Kubera ko abasomyi nyamukuru b'iki kinyamakuru ari abagore, burigihe bashimishije, kandi ni gute? Mu bagabo. Abagabo bakunze gutangaza ubushobozi bwabagore babo bwo kwinezeza cyane kandi neza, kwizirikana. Bitandukanye na stereotype isanzwe kubyerekeye ifarashi yubugome, abagore bakunda abagabo kwiyumvira, ubwuzu, ubushobozi bwo kwishyira mu mwanyanga. Kubwibyo, burigihe birashimishije kubona inzozi kubwinkingi yawe kumugabo, umugabo na se babes. Noneho tuzasangira byose hamwe, kubyo inzozi "zivuga" hamwe na we.
Inzozi za mbere:
Ati: "Tugiye hamwe n'umuryango ku kiraro, tubona uruzi. Turamanuka duhagarara munsi yikiraro hafi yuruzi. Amazi yo mu ruzi arasobanutse, kandi nkaho umucyo ugaragara mumazi. Mu buryo butunguranye, umukobwa agwa mu mazi, ndamusimbutse hejuru, ariko yiruka vuba, ni ko yishimye cyane umukobwa wanjye, ariko ndabishoboye gukiza. Nyuma yigihe runaka, umukobwa arongera asubiramo mumazi, kandi na none ndamusimbuka, ariko biranyorohera vuba kuburyo ntabona umwanya wo kugera kumukobwa wanjye. Mbyuka ubwoba. "
Umuhungu wa kabiri:
Ati: "Twari umuryango ahantu wa gatatu (undi muntu, ahantu utamenyereye), yarabasogiye. Icyumba ni kinini, kimwe cya kabiri cyubusa. Ndahagarara jyenyine, twimukiye kure yumuryango, hanyuma umugore bamwe ambwira ko umwana agomba gufashwa, umugore ntamureba. Niyambaza ikindi cyumba - umukobwa yazamutse mu bwoko runaka, arahaguruka, kandi umugore ahagaze hypnotized. Ntabwo nha agaciro gakomeye, ndatekereza ko gukuramo terefone yawe umugore wanjye, guseka hamwe icyo gihe. Ndakura umukobwa wanjye kandi ndashaka kujya gushimira umugore wampamagaye. Kumva ko byose ari byiza hamwe numuryango. Ariko mubyukuri nyuma yamasegonda 15 ngarutse, ariko ntabwo ari, barazimiye, baguye mu butaka. Ndabona umugore runaka ahantu h'umugore wanjye. Afite ubwoba, mu bwogero bw'ubururu afite uruziga rw'umuzungu, ndumva ko yakuye umugore we n'umukobwa we. Iragenda, ngiye kuyifata, ndumva ko byoroshye kuyifata, ariko amaguru ntitwumvisha, asakuza ati: "Tanga ubwoba."
Nibyiza, ingero ni byihuse. Nubwo natangiye kuyobora inkingi, navuze ko igice kinini aricyo kintu cyingenzi mugushushanya. Bombi basinzira kubyerekeye amahano yo gutakaza umuryango cyangwa umukobwa. Byongeye kandi, inshuro zombi abagore ntishoboye kandi bafite intege nke imbere y'amazi. Amazi mu buryo bw'ikigereranyo agaragaza igitsina gore, igitsina, ishusho ya nyina. Kandi mu nzozi za kabiri ikimenyetso kiracyazirikana - umugore uteye ubwoba yibye umugore we n'umukobwa we.
Niba naragize uru rubanza hamwe nabakiriya mubikorwa, ikibazo cyanjye cya mbere cyari iki: "Mbwira, ni uwuhe mubano na nyoko?" Niba byose bimeze hariya, ibyo nshidikanya, umubano na nyirabukwe.
Ibi bitotsi byombi byinjira mu mahano imbere y'ingufu z'abagore bakuramo, aho puchin yatakaye umukobwa n'umugore. Ahari ibi biterwa nubusabane numugore uzwi mubuzima bwinzozi, imbere azagenda, arwana na we kandi akenshi ningaruka ziki gihombo cyitiriwe mumuryango we.
Niba atari mirongo yinyandiko, hanyuma mubikorwa byawe, ndasaba inzozi zo kwerekana ingaruka zubusabane na mama mubuzima bwe bwa none, ariko cyane cyane, kumva ko ari umutabazi udashobora fasha no kuzigama. Kumva utishoboye kandi ufite ubwoba.
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Maria Dyachkova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yibikorwa byimikurire yimyidagaduro Marika Khazin