Benshi muritwe dukorera mumakipe, ariko, ikibabaje, ntabwo mubice byose mu kirere bigomba kuvugana nubucuti. Amazimwe ahoraho, mu maso h'abakozi bafite ubwoba birashobora guteza ibyago bikomeye psyche. Kandi ntamuntu numwe ufite ubwishingizi bwo gukanda no gutontoma mumakipe. Ariko icyo gukora, niba ukomeje kuba ikibazo cyo gutotezwa kwa psychologiya? Twagerageje kubimenya.
Guhura gake
Nkuko amategeko, umusasu agerageza kukuzanira amakimbirane muburyo bwose, kandi birashoboka kubikora gusa hamwe no guhura kenshi. Byose bitangirana na gato: ubanza igitero kinyuranya nuwawe, ugerageza kubyuka "kurwego rumwe", kurugero, bikuvugaho kuri "wowe", nubwo umuntu ashobora kuvugana na "Wowe", nubwo umuntu ashobora kuvugana nabandi bakoranye . Ukimara kubona ibihe bisa, gerageza kwimura itumanaho ryose muburyo bwanditse, nkuko unaniwe kureka guhuza burundu - uracyakora muri societe imwe kandi, wenda mu ishami rimwe. Byongeye kandi, mugihe habaye ijwi ryo gusuzugura, uzagira ibimenyetso bifatika muburyo bwa ecran ya inzandiko yawe.
Komeza mu maboko yawe
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Ntukibeshye wenyine
Kenshi na kenshi, ibyatsi biruwe kandi byunguka imbaraga niba uwahohotewe aracecetse kandi nta gikorwa na kimwe akora. Biragaragara ko bidashoboka buri gihe kwatura ko ufite ikibazo nkiki mumakipe, nubwo mubyukuri ibintu bimeze bikomeye. Niba usobanukiwe ko bitagishoboye kwihanganira ubujurire cyangwa uburozi hamwe na mugenzi wawe wisanzuye utubangamira gukora neza akazi kabo, ntabwo ari igikapu kigisha inama. Mugihe umutware adakora, asobanure uko ibintu bimeze.
Ntukemere kuntanura
Nkuko twabivuze, ni ngombwa cyane kwisakuza kugirango ugere kumarangamutima muri wewe (birumvikana, mbi), bityo bizategereza umwanya iyo usanze muburyo bushyigikiwe cyane. Ugomba buri gihe mubitekerezo kandi witegure kuba mugihe uganira nuyu muntu, ugomba guhurira hamwe no kugumya mumaboko yawe, nubwo ushaka kwizirika kumuhogo. Ntutange igitero cyibyishimo.
Ntabwo ari impamvu yo gutobora
Abaterankunga ba psychologuste bakunze gutanga igitekerezo ko abantu bamwe bakomeza kuba igitambo mubuzima bwose, niyo mpamvu umuntu nkuyu yahoraga afite igitutu impande zose. Ariko, birakenewe gusobanukirwa nibyo utazaba umuntu, cyane cyane mugihe wowe ubwawe utagerageza kuzamuka kuri rogger, ntibishobora kuba urwitwazo rwimyitwarire kuri wewe. Wibuke uburyo abo mukorana bafashwe mu mirimo yabanjirije, niba nta bihe byateye mu ruhande rwawe, iki nikindi kimenyetso cyerekana ko hari ibitagenda neza mu ikipe yawe.
Kora bidatinze
Iyo usanze gusa kurwego rwa "Urwego rwambere" rwa Heit, ntushobora no kwitondera ko mugenzi wawe aherekeza vuba cyane mu cyerekezo cyawe, yakoze ijambo ritemewe nibintu byose. Birasa nkaho ari byiza kugenda gusa, ntukagire ikibazo cyamakimbirane. Mubyukuri, usuzugura gusa uwakoze icyaha. Niba urwana neza bidatinze, urwego rwo kwifuza kugukurikirana ruzakomeza kugenda, kandi birashoboka ko uwagavye azahinduka nawe kuvugana nawe, kuko urashobora kwihagararaho wenyine.