Igitekerezo cyo kuba umwana wo kumenyesha ko atari amaraso, ababaza benshi ababyeyi benshi barera. Bumwe mu bwoba nyamukuru - azumva kuri mama na papa, batavuka, kandi bizamukomeretsa. Nkeneye guhisha amabanga yo kurera? Niba tuvuze ukuri, gute?
Ntibishoboka guceceka
Kuki inkuru zo kurera akenshi zicecetse? Kuberako hari uburyo budakwiye. Ko "yajugunye, nta muntu akeneye." Ko ari "mu muryango mubi, bityo ari bibi, byangiritse." Mbega ukuntu bababajwe namagambo nkaya "abantu beza"! Mbega abantu bateye ubwoba bashobora kuba ingaruka!
Buri gihe nkomeza imbere. Kandi iyi niyo nama zanjye zingenzi.
Ndi hano kubarinda.
Ndi hano kugirango nkomeze ikintu cyingenzi dufite nyuma y'urukundo - kwizera bidasubirwaho.
Ndi hano kugirango bamenye ko inyuma yinyuma yabo ari inyuma yabo.
Ndi hano kugirango tumenye ko ukunzwe kandi ushaka.
Ndi hano kuvuga. Kuvugisha ukuri.
Iki kiganiro kitoroshye gishobora kubakwa, shingiro kumahame akurikira nageneye inzira yo gushyikirana nabana banjye.
Valentina Krasnikova ni nyina w'abana 17, 14 muri bo wakiriye
1. Tubwire kubyerekeye inama yawe, nko mubintu byiza cyane
Kuraho umwana mu Bafilisitiya reba abana barera, nk'abana bafite iherezo ritoroshye. Reka yumve uruhare rudasanzwe n'amahirwe wamusanze. Nkuko harigera, nashakaga nsanga. Bizaba ngombwa kuri we kumva uburyo wamukunze igihe twabonaga bwa mbere. Kugira ngo umwana abyanze umuntu, ariko, Ahubwo, niwe wategerejwe cyane nawe. Umunsi umwe igihe kirageze iyo umwana yumva ko amafoto akiri uruhinja, oya. Ko izina hamwe na patronymic yabandi. Ikibazo "Nakomo gute?" Bizagaragara mubiganiro bigenda bigenda. Kuri iyi ngingo mbwira umwana inkuru ye n'amagambo yoroheje nzi. Ndavuga ikintu nk'iki: "Mukobwa, ibuka, nakubwiye? Twakubonye mugihe wari usanzwe muri-kuva munini cyane, hanyuma noneho nabaye nyoko! Ndagukunda cyane kandi ntuzigere uguha umuntu! Uri umwana wanjye! " Ndabisubiramo iyi nkuru inshuro nyinshi kugirango buriwese, cyane cyane abana, bashobora kumva ibiranga umwanya. Bakunze kwibagirwa, nuko nsubiramo inkuru zacu inshuro nyinshi, nshyira urukundo rwanjye rwose muri bo.
Urundi rugero rwamateka meza rubwira umunyeshuri wanjye: "Guswera umukobwa ukuze akiri muto. Ubu afite imyaka hafi 4. Ntugashaka guhisha umugabo wanjye. Akenshi tujya kubaganga, muburyo, ibibazo byabaturage no gutwita hamwe no kubyara. Funga amatwi n'induru. Yavutse murumunawe. Hariho impamvu yo kuganira aho abana bakuwe. Yatangiye kubaza kubyerekeye igitambaro nibindi. Noneho ndamwitonda, witonze, urukundo rwasobanuye ko ntaho, ntabwo avuye mu nda yanjye, ahubwo ava mu gihimbaro kindi nyirasenge. Afungura irindi manga, "ariko kandi sinabarutse Papu, ariko turamukunda. Urabona, ntabwo byanze bikunze ubyara umuntu ukunda! Kandi papa nashakaga ku buryo tumaze neza, umukobwa mwiza cyane, turagukunda cyane! "Mugihe aya makuru arahagije, ariko nzi ko azabasaba inshuro nyinshi. Twiteguye imbere. Yaganiriye na basogokuru kubyerekeye icyo n'ukuvuga mugihe umukobwa atangiye kubabaza. "
Ikintu nyamukuru nugutuje imbere kandi neza. Biteguye, ntabwo bitwikiriye. Kora inkuru yawe nziza yumuryango kubyerekeye inama mbere kandi isubireyo ku bana inshuro nyinshi.
2. Fungura ababyeyi baho
Bitinde bitebuke, umwana azabaza rwose ababyeyi basanzwe. Birumvikana ko uzabanza kubanza gufata inyungu muri aba bantu n'impamvu ntawe ukurikira. Niba umwana yaguye mu muryango asanzwe afite imyaka, yibuka ibintu byose. Akenshi akeneye kuvuga, gukuraho ububabare n'ubwoba imbere. Ikintu nyamukuru ntabwo ari ukubangamira kwe kuvuga kutabuza. Kuri iyi ngingo, akeneye rwose inkunga yawe, harimo no kumvisha ko atari amakosa ye ko ubuzima bwabaye. Ni ngombwa kuri njye kubwira buri mwana - ibyago bya genetike ntibibaho, aya ni amagambo yose. Umuntu wese afite amahitamo! Twabonye, twe hamwe, bityo rero, nta kintu kibi kizabaho, nubwo cyari ibintu byose "mbere." Iyo umwana akuze, azakomeza kubimenya, gereranya, gufata igisubizo cyawe. Ariko niba ufite byose mubyukuri, niba wizeye niba ukunda mubyukuri, ntacyo bizaba bifite mubucuti bwawe na we.
Ati: "Ni ngombwa kuri njye kubwira buri mwana - nta cyago kidasanzwe."
3. Buri wese - Umwihariko
Nubwo umwana aramutse yize kureshya nawe, akenshi aya makuru ahinduka kwihesha agaciro. Ni ngombwa cyane guhora ushimangira kwitabwa ku mwana ku kuba yazanye ikintu kidasanzwe mu muryango. Hamwe na we, ababyeyi n'umuryango wose bakize, bashimishije kandi bafite ubwenge. Ibintu byose ni ngombwa gusobanukirwa nibyo byihariye, kuki nkunda kandi niki ni ukuri aho ukeneye - mumuryango wawe. Urakoze cyane inkuru zisekeje, Andsusha ashushanya neza, Natasha ashoboye guhumurizwa na bose! Ni ngombwa kumenya buri mwana uburyo afite impano idasanzwe afite. Kandi ni ngombwa kumva ibyemezo byababyeyi. Na none.
Ibanga ryo kurerwa cyangwa kurerwa muri societe bidashoboka.
Ikosa rikomeye cyane dushobora kwemera mugihe uko umwana azabimenya ukuri ntabwo aturukanwa natwe - bizamushidikanya cyane mubugingo bwe ko ababyeyi babeshya. Hanyuma umwana n'ahantu hatungurwa, kandi ababyeyi ni ibitutsi bikomeye kandi kutizerana kumugaragaro ubuzima. Irungu no kumva ubuhemu. Ibibazo Kuki wacecetse niba nta kibi cyo kurera?
Bantu bakundwa, mwitegure kubwukuri ko reaction yamakuru yo kurera ishobora kudateganijwe. Nta gushidikanya, ukuri, ukuri, yavuze amagambo meza cyane kandi yoroheje avuye mu mutima wuje urukundo apfa, azoroha kubaho kuruta uko uko yakiriye uburiganya, ndabizeza. Igihe kimwe, kuba mukuru, umwana wawe azavuga ati: "Mama na papa, murakoze kuba inyangamugayo. Urakoze kubyo wankoreye. Ndagukunda! "