Uyu munsi dushobora guha abana hafi ya byose - kuva mumashuri yo mucyiciro cya mbere mu busazi "bwibanze", ariko ababyeyi benshi ntibatangira kwerekana imico, imiterere yacyo ntisobanukiwe kubabyeyi. Ababyeyi ba none bazahitamo kwizeza umwana batasobanura icyateye intandaro cyangwa imyumvire mibi, ariko kubigura byose, iyaba umwana atari "kis." Kandi niba kubijyanye numubyeyi mubi, umubyeyi arashobora kwihanganira kutababara, noneho kwigaragaza kwabana birashobora kuba ikibazo nyacyo atari kumuryango gusa, ahubwo ni kubandi, kandi rimwe na rimwe biragoye cyane guhangana nibibi kwigaragaza. Twatekereje kandi dukusanya inama nyinshi kubabyeyi bihebye mbere yo kubaza imitekerereze ya bana.
Ntugahishe amarangamutima
Twese dufite uburakari rimwe na rimwe, kurakara, ariko icyarimwe gerageza kubihisha, kuko kuva nkiri umwana yigishijwe kwigenga. Ariko, abana bumva neza ko bavuga ko abantu bakuru, uburakari bwawe bwihishe burashobora kugira ingaruka kumwana utumva impamvu mama cyangwa papa arakaye cyane. Ntukajye mubisobanuro birambuye, ariko sobanurira umwana ko ubu utari ibyiyumvo byiza, kandi ko nta kibi kijyanye nuko niba utabangamiye abandi. Igisha umwana gusangira nawe muri ibyo bihe mugihe we ubwe ahuye namarangamutima adashimishije, kugirango ubashe kuvugana nabo kandi wirinde guturika mugihe kidakwiye.
Tanga urugero
Rimwe na rimwe, turashaka ko umwana akurushaho kuba mwiza kuri twe ubwacu, kandi ibisabwa n'uko rimwe na rimwe bidashobora gukora. Niba wowe ubwawe ntutekereze gushobora gutekereza hamwe nabaturanyi, abaturanyi, utegereje iki ku mwana? Azasuzuma imyitwarire yibisanzwe no kumagambo yawe kubijyanye nuburyo bimeze nabi, gutega amatwi.
Umwana wawe yuba byoroshye gutwara?
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Reka tugure "guturika"
Niba byanze bikunze byanze bikunze, ugomba guhangana n'ingaruka ku mwanya: Umwana ararakara, agerageza kugukubita cyangwa undi muntu - inzira nziza yo gutuza induru y'umwana bizabahobera. Ubwa mbere, ukomeza umwana kubikorwa bidasubirwaho, naho icya kabiri, ufasha wowe ubwawe, ufasha umwana guhangana nimbaraga mbi. Ikintu nyamukuru ntabwo ari kunegura no guhinduranya!
Ntukabe ibyiciro
Nkuko twabivuze, ntibishoboka kubuza amarangamutima mabi, niba umwana agaragaza igitero kubwimpamvu zigaragara, ntukivange, kugeza igihe ibikorwa byumwana bibangamiye umutekano w'abana be bamukikije. Kuri iyi ngingo, gerageza kubitaho, kandi mugihe umwana atuje gato, sobanura uburyo bwo kuganza amarangamutima mabi nuburyo bwo guhangana nuburakari, ariko, mubisanzwe, turasobanura ko umwana yumvise kandi yashoboye gukoresha inama zawe muri imyitozo.
Sangira uburambe bwabandi
Niba urugero rwawe rudafite ingaruka zishaka, kandi ibi bibaho kenshi hamwe nabangavu, hamagara umuntu ufite "uburemere" mumaso yumwana, birashobora kuba umuntu uwo ari we wese. Tubwire ibyo uzi mugihe uyu mugabo yumvise nta kibazo nuburyo yagerageje gutsinda uko imyumvire ikaze. Akenshi tuvuga kubantu bazwi, bidagoye kubona amakuru kumurongo.
Nta kibi kiva hanze
Igihe kinini, abana bacu bamara imbere ya mudasobwa igendanwa cyangwa bakina imikino kuri terefone yawe. Ni gake cyane ababyeyi bagenzura ko umwana areba cyangwa ni uwuhe mukino ugiye gukuramo - abana ba kijyambere biga vuba cyane kugirango bakore ibikoresho kandi bibe kugirango umubyeyi afite amahirwe make yo kwivanga. Ariko, birakwiye gutabara niba ubona ko umwana arishimye cyane nyuma yicyiciro gikurikira mumikino ye. Sinabitangaje, ibyo umwana akunda gukina cyane cyangwa kugenzura inkuru muri terefone ye. Niba ubyumva ko aho gukoresha ingamba, umwana ahitamo abarashe, mugihe ushimishije byoroshye gusimburwa byihuse nibitero, fata ingamba, fata ingamba, ubanza gutanga umwana ubundi buryo.
Menyesha imitekerereze
Niba wumva ko utazakora utisunze nibitekerezo bibi, biragaragara, birakenewe ko tugira inzobere. Ntugomba gutinya inkuru zijyanye nubuvuzi butatsinzwe, ninde uziranye cyangwa abavandimwe bawe banyuze - uburambe bwawe budasanzwe kandi ninama ya psychologue yujuje ibyangombwa: Uzumva uko wabyitwaramo ibintu bimwe na bimwe byubugizi bwa nabi kandi ukiga guhagarika Ibitero kare kurenza ibyo bidukikije bizabona umwanya wo gutera ubwoba.