje akazi cyangwa yatangiye kubona bike - hari ibibazo mubuzima bwimibonano mpuzabitsina ako kanya (kubura inyungu ntabwo bikubiye mu gitekerezo cya Masculinity). Ibinyuranye - ibibazo byubuzima bwabagabo bizakenerwa rwose nibibazo byimibereho, kugeza kwiyahura. Ibyo rero birashimishije - hamwe nintoki zamarondo. Abakiriya bacu bahitamo umukobwa.
- Kubera iki?
Ati: "Kuberako kubwira undi mugabo kubibazo byawe biragoye cyane, aba atabimenyekana ntabwo ari inshuti, ahubwo ni umunywanyi." Kandi iyo umugore afashe, Archetype ya nyina yubatswe, ishobora kwitiranya ibintu byose no gusangira abantu bose. Nubwo hari icyerekezo cyimyambarire mumahanga - Ibigo bya psychologiya kubagabo bakora abahagarariye gusa igitsina gikomeye. Ba se ukomeye, mwiza, ufite inshingano. Basa nkaho ari urugero rwo kwigana. Ariko mubihe turimo ntabwo byagenze.
- Abagabo b'Uburusiya bitandukanye n'amahanga?
- Bitandukanye. Icya mbere, nta muco wo kwivuza mubigo bya psychologiya. Icya kabiri, abagabo bacu bavuzwe cyane cyane cyane bitwa ibintu bya pseudoopoim. Ni ukuvuga, icyizere kivuga ko "nta kintu na kimwe kizambaho, ntacyo nkwitaye kandi sinkeneye ubufasha." Ndetse afite umukunzi wa Drenobyl (twakoranye n'iki cyiciro). Nubwo basa nkaho bagize isoni zo kwikemera icyaha, kuko irrayisiyo yari ikomeye. Ariko oya: "Nta kintu na kimwe nshyigikiye kandi nanga kuvura." Twabonye neza. Iki kintu cya pseudoogoprism yumugabo, byumwihariko, impamvu yo mu gihugu cyacu hari abagabo benshi banduye virusi itera sida.
- Byagenze bite ko ikigo cyawe ari cyo cyonyine muburusiya bwose?
- Kimwe nkihariye, nta kabuhariwe kandi wakiriye inkunga ya leta - Yego, imwe rukumbi. Ariko urubanza rwamaze kwimukira mu ngingo yapfuye. Nabaruye imishinga 15 mu gihugu cyeguriwe abantu. Ariko ahanini bose bafite intego yo gukorana na ba se: wenyine, muto, bitandukanye. Kurkut nigice cya Zasomrikel. Vologda - "Abagabo bemera kujuririra abagome", muri St. Petersburg - "Papashkola" ...
Mfite igitekerezo - buryo ibi bigo byose bihuza kandi bagategura inama, uburambe bwo kungurana ibitekerezo. Kuberako abagabo bakeneye kwishora kandi bakabashora mubuzima bwumuryango, mukuzura abana. Noneho imfubyi ntizashobora kuba nke kandi abagore barushijeho, bityo rero imiryango ikomeye, yinshuti. Byongeye kandi, hari ikintu cyingenzi cyo gushimangira ubuzima bwabagabo. N'ubundi kandi, abahagarariye imibonano mpuzabitsina bikomeye afite imyaka 40 batangiye ikibazo cy'uburinganire iyo batangiye gutekereza ku mwuga, amafaranga, umubare w'abagore n'imodoka nziza, ariko kuvyo nzakomeza Ureke nonaha? "Hanyuma abo bagabo batangira kwibuka abana bombi, maze imiryango yangiritse. Ariko biratinze. Dufite icyo dukora!