Umwihariko wa psychologue Umwizerwa Mikhail Labkovsky yanditse ko kwiyubaha mubantu bigomba kuba hejuru kuburyo byishimo kandi nibihe bibi byose byasohotse hamwe nigihombo gito. Iyi nyigisho iratandukanye nibyo societe yacu imenyereye, aho mumyaka ivuze: kwihesha agaciro bigomba kuba bihagije. Ariko, uburyo bwo kugereranya ibihagije byayo - kubikorwa byagezweho, umubare winshuti, isura, urwego rwinjiza? Ikigaragara ni uko umunzani ufatika, kandi ntushobora kumenyera abana. Muri icyo gihe, ni ngombwa ko umwana ari ngombwa kwakira no kwikunda kugirango akore imico. Tuvuga uko twabikora.
Ntukarebe ibigereranyo
Inzobere ni tube: reka gusuzuma umwana ukurikije agaciro, bitabaye ibyo bizakora "indashyikirwa," mugihe umwana agomba "gukunda" ababyeyi kuri batanu ba gatanu. Nibyo, kandi kugereranya na gato ntibigira ingaruka ku ntsinzi ye mu buzima - Nkoko, nagaragaye na Meme, aho umugabo yaranditse ati "aho umuntu yandikaga ati" Nzahitamo guha umwana "nyuma y'amakuru ajyanye no kohereza umupira w'amaguru Umukinnyi, nagiye muyindi kipe n'umushahara w'imikorere 350.000 buri cyumweru. Reka chado itera imbere mubyo akunda. Ntabwo ushaka kwicara kumasomo? Yego, n'Imana hamwe na we! Reka imbyino ikore, ijya koga, yubaka icyitegererezo cyindege - hazabaho inyigisho nigihimbano kumutwe. N'ubundi kandi, ikintu cyingenzi cyigishijwe kwishuri ntabwo kizi amategeko ya fiziki, ahubwo ni ubushobozi bwo gusesengura no guswera amakuru.
Ku ngingo iyo ari yo yose urashobora kubona ibitabo kugirango ushakishe
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Ntuzigere ugereranya
Ku gikari gituranye, ibyatsi bihora bishya - wigiye kuva mu bwana igihe mama yakujugunyaga ko umukobwa w'inshuti Katya yamaze kuva akivuka, kandi uracyajya ku rutoki. Twese turatandukanye, nuko dukeneye ibihe bitandukanye byo kumenya ubuhanga. Byongeye kandi, mw'isi ya none, ibyinshi mu bibazo by'ubukungu kuri twe birashobora gukora robot - reka ababyeyi bagerageze kubona amafaranga ku gihuru kirenze gushinja amasahani ko adasukuye kumeza. . Nyizera, birakwiye ko umwana wawe akura, uko azumva ko nta kwiyemeza nta mahirwe, kandi ahita yiyitaho ntayifashijwemo.
Kora ishimwe
Umukobwa muto ntabwo atandukanye cyane numugore ukuze. Bombi bakeneye urukundo na caress, reka rero umugabo wawe yumve neza kugirango ashimishe umukobwa kandi agahe indabyo nta mpamvu. Mu bihe biri imbere, iyo atangiye kugendana n'abahungu, umubyimukira wa se azaba mu ntoki. Umukobwa nkuyu ntazihanganira umubano mwiza, kuko azi ko byanze bikunze ubona umuntu uzashobora kubaka umuryango ukomeye nkawe. Nibyo, kandi ukomeza umugabo - ubwire umwana utitaye kumagorofa make, urabikunda ninteruro zose benshi muriko twabuze mugihe cyo gukura.
Kenshi cyane ushyirireho umwana kandi werekane urukundo rwawe muburyo bwose
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Ntukabuze uburenganzira bwo guhitamo
Ntabwo bigaragara, ariko kudashobora guhitamo uburyohe bwawe bitera umuntu kwiyubaha ahantu harehare. Abahanga mu by'imitekerereze basabwa kuva bafite imyaka 4-5, iyo umwana asanzwe avuga neza kandi atekereza ko atekereza, kumuha guhitamo imyenda, amasahani muri cafe, ubwoko bw'imyidagaduro muri wikendi nibindi. Kumenya kumva igitekerezo cye, umuntu azishima cyane. Umwana nkuyu ntazaba "kwihanganira", igitekerezo cye ni cyo gikora kuri buri wese, ariko kuri we azumva.