Abamuhugu ba psychologue bemeza ko abantu bose bayobora hamwe nibibazo byimyaka, muri buri kimwe muricyo gihishura ibintu byubuzima - kwikunda, umubano winshuti, gushakisha ibintu byubuzima nibindi. Mu bana, ikibazo cy'ubusambanyi kigwa ku myaka 7 na 14-15: Muri iki gihe ego ikorwa cyane, kwiyisha ukwayo muri sosiyete. Niba udakora ingingo yo kwisuzuma hamwe nikibazo muri societe, mugihe kizaza umwana ashobora kugira ibibazo byo kubaka abakozi n'imibanire ye.
Byose bitangirira kumuryango
Kubera ko umwana afite igice cyingenzi kimara murugo kandi gihora kivugana numuzenguruko muto wa bene wabo, ni ngombwa kumva ko aba bantu babanje kwihesha agaciro. Hano haribintu bibiri bitameze neza, ariko byombi bifitanye isano rya bugufi no kubahiriza. Mu rubanza rwa mbere, umwana ahora agenzura: Tanga urutonde rwe, ntukabaze ibitekerezo bye, ntugashyireho abantu bakuru mu biganiro, hatitawe ku makosa make, kugenzura ko umunsi. Mu rubanza rwa kabiri, baracitse cyane: kugura imyenda, gutegura ibiryo, muterana ku ishuri, bafata amasomo, bagakurikira umunsi w'umunsi. Ntabwo arimwe cyangwa ubundi buryo butanga ibisubizo byiza - Umwana arahora ategereje ibihano kandi areka kubara ibitekerezo bye, cyangwa atekereza ko ubuzima bwe bwose buzamufasha - kuva mu mibereho y'abakozi. Kurenga umuryango, aba ashaka inshuti muri psychotica, ntabwo ari inyungu, yiteguye kumvira.
Ntutware umwana mu mfuruka, umuhe ubwisanzure bwo guhitamo
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Fata umwana wishimisha
Siporo nigikorwa gikomeye cyo guteza imbere umubiri, ubwenge no mumarangamutima. Kubusa kuvuga ko amahugurwa anangiye. Kwisuzuma byakozwe, ubushobozi bwo kurwanya igitutu cyamarangamutima, kwibanda kubisubizo nimbaraga z'ubushake - ibi byose bifite ingaruka nziza kuri psyche yumwana. Mu gushyikirana na bagenzi, ntababereka kubayobora, ahubwo azaba umuyobozi w'itsinda. Ntibashishimura ku ishuri, ariko kubabubaha, kuko ku mubiri wihuse imbaraga zingana n'imibereho myiza. Byongeye kandi, mugihe cyamasomo muri iryo tsinda, umwana azamenyana na bagenzi umwe bazamubera inshuti zikomeye.
Kuganira kenshi
Iyo umwana yizeye ababyeyi be akababwira kunanirwa kwabo n'ubwoba, biba byoroshye kubyihanganira. Sobanura ko umwana ufata ibyemezo agomba kuyoborwa na logique kandi atagomba kwibagirwa ibyiyumvo, ntabwo ategekwa kwemeranya kubitekerezo, nubwo abantu bose bakora ", kandi mu bwisure Kora inshuti zinshuti, kandi ntibategereze imigenzo Kuri yo kubandi. Mubyangavu, turagugira inama yo kwandika umwana kugirango tugishe inama mumitekerereze azashobora kuganira kubibazo bye birambuye. Inzobere yumva ibiranga psyche yingimbi, niko bizashobora kumufasha kwigenga kubona inzira itoroshye kandi yiga kugenzura amarangamutima ye kandi wige kugenzura amarangamutima ye. Ku myaka 14-15, abana basanzwe bafite gahunda zagaciro, intego mubuzima no hafi bagereranywa, aho bashaka gusa kwiteranya, bityo bakabongeraho gusa kuri gahunda.
Igisha ubwigenge
Ubushobozi bwo gutegura ifunguro rya mu gitondo, umutwaro imashini umesa, kwinjira mucyumba cyawe - guhera kuri uru rugorwa murugo imihindagurikire y'ikirere tumaze gutangira. Kuva mfite imyaka 6-7, urashobora gutanga amafaranga make yo kugura ibiryo n'ibikinisho, tangira banki yingurube. Ibikurikira biza gusabana - Emerera kujya ku nshuti zawe inshuti, ubatumire wenyine, ohereza ingendo ku ishuri, reka jya ku ishuri no murugo. Izi ntambwe nto mumafaranga ifite uruhare runini mugushinga umuntu. Ikintu nyamukuru hano ni ukwemera ko umwana azakumenyesha aho abona, guhamagara cyangwa kwandika SMS kuri terefone cyangwa kwandika. Isaha ibabaza cyane, amasaha ateye ubwoba, "Smart" uhuza amasaha akurikirana aho aherereye.
Urumuri umwana ijoro ryose rigumaho inshuti
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Niba ushaka ko umwana akura umuntu wuzuye, kuva akiri muto, akabigisha ubwigenge no gusoma nigitekerezo cye. Umwana wakuze mumuryango wishimye, mugihe kizaza ntabona ibibazo no kwihesha agaciro no kubaka umubano nabandi.