Byose biratangira ... kuva kera. Wowe ubwawe, mugenzi wawe, ubuzima.
Duhereye ku myitozo ye ikorana n'abakiriya bashaka gushyiraho umubano mwiza n'umufatanyabikorwa, nabonye impengamiro yo "kwibagirwa" ko imibonano mpuzabitsina ari kimwe mu bintu by'ibanze muri iki kibazo.
Gushakisha ko umukiriya yiteze kumibonano mpuzabitsina ejo hazaza cyangwa ko bishobora gutanga iyi sano, 10% byimanza bita igitsina cyiza. Ahasigaye, nta no kuvugwa.
Iyo avugana namaze ku bijyanye n'ibibazo n'ibibazo by'inararibonye mu buriri, byagaragaye ko hagaragaye ikintu kiboneka muri twe, abagore bakeneye gusa ", abantu bose barabitsina bati:" Abagabo bose barabitsina Abesaki "," ngomba kubanza gutekereza ku bana. " Nanone, benshi batinya kubohorwa bati: "Nahise sinzabyumva," "Mfite isoni," "Ngomba kwigira," "Njye mbona ntangarugero kandi ntitinya kumubabaza," "Kandi ubusobanuro ni gukora ibyo ntazana umunezero? " n'ibindi
Hariho indi mpamvu - "Mfite induru zihagije zo mu mwuka, ibindi byose byaragaragaye kandi ntacyo bitwaye, ikintu nyamukuru nuko dukundana."
Kubwamahirwe, twatakaje gusobanukirwa n'akamaro kamashuri yimibonano mpuzabitsina mumuryango. Ababyeyi ntibabwira abana ibikenewe kwiyitaho ndetse na bo mu gihe kizaza, batera abantu batishoboye, batenguha, gutenguha, gutakaza icyubahiro, izindi ngaruka zidashimishije hamwe n'ingaruka zidashimishije.
Marina Alyasova, umuhanga mubusabane, Umwanditsi wigitabo "Ntugende, Abakobwa, bashyingiwe ..."
Niki? Nigute wakwirinda izi mbogamizi zose kandi wishime rwose mubucuti?
Ubwa mbere, ni ngombwa kumenya ko umuryango mwiza umeze nk'ishusho nziza, ibintu byose mu mwanya wacyo: Igicucu cyatoranijwe mu mwuga, igicucu, aho imibare, buri kintu gikoraho ikinamico. Ntakintu kirenga. Ndashaka kureba ishusho nkiyi no kwishimira ubwiza bwe, ubujyakuzimu nubuhanga bwumuhanzi. Kandi buri gihe, uyireba, ikintu gishya, mbere kitamenyekana, ariko nticyari cyiza.
Icya kabiri, ndasaba kumenya ko ababyeyi bishimye bose hamwe hamwe barashobora gutuma abana babo bishimye.
Icya gatatu, gusa iyo dukora ikintu twishimye, mubyukuri tubaho mu byishimo.
Reka rero wishimire ibyo ukora byose. Kandi ntacyo bitwaye - Urategura, uzamure abana cyangwa kuvugana numugabo wawe. Ndetse no guhura nuwo ukunda, ni ngombwa kwiga uburyo bwo kwishimira, bitabaye ibyo, kubera iki uri kumwe?
Tangira umubano wawe numurava, mbere ya byose, mubijyanye nawe wenyine kandi, kubwibyo, bijyanye na mugenzi wawe. Niba igitsina kitari imbere yawe, ntugomba guhura numugabo ufite umwanya wambere. Bitinde bitebuke, ibi bizaganisha ku kibazo cyo kutumvikana, kandi amahirwe menshi yo gutandukana no gutandukana bizagaragara.
Emera kwinezeza nkubushobozi bwo kuganira, cyane cyane mubihe nkibi byimbitse. Wizere kandi ufungure mugenzi wawe, umva wowe ubwawe - ibyiyumvo byawe, amarangamutima, ibyiyumvo. Kwiyumvisha ubwawe bizagufasha kubaka umubano uhuza kandi ushimishe itumanaho. Guteza imbere umunezero mubice byose byubuzima bwawe hamwe.
Kandi wibuke, umugabo yishimye cyane iyo umugore we yishimiye inzira aho guharanira kumushimisha. Kandi hano ibintu byose biratsindwa - umugore numugabo, nubusabane. Ishimire kandi ukundane.