Vuba aha, abagore bashaka kubyara umwana bakunze kuntukira. Abenshi muri bo bafite imyaka 30, babaye mu mwuga. Noneho, mugihe bisa nkaho byeze kandi byiteguye, abana babo kubwimpamvu runaka ntibabifata.
Ntabwo nzareba ibintu byubuvuzi kuki abagore bigoye gusama cyangwa gufata umwana. Tuzareba ibintu bisanzwe byimitekerereze kuri bo. Kandi kubera ubugingo (cyangwa ahubwo, psyche) numubiri bifitanye isano, umubiri uhabwa itsinda ko kubana bakiri kare.
Rero, ibintu rusange muri rusange muri aba bagore ni bikwiye gutunganirwa, kwifuza ibitekerezo.
Bamwe muribo bashaka umugabo mwiza cyane uzahinduka umugabo wintangarugero na se mwiza w'abana babo. Hano hari abayobozi bagendana / abanditsi / sisitemu (gusimbuza umwuga uwo ariwo wose) ntibizakwira. Ikeneye abakire, bafite ubuzima bwiza, bafite ubwenge, bakurikiye, igitsina, gikomeye, gikuze, gukunda mubitekerezo no gukundana kandi (kwitondera) umugabo wese uzabishaka. Ariko, kubwamakuba yawe, abagore bafite inzozi nkizo nabo natwe abanyabwenge. Bavuga ko ari ibi: "Kugira ngo umuntu nk'uwo ashaka umuryango wanjye, ngomba kandi guhura." Hanyuma uze kuzana gutungana. Ahantu n'amahitamo kuri iyi misa: Kuva muri siporo mumasomo kuri Feng Shui, massage ya erotic ninzira 30 zo gutegura sandwiches.
Ibi byose ubwabyo ni byiza, ariko ikigaragara ni uko muri iyi nzira ntibishoboka guhagarara. Uko umugore "arushaho kumera", amahirwe menshi yo gufata umwanya uri kumwe numugore nkuyu na kamere ye, kandi ntibishoboka kuba nyina - kandi ntibishoboka kuba nyina - erega, ntarabona Abana babereye cyane.
Kubamaze gufata icyemezo ku bana hamwe na se, ikindi kibazo: urugero, ubuzima. Bikwiye kuba intungane, byuzuye kugirango abana bavutse bafite ubuzima bwiza. Abagore nkabo bakunda iyi nsanganyamatsiko nkaho bashaka kuguruka mu kirere, kandi ntibabyara abana.
Umuntu afite ubuzima bwiza, ariko amafaranga nikibazo, shakisha gutanga ingorane zose zishoboka zamafaranga, kwiruka cyangwa gusaba kubagabo batanze imyaka 100 imbere.
Umuntu akeneye kubyara umwana afite imyaka 30-35. Kuberako isabukuru yimyaka 35 idafite umwana numunsi w'icyunamo. N'imyaka 5 mbere yibyo - kwirukana imibereho.
Kandi ishingiro ryibi byose ni itunganijwe, icyifuzo cyo kubahiriza igitekerezo cyiza kandi gikwiye ubwacyo nubuzima bwabo, ubufatanye nubuyobozi.
Ikibazo gusa nicyo gihe cyo kubyara ni ikosa ryikosa. Abana ntibahuye mu bipimo kimwe mu bipimo. Kurya, gusinzira, kurira, gukura, birarwaye, ntabwo bitera imbere ukurikije gahunda cyangwa gahunda, ariko kuri kamere yabo. Ariko abanyamuryango babigoye biragoye kwemera kudatungana kandi no ubwabo, nabandi, bityo, ingingo yabana izasubizwa inyuma - nyuma ya byose, bizagomba kumenya ubusembwa bwabo bwose kandi mubibazo byinshi - byuzuye fiasco yabo.
Nta gukingira bivuyemo, usibye kwiga gukora amakosa, reka kugenzura no kwemerera kuba muzima, ntabwo ari intungane. Abana ni abarimu beza b'urukundo rutagira icyo rutagira icyo rutarenze kandi ababo. Abana ntibataye amafaranga kuri Mama mu gikapo, akora neza amenyo kandi niba ihuye nibitekerezo bijyanye numugore wa Vedic. Bazakenera uwo mama uwo ari.
By the way, sisitemu yo gutungana irashobora gukeka guhamagarwa muri iyi ngingo kugirango yijugunye n'iterambere ryabo. Ariko sibyo. Igikorwa nukureba gusa amahame uharanira kugeraho amaherezo aba nyina. Ahari wowe ubwawe ufite serivisi yubuhamya kandi ukureho gusa igihe cyo gukundwa gusa.
Maria Dyachkova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yibikorwa byimikurire yimyidagaduro Marika Khazin