Ntacyo bivuze guha imibare yerekeye gutandukana mu Burusiya no ku isi - abantu bose bazi ko umubare wabo ari munini. Biragoye kuvuga, ni bibi cyangwa byiza. Kubana numuntu udakunzwe cyangwa uteye ikibazo biragaragara ko bidakwiye, ariko biroroshye kuvura ubutane mubice. Imibabaro ya psyche yumwana uhuriweho, ibibazo byamafaranga, kwishingikiriza ku mitekerereze kumufatanyabikorwa - ibyo bibazo byose bivuka kubantu batekereza gusesa mubukwe. Kwiyanganya ibibazo nyamukuru kandi bitanga inama zingenzi.
Igitutu kuri psyche
Ihohoterwa rikorerwa murugo ni ikibazo kenshi kugihugu cyacu. Imyaka ibiri irashize, habaye ibibazo ibihumbi birenga 21, mu myaka yamaze imyaka itagabanuka. Ntabwo ibitambo byose bisaba ubufasha, uzi ko kurwego rwamategeko bafite uburenganzira buke - "kubikorwa byibanze mumuryango" nyirabayazana akinjira mu minsi itarenze 15. Byongeye kandi, ibikorwa byinshi by'ihohoterwa mu mutwe biragoye kumenya abahohotewe: Bakunda gutsindishiriza umuntu ubakijije igihe kirekire cyangwa bikina uruhare rw'uwahohotewe, kuva kera barushaho kugira ingaruka. Kubwamahirwe, kuva mu bwana hamwe nabana, ababyeyi benshi ntibavugana no kurinda imipaka bwite, ubushobozi bwo kureka nkana budashimishije umubano wabo no kwishima hanze yintsinzi nubwiza.
Abana bararunama gutandukana, ariko barashobora guhangana nibibazo
Gutinya abana
Muguhitamo kubyara umwana, inshingano zo kureremba no gushyigikira ibintu zifata byombi, ntabwo ari umubyeyi gusa. Kuki utekereza ko nyuma yo gutandukana umugabo azareka kuvugana nabana? Nibyo, hariho abantu bakora icyaha kubafatanyabikorwa kumubana, ariko aba bantu ntibabura. Ntugakore amakosa nkaya, nubwo wowe n'umugabo wanjye batonganye: umubano hagati y'abafatanyabikorwa n'ababyeyi hamwe nabana ni ibintu bitandukanye. Abapapa benshi bakomeje kuvugana nabakobwa nabahungu nyuma yo gutandukana nabagore babo. Muganire rero hakiri kare uburyo uwahoze ari umugabo azashyigikira itumanaho, ibyiringiro byo kubeshya, kandi bitabaye ibyo, byasabwe mu rukiko kugirango ugarure ubukana.
Umugani w'amahirwe ya nyuma
Kubana numuntu gusa kuberako utarabona umuntu mwiza - iki nicyemezo kitagira isoni. Urabyishuye kandi we, ariko ntibishimira. Niba utekereza kubatandukana, ariko utinya kuguma wenyine mubuzima, ugomba gukorana numunywamvugo. Inzobere izasobanura ko ibyingenzi bidafite impamvu, kandi izihatira kwizera. Nyuma yo gutandukana, ntukihutire ku ijosi ry'umuntu wa mbere muburyo bwa mbere: ibibazo byo mumitekerereze yo mumitekerereze, birushaho kwigirira icyizere kandi umenye icyo umufatanyabikorwa ushaka kubona ubutaha.
Kora amafaranga mbere
Umutekano w'imari
Abagore bashakanye bakiri bato, abisabira gushyingiranwa akenshi ntibafite imitungo itimukanwa numukaruzi shingiro kuri gahunda yubuzima. Nibyo, ufite kimwe cya kabiri cyumutungo, ariko twese tuzi uburyo ushobora gutegura inyandiko nyuma yawe uzakomeza byose. Ntugatakaze umwanya kubusa - ubu utangira gukiza amafaranga make cyangwa ngo uvuge numugabo wawe ukeneye ubufasha mugihe gito. Niba uri umuntu uhagije, ntabwo asuzuma ayo magambo adasanzwe.