Umuntu udafite amarangamutima numuntu udafite impuhwe yakundwaga, ntashobora kureba ubundi buryo bwo kureba mumibanire yabantu kandi akenshi atitaye kubyo wegereye. Uyu mugabo yumva afite uburenganzira bwo gukora ibyo ashaka ntaguhangayikishije uburyo ibyo bikorwa n'amagambo bigira ingaruka kubantu yubaka umubano.
Kwita ku marangamutima yundi ni ngombwa
Iyi mitwe ivugwa mu mibanire y'abantu, ariko akenshi yiyoberanya mubuzima rusange. Umuntu wubwenge yumva ko imico ye no kwita kubandi bitanga izina ryiza. Ariko, inyuma yimiryango ifunze, mugihe nta ngaruka "nyayo" zihari, uyu muntu akunze kwerekana kubura impuhwe no kwirinda amarangamutima adashimishije. Kurwanya hagati yo kwerekana kumugaragaro umuntu hamwe nimico yayo nyayo birashobora kuba binini. Niba ufite icyaha, ntusobanukirwe impamvu ukunda ari wenyine, kandi nawe undi, soma ibi bintu.
Abashuka ubuhanga
Kubwamahirwe, amahirwe yo kwita kubantu byoroshye kwihitiramo umubano wibintu, kuko yigaragaza binyuze mumagambo - umuzingi aho abantu bose bashobora gukoresha ubuhanga. Gukoresha gutandukana, kugabanya no gutsindishirizwa, umuntu udafite inshingano yanze vuba ibyiyumvo byumuntu ukunda kandi akishimangira. Arinda byoroshye kutamererwa neza.
Ibimenyetso byumuntu ufite inshingano mumarangamutima arimo:
1. Ubushobozi bwo kubona igitekerezo cyumuntu ukunda, kabone niyo gatandukanye na we.
2. Ubushobozi bwo kwisuzumisha no kwitabira amakimbirane.
3. Gerageza kwihana bivuye ku mutima nyuma y'ikosa.
4. Guhuza amarangamutima no kumenyana nabandi.
5. Birashobora kuba abanyantege nke, kumenya no kuganira ku byiyumvo bikomeye.
6. Tuzana imbabazi zivuye ku mutima kubwikosa.
Nk'umuriro n'amazi
Abantu bahanga mumarangamutima barashobora gukemura amakimbirane kuko bashobora gukomera ku bundi buryo bwo kureba, bakatekereza kuri twe no kugira uruhare mu makimbirane. Byongeye kandi, kubera ko baranga impuhwe, mubisanzwe bitwara nabi kubandi. Nyuma yigikorwa cyangwa ikosa ryo kwikunda, mubisanzwe bumva kwicuza, bagasaba imbabazi kandi bagerageza gukosora icyuho mumibanire. Kurundi ruhande, uruhande rudafite amarangamutima rugaragaza gusa ku byiyumvo byabo kandi ntibushobora gukomera ku bundi buryo bwo kureba. Icyemezo cyamakimbirane kidashoboka mugihe umuntu yubahiriza ko ahora ari ukuri.
Ntukabe egocentric
Ibintu byose ntabwo aribyo gusa
Umuntu ushinzwe amarangamutima numuntu ushobora gutunga umubano mwiza kandi wa hafi nabandi bantu basangiye indangagaciro. Gukemura amakimbirane, imyumvire ijyanye nibindi no kumenya icyaha mubucuti nubushobozi bwingenzi butuma umuntu yitaho no kumva abandi. Ibi ntibisobanura ko umuntu ufite ubwenge mumarangamutima atazaba imyitwarire yikunda cyangwa adakora amakosa, ariko bivuze ko ashobora gukora igikorwa cyo kwikunda, agerageza gutsindishiriza ububabare bwabateje. Gukosora amakosa mumibanire ishyigikira ubucuti, umunezero n'icyizere - ntucikwe nibihe.