Kubona bigezweho kumitekerereze yumuryango nubumenyi bushimishije cyane. Indi myaka ijana ishize, psychologiya yiga kumutera imbaraga kandi yitwaye, none urugendo rurerure rwarashize kandi rukareba uburyo aho kuba imva bitugiraho ingaruka. Kandi tuba muri bo kandi ntitumva uburyo ducurekana nabi umurage wa gahunda yumuryango wacu.
Kurugero, Bert Hellimburaka yacu yo muri iki gihe, izwiho uburyo bwose bwo guhuza umuryango, yavuze ko abana bataravuka kubera impamvu zitandukanye mumpamvu zitandukanye, bityo impamvu zikaba zikomeje kuba muri sisitemu yumuryango. Hariho kwibuka, ibyiyumvo bifitanye isano nabo, amabanga n'ibibujijwe. Ingufu, bariho mumuryango, cyane cyane iyo bagerageza kubibagirwa kandi ntibatekereze. Irashobora kwerekeza kuriyi nyigisho, nka shamanism cyangwa nubuswa. Ariko mbere yo gufunga iyi page, soma inzozi zinzozi zacu. Ahari azagukingurira ibintu byamatsiko:
Ati: "Nasomye ingingo yerekeye gukuramo inda ejo n'uburyo bigira ingaruka ku bana bambaye. Natekereje ku kuntu 5 kubera abavandimwe na bashiki bacu bashoboye kunhindura. Kandi ndota kuryama mugitondo, nkaho turi umusore - Jye nabandi bantu 5, ntazi kugiti cyanjye, ariko nzi ku bwicanyi bwaganje Diana (nta munsi) . Kandi nagize uruhare mubyo nzi uwo n'umwuka, ariko ntirwitabira icyaha. Kandi hano ndi hano, nkumuhamya utabishaka, wihishe murugo umurambo we. Kubwimpamvu runaka, aryamye mu gasanduku kirebire, nko kuva munsi yinkweto, hamwe nigisanduku cyumubiri muto kumubiri, niko bikingura igihe cyose. Tugomba gukuraho umurambo, ariko ntituzi uko nabikora bidashoboka. Uhangayikishijwe no gusa gusa, kuko ari kuri njye murugo. Kandi itangira kunuka, kubora, no muri rusange cyane kandi biteye ubwoba. Kandi mbyumva mu nzozi ko, muburyo bwiza, ni ngombwa gukora byose nkuko bikwiye: Bury, Bury, Bir., ariko kubwimpamvu ziteye ubwoba, kandi nkaho bigomba gukorwa, kandi nkaho bigomba gukorwa, kandi nkaho bigomba gukorwa kugirango hatagira umuntu uzi. Kuri twe, dufite amasezerano yo gukuraho umurambo hanyuma abo bantu 6 bose bagomba gupfa, nanjye, kugirango hatagira icyo uhimba. Kandi ndumva ko gusa sinshaka kubikora, ariko nkaho ibintu byose bimaze gutegekwa kandi bigomba gupfa kubwibi. "
Gusinzira birasobanutse! Uyu mukobwa azi ubwicanyi, nubwo atamukoreye. Turimo kuvuga gukuramo inda byatanzwe na nyina. Arazi kandi ko atari umwana wenyine mumuryango, ahubwo kose uko ari batandatu. Muri iri tsinda, bagerageza guhisha ubwicanyi. Ibi byose "guhisha" munzu ye, kubera ko akomeza kubibuka, atekereza ko ibitangaza, ibitekerezo, bitera ikibazo cyingaruka zabavandimwe na bashiki bacu batanu bavuka. Kandi niwe wenyine wambaye ukurwibutso kuri bo, kuva umukobwa wavutse wenyine. Niwe uzi ko agasanduku mu nzozi ari nto cyane kuri iri banga (iracyamufungurira).
Uburyo bwa sisitemu muri psychologiya yumuryango byerekana ko bidasobanutse ko abantu bose mumuryango bazi ibyabaye muri yo, ndetse no gukingira ababo, bagerageza gukosora amayeri yabo. Rero, inzozi zishaka gutandukanya iherezo rya barumuna be na bashiki be kandi bazi igikwiye gupfa kugirango ukomeze ibanga. Ni ukuvuga, arashaka guhuza n'umuryango we, yibuka, kabone niyo yaba atabizi. Iki cyifuzo kirashobora kwigaragaza mubihe byagaragaye, kutitaho ibintu, kudashaka kubaho, gutesha agaciro imirimo yabo nibidashoboka kubaka umubano ukuze, ndetse n'indwara.
Inzozi zacu zikeneye kwiga uburyo bwo kwitandukanya naherezo abo bana batavutse. Kugira ngo akore ibi, agomba kumubwira nk'umurozi: "Nta cyaha cyanjye kiri mu bihe byawe. Mfite ubuzima bwanjye. Sinshobora kubana n'undi muntu. "
Kandi, birashoboka, iyi ni formula nziza ntabwo kuri we gusa. Kandi gusinzira ni intambwe yo gutandukana numuryango ntacyo uzi.
Maria Dyachkova, umuganga wa psychologue, umuvuzi wumuryango, amahugurwa yambere yibikorwa byimikurire yimyidagaduro Marika Khazin