Umubare munini wabantu bemera ko kuba umufatanyabikorwa hazakuraho imyumvire yo gukandamiza. Ariko, iyo umuntu wifuzaga agaragara mubuzima, arazimya, ibintu byose ntabwo byoroshye kandi kumva ko bidashobora kugenda gusa, ahubwo bikarushaho kwiyongera. Twahisemo kumenya impamvu ibi bibaho kandi birashoboka kugira icyo ubikoraho.
Kuba umuntu
Igihe kirekire "ukura" ibyiyumvo byangiza muri wowe ubwawe, sooner psyche yawe izatsindwa, ntamuntu numwe uzi uko bizabaho - ibi birashobora kumera nko guhungabana gutanga ubwoba no kwita kubahungabana Hafi yikibazo icyo ari cyo cyose mu mibanire irashobora gukemurwa, kubiba kumeza yo kuganira. Ntabwo ari gake cyane kuburyo kwitandukanya muri couple hari umwe gusa mubafatanyabikorwa, birashoboka cyane ko igice cya kabiri cya kabiri cyumva kitorohewe. Sobanura ibyiyumvo byabo, hamwe uzaba byoroshye kubishakira ibisubizo.
Umubano wawe ni uburambe bwawe.
Ingaruka nini ku mibanire zitangwa na societe, cyane cyane imiyoboro rusange. Muri rubbon tubona inshuti, abo tuziranye nibitangazamakuru byitangazamakuru bavuga uko ubumwe bwabo ari bwiza hamwe numufatanyabikorwa. Ibi byose, ntitubimenye, bigira ingaruka kumibanire yabo. Irashobora gutangira nkaho igice cya kabiri ari kibi kandi nticyishyura igihe kinini nka "Umugabo Utunganye, Avuga kuri buri mwanya." Reka guhinduranya amashusho yabandi, ntabwo uzi uburyo amagambo yumukunzi wawe cyangwa inyenyeri itaha mubumwe, ugomba kwibanda kubumwe bwawe, ugomba kwibanda kubumwe bwawe, wibuke ingingo nziza mwahuye, kandi kubibazo byo gusobanukirwa, Bikemure mugihe twaganiriye kare tuvugana numugabo wawe.
Ntukagumane ibyiyumvo bidashimishije
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Ntabwo ufite inyungu rusange.
Nibyo, shakisha umufatanyabikorwa mwiza kandi icyarimwe - umuntu umeze nkubwenge, ntabwo byoroshye. Biragoye cyane kubashakanye aho umugabo numugore bakorera mu turere dutandukanye rwose kandi inyungu zabo ntizishobora kwambuka. Muri iki gihe, turimo gukora iki, ni ukuvuga ko, kugerageza gushaka ingingo zo kuvugana n'ahantu ho gushimisha usanzwe ufite. Dufate ko umugabo wawe ari umusazi kubyerekeye amayeri kuri kamere, kandi uri umufana. Iyo abafatanyabikorwa bombi bashidikanya ku gice cya kabiri, amakimbirane avuka kandi kwitandukanya n'amarangamutima tugomba guhangana nabyo. Gerageza gukingura ushya no kwinjiza mubusabane bwa mugenzi wawe muto, kandi umuhe kubikora. Dufate, rimwe mu kwezi mu mpeshyi urashobora kujya kuri kamere hamwe, kandi umugabo arashobora gusura siporo inshuro nyinshi mu kwezi, ahitamo byibuze simulator imwe. Ariko, ni ngombwa kwerekana ko ushishikajwe ubikuye ku mutima, kwiyambuka, urimo guhangayika cyane.
Twemera abafatanyabikorwa
Mu ntangiriro yumubano, mugihe duhumye amaso numucyo, bisa nkaho umukunzi adashobora kugira inenge. Ibintu byose birahinduka mugihe paddle iguye ugatangira kumenya uwahisemo hafi. Muri iki kibazo, ibihe bidashimishije birashobora guhishurwa, ibyo utakeka. Ni ngombwa kumva ko umugabo wawe ari umuntu umwe hamwe nibyiza byayo namakuba, kuba adashobora kukwumva hamwe nigice-cyijambo ntibisobanura ko adashobora kukugira abashakanye. Guhitamo umuntu uhora uhinduka hamwe no gutenguha bikabije, ujyane, bisa nkaho udasobanukiwe, ariko mubyukuri utariteguye "gufungura": biragaragara ko afite imbibi zayo. Gerageza kwakira umuntu uko ari, kugerageza kuvuga imico no guhindura ingeso gusa kumakimbirane.