Igitekerezo cy'uko umufatanyabikorwa akoresha ushobora kugorana kubyemera, cyane cyane iyo bisa nkaho akwitayeho. Ni ngombwa kumva imigambi nyayo yumukunzi mbere yuko ushora cyangwa kuzana igitambo gikomeye mumibanire idakwiriye. Nibyiza kandi bivuye kuri kamere, umuntu ahita atangira kwizera umukundwa kandi akabona ibyiza muri byo. Imiterere yita kumufatanyabikorwa irashobora kugutera ku ifuni ya manipulations. Ibi bibazo bizafasha kumenya niba mubyukuri urukundo ari hagati yawe cyangwa ujya mubindi byifuzo:
1. Ni kangahe ubajije kwemerwa n'umukunzi?
Urashobora kugura imyenda mishya, kuko wakunze, cyangwa inama yambere numusore? Haba hari imanza yakubwiye ngo uhindure imyitwarire yimyitwarire, ukabyumvikaho? Gukoresha igitekerezo cyumuntu bituma ayoborwa numukuru n'imbyino munsi ya Duff ye. Mu mibanire isanzwe, ibi ntibizaba: Umuntu agomba kugutwara, cyangwa kurenga kubera itandukaniro ridasubirwaho. Niba uhishe ikintu kumuntu, utinya ko atazagukunda, nko mu gusetsa hafi imodoka yamenetse, igihe kirageze cyo guhindura ikintu.
2. Ni kangahe usuzugura intsinzi yawe?
Umugabo wawe arashobora gutakaza akazi, kugwa kubizamini byinjira mubucamanza cyangwa ku mpanuka yamennye ukuguru. Ibi bivuze ko ugomba kugabana ububabare bwe? Inkunga mubibazo bitoroshye birakwiye, ariko ntibishoboka kwibira mumarangamutima mabi. Umuntu wuje urukundo ntabwo ashaka ko ubabara nawe, ariko uzavuga uti: "Nta kintu na kimwe, nzabyihanganira, kandi byose bizaba byiza." Noneho, niba ugomba guhisha umushahara munini, gusa ntutihishe e ego yabantu, cyangwa utakatiwe interuro nziza hamwe nuburyo bwo gukura mu mwuga, ibintu biri muri couple yawe ntabwo aribyiza.
Kuriganya birashobora kuba bitandukanye
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3. Wigeze utanga ibyifuzo byawe?
Fata amavuta ya Misha na Ani. Misha akunda kuroba kandi buri wikendi itwara uruzi ninshuti. Lisa ntacyo ishaka kuvuga muburobyi, kandi kamere ntishobora kwihanganira - aryoha kubyina no kudoda. Amaze kumenya ibi, Misha aranyeganyeza umukunzi we kuri "nyirakuru" akunda, aho ararakara, hanyuma arabyanga. Ntugomba rero kuba - nibyo rwose. Usibye gukora ku mipaka yawe, aya mafranga akeneye kwiga kubaha inyungu za buri wese. Nibisanzwe iyo abafatanyabikorwa bamaze mugihe cyo gutandukana kandi ntibihatira kwibira mu byishimo bidashaka.
4. Ibikorwa bya mugenzi wawe bivuguruza amagambo ye?
DASHA atangaza ko akunda inyamaswa: avuga uburyo injangwe yakijije mumyaka mike ishize. Nyuma y'iminsi ibiri, umukunzi we yahise agira mu bihe nk'ibyo - aramwita avuga ko agiye ku ivuriro kugira ngo afate ikirenge cy'inyamaswa. Bukwi na bukwi na Dasha aratangaza ati: "Fata iyi njangwe, dukeneye amafaranga ku bintu by'ingenzi." Biragaragara ko ari impimbavu, kandi kudahuza amagambo yimanza buri gihe bivuga ubunyangamugayo bwumuntu.
5. Uragerageza cyane?
Umufatanyabikorwa ultra-yibanze kubigaragara na hypercritis zirashobora kurwanirwa kutamenyekana kubitero kuri wewe kuva gushidikanya kwawe kutazwi. Umuntu wuje urukundo yumva ko udategekwa guhora wambara urushinge - urugero, murugo ushaka kwinjira muri Pajama hanyuma uruhuke. Niba ufite umwanya wose wo kubana na parade yuzuye, gusa ntunyumve kunegura umugabo, noneho wamaze kugwa mumitutu ya psychologiya.
6. Ushaka umukunzi wawe kubanza kwiga byose kuri wewe, ariko ubu bisa nkaho bititaye
Umuntu utaryarya yoroshye gushyira amakuru yose yerekeye uwabishaka. Ariko niba mugihe cyo kuganira nuwatoranijwe ubona ko bigoye cyane ibyabaye aho, kandi ntabwo amarangamutima yawe, iki nikimenyetso kibi. Kurugero, uravuga ko udashobora kwamburwa igihembo udakwiye, kandi aho kuba "Nigute wagufasha?" Umva "kandi uzabona amafaranga angahe muri uku kwezi?" Imyitwarire yatoranijwe yerekana ko yabuze inyungu nkumuntu kandi ireba gusa kubwinyungu zubusabane.
Rimwe na rimwe, ikosa rikora buri kimwe. Ntutekereze ko gukurikirana kimwe mubintu biri hejuru, igihe kirageze ngo twiruka kumugabo. Uburiganya ni icyitegererezo kitunganijwe cyimyitwarire igomba gukurikiranwa mugihe, na nyuma yo gufata umwanzuro.