Abashakanye bakunzwe cyane mu Burusiya - umukwe na nyirabukwe. Niba kandi amakimbirane asekeje, noneho mubuzima aba bombi akenshi ntibakora mbere yo guseka: rimwe na rimwe amakimbirane agahato kandi ubwumvikane buke buganisha ku gusenyuka k'umuryango. Niba kandi abashakanye babanaga na nyirabukwe mu nzu imwe, umubano uriyongera kugera ku mbibi. Nigute rero kubikora kugirango udahitamo hagati ya nyoko numugabo wawe?
Kuki nyirabukwe avuga
Kuri nyina, umwana ufite imyaka iyo ari yo akomeje kurere ikiremwa, cyongeye, ukurikije ababyeyi, akeneye kwita no gufasha mu gufata icyemezo. Gusa abagore bato basobanukiwe ko umukobwa wabo yamaze igihe kinini ari umuntu wakuze wenyine ubwe ashoboye guhitamo umuntu no kubaka umubano na we nta kwivanga. Ni ibiki bivugwa ko hashobora kubaho hafi ya nyirabukwe?
Umugore yizera ko mu mukobwa we, ntayo, cyangwa undi, cyangwa undi arashoboye gufata icyemezo gikomeye kuri iki kibazo cyangwa icyo kibazo, bityo intervention irakenewe. Mu bihe nk'ibi, umugabo akeneye kwerekana nyirabukwe, ko umukobwa we yahisemo neza, yishingikirije ku muntu ufite inshingano. Ariko, mubihe bimwe, "ibikorwa byawe" byawe ntibishobora kugira ingaruka kumugore wibanze.
Nyirabukwe arashobora kubaza nkana ibikorwa by'umukwe, kuko ubwe avuga ubutware mumaso yumukobwa we. Biragoye kuri we kwakira ko umukobwa ukuze ubonye umufasha n'umujyanama imbere yundi muntu.
Ntabwo hashobora kutamenya amahirwe. Hanyuma atangira kurwanya ibyo umuntu azakora byose. Umugore yemera ko gusa ashoboye guhitamo umukobwa we uburenganzira, ariko ibyo yabonye ntabwo ari byiza ahantu hose. Umukobwa atangiye kurakara, agaragaza nyina kutemera, bityo akanakomeza guhangana n'abantu babiri bahenze.
Mama arashobora kugirira ishyari umukobwa we. Niba icyuho kinini cyubwonko mubuzima bwumubyeyi, atangira kwangiza ubu buzima hamwe na bene wabo atangira, birumvikana, hamwe na hafi.
Abagore benshi biragoye kwemera ko umukobwa amaze gukura
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Kuki Umukwe w'amakimbirane
Akenshi, impamvu yo gutongana ihinduka umukwe. Umuntu wese afite ibitekerezo n'ibitekerezo byayo mubibazo bimwe nigihe igitekerezo cye gitandukanye cyane nibindi bitekerezo, kuri iki gitekerezo cyacu, kuri twe, nyirabukwe, byanze bikunze. Ni izihe mpamvu zitera abagabo?
Niba umugabo yari afite uburere bugoye, reka tuvuge ko nyamara umubyeyi akandamiza cyangwa yahise ashyikiriza ibintu bibi, avuga ko ari bibi cyane, yimura ishusho mbi ya nyina.
Icyifuzo cyo kuganza. Birumvikana ko mu isi y'abagabo utabifite, ahubwo ni ubuzima bwuzuye bwumuryango, guhinduka ni ngombwa. Nyirabukwe bombi, kandi umukwe bombi ni abantu bakomeye kandi bakomeye, kandi nabo baba ku ifasi imwe, bitinde bitebuke, bazatangira kugabana akarere nyine.
Gusuzugura nyirabukwe. Impamvu yamakimbirane yarubakishijwe ashobora kuba urwango rwihariye, mugihe umugabo kubwimpamvu zitandukanye atangira kwanga nyina wumugore we, kandi aragikora kumugaragaro.
Rimwe na rimwe "urukundo" mama n'umugabo barangirira kumunsi wubukwe
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Iyo umugore abibonye
Rimwe na rimwe, impande zombi zirashobora kubaho amahoro kugeza igihe umugore yagize icyo akora. Imanza zitoroshye - Iyo umugore amaze kubaho ubuzima bwinshi na nyina kandi ntashobora gufata ibyemezo wenyine, kubera ko ubusanzwe yari umuntu wubatswe. Noneho, kuba umugore wubatse, akomeza kuba abatishoboye kandi mubihe byose bidasobanutse yitabaza nyina, nubwo byaba ari byiza umugabo we. Kubera iyo mpamvu, abashakanye baha ubuzima bakurikije amategeko ya nyirabukwe, nubwo umugabo yashakanye n'undi mugore, nyina "amategeko" mu nzu ye. Muri uru rubanza, umugore asabwa kugisha inama psychologue, ariko ibi birashoboka gusa niba atari we ubwe yemeye kubaho nkikibazo nkiki.
Niba amakimbirane adakemutse, bizaganisha ku gutandukana
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Kutumva neza mumuryango bihindura inzu kurugamba ruhoraho, kurenga ku buzima busanzwe. Mu nzu nk'iyi ntizishimishije kugaruka, abaturage bose bafite ubwoba, ijambo iryo ari ryo ryose ritorohewe rirashobora gukura mu gikona gikomeye.
Rimwe na rimwe, umugore agomba guhitamo: Gumana n'umugabo we, ariko kurambagiza iteka na nyina, cyangwa ubutane. Nta na kimwe mu buryo bwo guhitamo kizakwiriye. Ni ngombwa gukomeza umubano kumpande zombi no kugerageza byibuze, ariko kugirango ubahuze hamwe.
Niba ibiganiro bidafasha, kandi nyirabukwe yimuka ku cyiciro cyafunguye urwango, mugihe cyaho cya vuba ugomba kohereza "Couple", kuko inzobere mu mitekerereze, kuko gusa inzobere gusa zishobora kuvuka amakimbirane mabi kugeza igihe biyobowe n'ibisubizo bibabaje.