Iyo uza mu muryango mushya, ntamuntu numwe ushobora kwemeza ko umubano wawe na nyirabukwe uzakomeza kubabaza kimwe numuhungu we. Ariko ntabwo ari ngombwa guhangayikishwa nibi - inkuru irashaje nkisi. Umuntu ntabwo ahita abona, mugihe abandi bahura nibibazo hamwe na nyirabukwe basanzwe mugikorwa cyo kubaka umuryango numugabo. Birashoboka, buri mukazana wahuye n'ikibazo - umugabo wa mama atanga inama aho uwambere adakeneye, ariko kandi ntashaka kugerageza amakimbirane afunguye. Ariko icyo gukora? Emera kwivanga mubuzima bwawe? Birumvikana ko atari byo. Tuzabwira gukora mubihe bidasobanutse.
Niba bishoboka kwirengagiza
Turizera ko ufite imitsi ikomeye, bitabaye ibyo bizagorana guhangana niki gikorwa. Iyi ntambwe ibereye rwose niba ibintu byageze ku ruzinduko mugihe amakimbirane amaze kurengera. Gusakuza cyane kandi nyirabukwe uhoraho, azakora ibishoboka byose kugirango akuzane kubera kwiba, ikintu kibi ushobora gukora nugutanga ubushotoranyi. Niba wumva ko nyina wumugabo wawe yatangiraga, bwa mbere atuze, ahumeka, ahumeka kandi asige amavuta yawe, akora imirimo yawe, cyangwa akajya kugenda.
Wige Kwanga
Abahanga mu by'imitekerereze babitangaza, ubushobozi bwo kuvuga "oya" ntabwo bahabwa abantu bose: ntitugerageza kurengera imipaka, gutinya kubabaza umuntu, kuko bababaye ubwabo. Wibuke ko udategekwa kuri buri wese ukunda kandi nyamuneka niba ukora ikintu muburyo bwo gushyikirana nawe cyangwa udashaka ikintu, vuga ijwi rituje "Oya". Iri ni ijambo rito, ariko rikomeye rizagira umuntu uwo ari we wese, kuri twe, nyirabukwe, tekereza ku gushaka ubundi buryo bwo kuvugana nawe, uwo wemera.
Gerageza kutajya mu makimbirane afunguye na mama wa mama
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Reba ibibazo n'umunaniro
Hariho abantu nkabo nubwo bidasanzwe ko inama zabo, ibyifuzo byabo nibiganiro byubusa bishobora guhungabanya umuntu. Niba nyirabukwe ni umuntu nkuyu, wige amayeri make, aho kurakara, umugore atangiye kuvuga adahwema, kugira ngo agire inama ikintu cyangwa, Imana ikinga ukuboko cyangwa, yahise avuga ko ukeneye Guhura nabana mumashuri / Karaba injangwe / Jya mu iduka, ariko ikindi kintu cyose, cyane cyane, korohereza kandi ko nyirabukwe adafite umwanya wo gucira amacandwe.
Urashobora gusetsa
Ni ngombwa kwibuka ko urwenya rudakwiye gucika intege cyane, bitabaye ibyo, urashobora guhamagara amakimbirane n'ibirego kuri wewe, ni ukuvuga umugabo wawe. Tuvuge ko nyirabukwe akora amagambo akomeye ku bushobozi bwawe bw'ubucuruzi bwawe, mu gusubiza, urashobora parry ko umugabo ahitamo umugore we mu ishusho ya nyina. Kandi byose muri roho. Noneho uzabona, buhoro buhoro umugore azumva ko ari byiza ko utaguhamagara.