Uruhinja rwiyongera mumarangamutima nubucuruzi busanzwe. Amarangamutima nkumwana udahungabana, nkuko imitekerereze idahwema guterwa no gukangura hanze. Gutongana mu ishuri ry'incuke, inzika ku babyeyi kubera kwanga kugura igikinisho, kugirira nabi. Ni ngombwa kubibona mugihe umwana atangira kwitwara nkuko bisanzwe, kandi akemuke ikibazo kugirango adahindukira ubwoba no kurakara mugihe kizaza.
Igitero ni iki
Abahanga mu bya psychologue bagena igitero nk'imyitwarire ituruka ku mibereho yashizweho kandi bagangiza imitekerereze cyangwa ku mubiri ku bagizi ba nabi ndetse n'abandi. Inzobere zisangira igitero muburyo bubiri - igororotse kandi itaziguye. Ubugizi bwa nabi bugamije: ibitutsi, iterabwoba, imivumo, ibimenyetso byihariye, kurwana. Ibitero bitaziguye bigaragarira inzira "bypass". Kurugero, umwana arashobora kumena igikinisho cyabandi, Jabing kubandi, kugirango akureho abandi uburakari bwe. Byongeye kandi, umwana arashobora kwerekana imyitwarire idahwitse mugusubiza uburakari - gutongana cyangwa amakimbirane - cyangwa guterana ubutunzi.
Impamvu zitera igitero nuburyo bwo kurugamba
Abana bumva bikabije ibidukikije bidukikije, nubwo abantu benshi bakuze baracyihakana iki kintu. Niba umwana abonye ababyeyi batongana, ndetse arushijeho kuba bibi, rwose bazakurikiza iyi moderi yimyitwarire kuri we. Birasa nkaho ari ibisanzwe kwerekana imbaraga zanjye, kubabaza abandi, kuko ababyeyi bakora kimwe. Kumwana no ku mwana baterwa n'abandi bantu basigaye baturuka mu bidukikije - sogokuru, inshuti z'umuryango, abo bigana mu ishuri ry'incuke n'abasore ku gikari. Menya neza ko urimo uvuga kandi ukora imbere yumwana. Nibyiza niba kumyaka yoroheje atazumva amakimbirane yumuryango muri rusange - imitekerereze ya psyche izahagarara.
Ntukarahire ku mwana
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Ubundi buryo burakabije. Umuntu wese arashaka kubusa yitaye kumyaka. Umwana uhora yigana ningamba zihana ibihano yo kutumvira cyangwa ntahanwa, bizagaragazwa rwose igitero kizimye kubandi bantu. Indero ni ngombwa, ariko urashobora guhora uvugana numwana mu ijwi ridafite aho ribogamiye, kandi ntukongere ijwi cyangwa gushyiramo ingaruka z'umubiri. Uruhande rwinyuma rwumudari ni hyperemp. Mu miryango igenzura umutekano wumwana kuri buri ntambwe, hafi buri gihe abana bahinga kandi batekereza gusa batekereza gusa "I". Ababyeyi bakunze kuba iby'ibi mu miryango ifite inenge. Reka twubake umwanya wo guhitamo imirimo yoroshye kandi icyarimwe dusobanure impamvu ukeneye gukora icyifuzo cyawe. Abana ababyeyi bavuga kumugaragaro kandi kenshi, mubisanzwe ntabwo bakunda kwibasirwa.
Ube umwana ufite inshuti, ntabwo ari umwanzi
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Ihitamo rya gatatu nibintu byihariye byumwana. Mfite imyaka 3, 7 na 14 y'amavuko, imyaka ibiruhuko bibaho, aho imitekerereze yumwana idahungabana. Muri iki gihe, birakenewe kudufasha gukuraho amarangamutima muburyo bundi buryo, aho gushishikariza uburakari no kurakara hamwe nigisubizo gikaze. Ba inshuti yumwana - gushyigikira no kumutera inkunga, vuga kubyerekeye urukundo no kwerekana gutandukanya imyidagaduro ihuriweho. Ntugahagarike ubusa, bitabaye ibyo umwana azarenge ubwayo. Igitero hano cyakagombye kuba umuhamagarira n'amagambo: "Mfasha, sinfata!" Muganira cyane kandi wishimishe kuba inshuti nziza, ntabwo ari abanzi babi.