Amakimbirane ni igice cyingenzi mubuzima bwacu bwa buri munsi. Biragoye kwiyumvisha ko no mumuryango wishimye kandi uhuza ntabwo wabaye amakimbirane, nubwo gusa kubibazo byo murugo. Muri icyo gihe, mu miryango imwe n'imwe bahitanye "Ibyifuzo by'Ubutaliyani", ariko bakomeje gukomera kandi abashyingiranywe mu myaka mirongo ishize, ndetse n'amakimbirane y'inzirakarengane hafi yahise atera gutandukana.
Mubyukuri, amakimbirane mu miryango ahora afite impamvu zabo. Kenshi na kenshi, ni hejuru ya ice ice yingorane zo kuvurwa no kwivuguruza. Niba muri societe gakondo, umuco wumuryango wageriweho n'imigenzo y'imyaka, ibipimo by'amadini, ubu imiryango yaremwe n'abantu bafite uburezi butandukanye, imico, icyitegererezo cy'imyitwarire y'imbere mu ngo. Benshi mu bashakanye basanzwe bafite uburambe bwo kubaho mu muryango cyangwa kubana neza, hafi buri gihe byemeza ko habaho kashe hamwe na stereotypes, ugereranije nibintu byifuzwa byimyitwarire mumuryango nubuzima bwa buri munsi.
Ibintu byambere kandi byingenzi kugirango birinde amakimbirane yumuryango nuburyo bwo gufungura abo bashakanye kuri mugenzi wawe no kubahana. Inzitizi zihishe, ibinyoma, buri gihe uhora unyurwa n'ibikorwa ndetse na kamere y'uwo mwashakanye wa kabiri - intambwe yambere iganisha ku mibereho y'amakimbirane kandi, amaherezo, cyangwa gusenya umubano wo gushyingirwa no gusenyuka Imikorere, ibihimbano abashakanye bahindukirira abaturanyi mu miturire rusange, kandi ntabwo bari mubantu ba hafi b'abantu.
Iyo ikibazo runaka kigaragara mumuryango, ikintu cyumvikana cyane ko abashakanye bashobora gukora ari uguyiganiraho bucece, nta gutukwa, gutukana no kwimuka kubantu. Tekereza ko dukemura ikibazo cyavutse kukazi - muri sosiyete cyangwa ikigo cya leta: Abakozi ba leta: abo dukorana bihagije ntibizigera bicikamo gutaka no gutaka. Nk'uko gahunda imwe, ibibazo bigomba kuganirwaho mubuzima bwa buri muryango: Amafaranga yo kurera abana ndetse nintera imbere. Umaze kwiga kuvugana kumugaragaro ukuri, umvana kandi wumvene, urashobora kwirinda amakimbirane menshi ugakiza umuryango kurimbuka.
Birumvikana ko ikintu gikomeye ni ubushobozi bwo kwishyira mu mwanya w'abashakanye bombi. Niba nta mubabaro, itumanaho ryuzuye, rivuye ku mutima ntibishoboka: Uwo mwashakanye wenyine ntashobora kwiyumvisha mu mwanya w'undi bashakanye kandi akakumva ko uwo mu bashakanye yumva.
Ubushobozi bwo kwikorera wenyine, icyifuzo cyo kunoza imiterere yabo n'imibanire yabo nuwo mwashakanye / uwo mwashakanye ni inzira y'ingenzi ikurikira yo gukumira amakimbirane mu miryango. Kubwamahirwe, abashakanye benshi bakurikiza umwanya wigitutu ku bashakanye wa kabiri kugira ngo bayihindure kandi bashyireho amategeko y'umukino, ariko ntibakoresha uyu mwanya. Hagati aho, imyitwarire nk'iyi ni "Mini gahoro" ku rufatiro rw'imibanire y'abantu mu bashakanye cyangwa kubana. Ntabwo ari ngombwa gutegereza impinduka zose zibyiza kuva igice cyayo cya kabiri, ariko nanone guhindura byinshi (we ubwe) zigaragaza ibikorwa byabo bibi no gushaka kubigabanya. Niba umwe mubashakanye yubahiriza moderi yikunda gusa kandi isaba kuyifata nkuko biri, noneho ibibazo byanze bikunze kandi umuryango nkuyu uzahinduka kubana neza.
Tugomba kumva ko ibiganiro bifunguye, impuhwe nubushake bwo kubaha mugenzi wawe nibyingenzi byubuzima bwumuryango, amakimbirane arimo ahakaze, ariko ntazashobora gusenya.