Birashoboka ko ibihe bitoroshye mubuzima bwumwana no mubuzima bwababyeyi - imyaka yinzibacyuho, yuzuye imyaka 17. Muri iki gihe, impinduka kandi bibaho hanze yumwana, umwuka urashobora guhinduka buri saha, kandi ababyeyi ntibazi icyo gukora, akenshi utandukana nabihebye. Ariko, imyitwarire nkiyi y'ababyeyi irashobora guca umubano ukomeye, bityo umuntu wawe mubonana numwana agomba kuba mwiza kandi atagusiga imyanda idashimishije kumpande zombi. Nigute ushobora kunyura mugihe cyingimbi nta mijyi ikomeye hagati y'ibisekuru? Tuzabibwira muri iki gihe.
Niki Nshobora gukora nk'umubyeyi?
Gushyikirana numwana we, bihinduka umuntu mukuru akomeza kuba itegeko ryingenzi. Ntugomba gusa kubona isura ishimishije, ariko rwose fata icyifuzo cyo gusobanukirwa icyo umwana wawe abaho, ibyo afitanye isano. Itegeko rya kabiri ry'ingenzi: Nta bato. Kugirango ukore ibi, gerageza ntukoreshe "oya" yawe mumvugo yawe, usimbure utabogamye "birashoboka". Umwangavu uhuye na hormonal uzatangira kwigomeka asubiza kubuza kwawe, bizagukana kwaguka no guhohoterwa binini hagati yawe.
Ni ngombwa kandi kuzirikana imyaka yingimbi. Reka tuganire kuri buri kimwe muri byo bike.
Gerageza ntugere "Kohereza"
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Imyaka 12
Nk'itegeko, kuva imyaka 12 kuva impinduka zigaragara mumirasire nimyitwarire yumwana. Umwana wawe akiri muto ahinduka munzira yo gukura, ariko, ubu yegereye ubwana kuruta abantu bakuru, bityo rero muri iki gihe nukuvuga ", kubara", ni bangahe umwana wabo "ari we rwose Abakuze "Rero, kubitekerezo byabo, urashobora guhindura cyane amayeri yimyitwarire - kuvugana cyane nkuko abantu bakuru. Ku mwana, bizatumvikana cyane, kuko bidasobanutse neza kuki gitunguranye imyitwarire yababyeyi yahindutse cyane. Aho kwigisha gukomeye, gerageza kwinjira mumwanya wumwana: Itangira guhindura hanze, yita kubakobwa benshi batazi guhangana nibi cyangwa izindi kwigaragaza, kururugero cyangwa icyo gukora kuri imihango. Abana benshi ntibakemurwa ku kiganiro n'ababyeyi babo, kandi akenshi bifunga muri bo. Ntukemere ko bibaho ugatera intambwe igana umwana wawe.
Imyaka 13
"Gucukura" kwa hormone bigera ku mpinga ye. Muri iki gihe, umwana arashobora kugengwa rwose. Umwana atangira kumva ibimubaho kandi akagerageza kwihutisha iki gikorwa bishoboka, arashaka kubona ubwigenge ahubwo asa nkaho ashoboka kandi asa nkaho ashaje mumaso y'urungano. Kuva hano, ibyo akunda byangiza umwangavu, ababyeyi bakeneye kugenzurwa, bitabaye ibyo, hari amahirwe yuko umwangavu wawe azakurura muri serwakira. Witonze ukurikize, uzengurutse umwana wawe muri iki gihe, ariko ntugaragaze ko ushishikajwe n'ubuzima bwe, bitabaye ibyo, umwana azatangira kubuza uruhare rwawe kandi uzamenya ubuzima bwe buke kandi buke. Ntukemere.
Imyaka 14
Ingimbi hagati yimbere ninyuma. Muri kiriya gihe, arashaka abayobozi bashya, ingaruka zababyeyi ntiziba zikoreshwa. Ntutekereze ko umwana wawe yakunze cyangwa yaretse kubaha, kuri iki cyiciro akeneye kwimenyekanisha. Mu cyumba cye birashobora "gukemura" ibyapa hamwe nabahanzi batazi kuri wewe, bazatangira kwibuka umuziki urabaza, ariko ikintu kibi ushobora gukora nukuzaramuka. Gerageza kuganira ningimbi yawe, ariko ubikore icyubahiro, uko ushoboye kuganira nawe nkumwana. Ugomba kugera ku kwizerana numwana wa adhent, kugirango wihishe kure bishoboka, utinya abakemu.
Imyaka 15-16
Igihe umwana yari asanzwe afite isosiyete yayo, havutse ibyiyumvo byambere bikomeye, aracyagaragara murugo kandi ibiganiro byawe bireka kugarukira kubibazo byishuri. Noneho umwana afite igitekerezo cya nyuma, yemeye ko ari shyashya, nubwo hariho imirimo myinshi, mbere yuko umwangavu abaho imico yuzuye. Umwangavu utangiye gushinga ibidukikije, bizasangira inyungu ze, kandi ntibishobora kuba abo mwigana cyangwa inshuti mu gice cya siporo. Hano, ni ngombwa ko ababyeyi badatakaza ingimbi, nubwo, niba ufite guhura mumyaka yose yashize, ntugomba kugira ibibazo bikomeye, kuko ikintu cyingenzi tumaze kuvuga, umva kandi wumve umwana wawe , nubwo adafite igitutu gikomeye mubuzima bwe bushya.