Ihame "Reka ubeho, nkuko bizaba", niba ugerageza gukora ubumwe bukomeye numufatanyabikorwa. Bamwe bibeshye bemeza ko gutandukana ari ikimenyetso cyintege nke, umukoro. Ariko mubyukuri, hamwe nubwumvikane bwo gutanga, abafatanyabikorwa bombi bagomba gutanga ikintu, ntabwo arimwe. Ariko biracyahari ibihe nkibi byagezweho nubwumvikane atari inzira, nintangiriro yimpera:
Iyo ugerageza gukuraho
Niba umufatanyabikorwa agerageza kukubabaza, avuga ko ntacyo ukwiye, ibyo ukunda birarambiranye, kandi akazi karubahirijwe, birakwiye gutekereza ku mibanire yawe. Ntabwo ukeneye kwemeranya "kumvikana" urimo guta akazi cyangwa ibyo ukunda kuberako umukunzi abishaka. Ntiwibagirwe ko umugabo, imisozi mira ya kera yasezeranije, irashobora kugenda igihe icyo aricyo cyose, hanyuma ukagira ibyago utabarika nta soko yinjiza nigisenge hejuru yumutwe wawe.
Ibibujijwe ntibivuga ku rukundo rw'umusore, ariko kubyerekeye indwara ya psyche
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Mugihe ibizaza byawe bidahuye
Kurugero, urashaka abana, ariko umugabo wawe ntabwo, cyangwa ubundi? Kandi wemera kumvikana: "Ngwino mu mwaka," "Nzongeraho kandi nshake umwana," "undi mushinga, hanyuma ubyare." Amasezerano nk'ayo ntazaganisha ku kintu cyiza, kuko bidashoboka guhatira umwana, mu mwaka umwe cyangwa nyuma yo kongera umukunzi uzazamuka afite inda. Kimwe no gushyingirwa. Ntugume hamwe numuntu urwanya gushyira mu buryo bwemewe n'amategeko - kugirango uhindure bidashoboka. Ariko umusigira, ntuzabura umwanya kandi ushobora kubona umuntu ureba ubuzima.
Iyo baguhisemo, hamwe nuwo muganira
Niba umugabo avuga ko abakobwa bakobwa uringaniye kandi ubangamirwa kugirango ubabone, mu gihe bizaba bihari - ntabwo ari ubwumvikane. Cyangwa, kurugero, ufite inshuti zumugabo, ariko umukunzi arabakurikirana kandi agirira ishyari, bityo akababuza kuvugana nabo. Birashoboka ko nabonana numuryango birashobora kubabaza umukunzi. Ibi byose byavuzwe haruguru ni uruhare mumwanya bwite, ibimenyetso byambere byubucuti bubi. Ntabwo bikwiye kujya kumasezerano ayo ari yo yose yerekeye abantu ba hafi - gusa uhitamo mugihe ushaka kuvugana nabo.
Ntugume mubucuti utaroheye
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Amategeko yashyizweho gusa
Kurugero, ntushobora guhura nabakobwa bakobwa muri wikendi, jya kuri clubs, kwambara "desishuye". Ariko icyarimwe umufatanyabikorwa afite uburenganzira rwose bwo kujya mu tubari hamwe ninshuti kureba umupira, kuroba cyangwa kuvugana nabandi bakobwa. "Umukino mu irembo rimwe" ntabwo uzaganisha kubintu byiza. Nta kumvikana hano, igitambo kidakenewe kumukobwa. Ni ngombwa gushiraho imipaka ku giti cye "ku nkombe", kandi iyo bidakora, kurangiza umubano.