Ibyinshi mubibazo mubusabane bwacu nigice cyabo biterwa no kutumva neza, bigenwa nitandukaniro muburyo bwo kubaka umubano. Umugore akenshi yiteze ko kwigaragaza kimwe no kwizirikana nurukundo ushoboye kwigaragaza kimwe, ariko biteganijwe, umugabo ntashobora gutanga ibyateganijwe, ariko byose kuko afite inzira zacyo, atumvikana kubagore. None abo bantu bafite amayobera batandukanye? Tuzagerageza kubimenya.
Kurushaho
Igitekerezo "Umugore akunda amatwi, kandi amaso yumuntu" ntakeneye kubyemeza. Niba ibyiyumvo bikomeye bidashoboka kubera imibonano mpuzabitsina neza ntaho ahuriye kumarangamutima, noneho umugabo ni ngombwa kumva kumubiri kugirango bumve umubiri. Niyo mpamvu hariho ibirego by'abagore nka: "Kuki utavugana nanjye?", "Ukeneye gusa imibonano mpuzabitsina gusa?" Oya, ntabwo gusa. Ariko ubucuti bwumubiri busobanura kubagabo igice cya kabiri kirenze umugore, bityo rero umufatanyabikorwa ntahagarara mubufatanye - birakenewe kuri we.
Uratekereza iki?
Ntabwo ari ibanga gutekereza kubagabo nabagore bitandukanye cyane, niko bigenda no gukunda umubano. Amakimbirane menshi abera kubera kutumva nabi ibitsina kubafatanyabikorwa. Umugabo atekereza kuri gahunda nkiyi: isobanura ikintu, itekereza kuri gahunda y'ibikorwa, ikomeza kwicwa. Inzira nkiyi yibitekerezo irakenewe numuhigi mwiza, uyumunsi umugore ukeneye kuneshwa mumwanya wo "ubucukuzi". Umugore, na we ntashobora gukora nta marangamutima, ahuza ibitekerezo bye byose kandi yikigereranyo, birakwiye ko umuntu areba mubyerekezo bye. Umugabo ntashobora gukora niba adatsinzwe bikomeye.
Ntabwo buri muntu yiteguye kwerekana ibyiyumvo bye kumugaragaro
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Kandi hano ababyeyi?
Mubyukuri, uburere hamwe nurufatiro rwumuryango rugira uruhare runini mugihe cyo gukemura ibibazo byurukundo. Ntibikwiye kuvuga uburyo uburere bw'abahungu n'abakobwa n'abakobwa butandukanye, kubwo kuba mukuru, ubu hari abagabo, atari abagabo, ntabwo ari abahungu, gerageza kubahiriza inzitizi zisanzwe: nta marangamutima n'amarira, kwigaragaza - byinshi y'abagore. Ntutekereze rero ko umukunzi wawe ari isoko ridafite umutegarugori utaranyirengagije wenda ko atamenyereye gusa kwerekana amarangamutima kumugaragaro.
Ndi umudendezo
Mu rwego rwo kubaho mu mujyi munini, umudendezo usabwa umugabo n'umugore. Nibyo, ntabwo ari imibanire yubuntu, ariko nko kuruhukira. Ni ngombwa kutakandagira "gukuraho urugo" ku ijosi ry'umuntu. Niba ashaka guhura n'inshuti, akenshi, ibintu nibyo rwose. Abagabo ntibabaho igitekerezo cyubutunzi niba umukunzi wawe yavuze kuri gahunda ya wikendi, aho inshuti ze zigaragara, ntukihutire kwihutira kandi kubuza kubamo. Reka umugabo wawe ahindukire kugirango ugaruke hamwe nimbaraga nshya.