Mubuzima bwa buri muntu, igihe kibaho mugihe ibintu byose "byuzuye", ndashaka guterera no kwiruka mubitazwi. Nibintu bisanzwe kumuntu ukura, gukura mubitekerezo, ntabwo ari pasiporo gusa.
Kuva mu bwana, turota ubuzima bushimishije, kandi twumve umunezero wawe kuri buri wese. Ikibazo kiratandukanye - turashaka guhinduka, turota impinduka, dutegereje impinduka kandi icyarimwe bafite ubwoba. Ikigaragara ni uko benshi muri twe "bicaye mu mutwe." Kandi nini kandi ndende "wicaye" muri uyu mutwe cyane, ntabwo ari imbaraga zawe (imbaraga) mu ndege z'umubiri, ni inzira yo kurimbuka ku ndwara za psychosomatique no kwica ibipimo by'ubukungu.
Icyifuzo kizwi cyane - Nigute wakwirinda? Kimwe no ku mashage, umubare munini wibitabo ku ngingo "Nigute wakwishima?"
Igisubizo cyanjye ntigisaba ukuri kurugero rwa nyuma, ariko nanyuze muri iki kibazo ubwanjye, mpisha kanseri nibibazo mubucuti. Impinduka ntizizanwa vuba, ariko rwose ziza, niba uhinduye ibitekerezo byawe (gari ya moshi) hanyuma ureke ikirego mu nshingano zibisubizo byihuse.
Umuhanga mu by'imitekerereze, Igishushanyo cy'impuguke Svetlana Kovalenko
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Intambwe yanjye ku yindi yigisha:
1. Reka kwibeshya, wige kuba inyangamugayo wenyine.
Turere tuzamura ibitekerezo byabandi, yego, uku kwibeshya gushingiye kumutwe wumwana gusubira mu bwana bwa kure. Umuntu wese arashobora kwibuka ubwinshi bwibikorwa "Niki cyangwa icyo umwana agomba gukunda", ibikwiye kuba byiza, shakisha noneho wubashywe muri societe. Kwamamaza kandi bishyiraho ubuziranenge bw'imyitwarire no kugura ibisabwa - "kugura kandi uzishima."
Yoo, turabizi mubihe byashize ... igihe twarababajwe, guhemukirwa cyangwa guteguremwa ... Duhereye kuri iyi leta, tumenyereye gusa gutekereza gusa kubyo tudashaka kutubaho. Ibiganiro byimbere igihe cyose gitanga ububiri - ibyiza / bibi, iburyo / ntabwo aribyo.
Niki - Reka ibinyoma kuri wewe? Ibi bifata ibyiza byose hamwe nibidukikije, ni ukumenya kuboneka cyangwa kubura ibisubizo bimwe mubuzima, kandi niba abakeneye rwose, cyangwa ibi bishizemo intego. "VRACHIER" kuri gahunda y'amarangamutima isa n'iki: Urumva ikintu kimwe, utekereza ko ikindi (dlyaly), hanyuma uvuge icya gatatu - nta buringanire.
2. Erekana, mbere ya byose, gukunda wenyine.
Bavuga byinshi kubyerekeye urukundo, baramwandika kuri we, barashaka - mugushakisha igice cyabo cya kabiri. Reba niba, nyamuneka, iki, hejuru cyangwa hepfo, ibumoso cyangwa iburyo?
Ibyinshi mu nteruro "Kunda mugenzi wawe nkuko wikunda" - Nigute wamukunda niba umuntu ubwe yifuza wenyine kandi afata. Mu mutwe buri munsi, ibitekerezo byihuta ko adakora uko nshaka kandi uko ntekereza ko ari byiza. Tugomba gusuzuma byose kandi buri gihe, kuri autopilot.
Gukunda isi biratangira, nabyo, gukunda wenyine. Iyo ubifite birenze, ntabwo Sadko gutya, udasabwa ikintu mubisubizo.
3. Wige gukoresha amagambo meza ukavuga ko akenshi wifuza kumva.
Ubwonko, kurwego rwindimi, kugirango usubize igice cyamagambo agereranya, gukuramo ishusho yibibazo bisa kuva mububiko, kugirango wemeze neza. Ugereranya ikintu gishya mubuzima bwawe hamwe namashusho asanzwe azwi kuri bo, kandi niba bidakwiye, amarangamutima yubwoba no guhakana mubikorwa, ni ukuvuga amakimbirane.
Ubwoba - Ndakwibutsa, igikinisho gikundwa gishaka akoresha kugirango ahagarike shebuja. Mu migenzo y'ibidukikije, kandi irwanya impinduka ziteye ubwoba z'umwe mu banyamuryango bayo. Bagerageza rero kukwambura imbaraga "kumanura" (nka vampire) binyuze mu gukora amarangamutima mabi - inzika, uburakari - hamwe n '"byose kubwuzure kuburyo wagumye kera. Gusa kera nta mbaraga zihari, noneho ni kahise.
4. Wige bike kugirango unenga amagambo, tekereza neza kandi urakoze.
Niba utangiye ubwenge kandi unenga abandi cyangwa nawe wenyine kubyo wagombaga gukora, nkuko ubishaka cyangwa nkuko wabivuze - ubanza kubanza kubaho. Ubushobozi bwo kuba hano kandi ubu ntabwo bwo gutekereza gusa, ahubwo no muri ibi bihe. Shiraho muri wowe, leta ukeneye kandi utangire gukora.
5. Gutekereza kubaka ni ngombwa cyane.
Ni ubuhe buryo urota ejo hazaza hawe? Kenshi na kenshi, iyi ni gahunda - dutekereza kubyo tudashaka kutubaho, na none dialine ni byiza / bibi. Nta bushake bwo kujya mu gihe kizaza, gufata ibya kera "uko byagenda kose", kubera ko mu bwonko hari ukumva. Nkwifurije kujya ubumwe hamwe na gahunda yanjye igana no mu byishimo.
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