Isoni - Nigute ... bike muri iri jwi! Bigaragara ko iyi myumvire itari kutubera igihe kirekire, abantu bakuru bizeye bazi kuri bo niba atari bose, cyane. Bigaragara ko yagumye ahantu runaka mu bwana bwa kure nkuburyo bwumutima, butubahiriza ukuri kwacu. Cyangwa aracyafite?
Bamwe muri twe ntibumvaga interuro: "Nibyo, mute, ntimugira isoni" ?, byavuzwe, muri rusange, ukurikije ababyeyi, abigisha n'abarimu! Hamwe naya magambo, alarmer yatugeraga, idasobanutse cyangwa igaragara, ubwoba n'umucyo. Bahujwe n'urujijo rwibanze: Isoni - Birasa? Niki nakora ubu kugirango numve uko nakosora ibyo nakoze? Uru rujijo rwagaragaye kuko kumva isoni bitamenyerewe umwana, ntabwo bivuka ariho, nta kama afite niba bishobora kugaragazwa, nkomoko. Tekereza gusa: Ubaho gusa, kora ikintu ushaka, kandi mu buryo butunguranye uzamanika umuntu ufite intego, binini kandi ateye ubwoba kandi ateye ubwoba, gutenguha no kwihangana no kwihangana. Ishusho iteye ubwoba, Nibyo? Ariko niba byose bifitanye isano isoni ni idashimishije (reba uko benshi mbi irangi amagambo twahora mu gika muto!) Kuki rusange bakeneye, unknown iyi utamenyereye isoni?
Ku ikubitiro, Isoni zabaye intego nziza: kugirango wigeneho ibihuri byacu hasi, kugirango wigishe imico muri twe
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Hatabayeho Abahamya
Isoni - Kwemererwa. Ntidushobora kuvugwa ko abashakashatsi benshi bakoraga ibibazo bijyanye nisoni, abashakashatsi benshi cyane, bava muri Aristote bajya i Darwin, Fred na Ova. Mubitekerezo bitandukanye na hypothesis, hari imwe yamaze kwimuka muri axiom: uyumunsi tuzi neza isoni ni ukumva ko tutangijwe nabatangabuhamya gusa. Hamwe nanjye dushobora kumva dufite icyaha, guhangayika cyangwa kubabara, ariko bizaterwa isoni muri societe gusa. Byongeye kandi, ni societe - ubanza imbere ya mama na papa, uko bakura, kandi abandi bantu bakuze bahujwe - "bimanika" isoni.
Mubisanzwe, iyi myumvire ishingwa mubana imyaka itanu, kandi, nkuko tumaze kwandika, mbere ya byose, bifitanye isano numubiri nibigaragaza. By the way, benshi babona ko isoni zinyuranya nicyaha, zirumva gusa kurwego rwumubiri - ni uburambe bwumubiri kuruta ibindi byiyumvo. Amaraso yaguye mu matama, akomanga mu nsengero - kandi hano tumaze gutukura ku mizi y'umusatsi, twiteguye kugwa mu butaka. Inararibonye, ibabaza, ikungahaye ku nshuro ya mbere ihura nigihe cyambere cyishuri. Abana batangira kumenya igitsina cyabo, basanzwe bazi itandukaniro ryabakobwa nabahungu, reba uburyo ababyeyi bahisha ubwana, bagumana mu bwiherero. Basomye iyi myitwarire, basobanukiwe ko kubwimpamvu runaka ari ngombwa guhisha ibice byumubiri wawe, ntabwo ari ukubishyira mubitekerezo bya buri wese. Iki nikihe cyingenzi cyane moms na papa akenshi "bica" psyche y'abana, tabby inyungu zabo kamere muri shitingi ya hafi. Ibisubizo birashobora kuba bibabaje: Abameze bashishikajwe numwana kwigira ubwabo, akenshi bafite ibibazo bitandukanye mubibazo bitandukanye, badashobora kwishimira ibibazo bikomeye byimibonano mpuzabitsina no gutandukana. Nari mfite inshuti yizeraga abikuye ku mutima ko ibikorwa byimbitse aribwo buryo bwanduye kandi bubi, n'inshingano zubatse zifatwa neza nk'ideni, umurimo runaka. Byongeye kandi: Ntiyashoboraga gutsinda ibizamini by'ubuvuzi, yaka mu matwi iyo umuntu yatinyutse kurekura urwenya "munsi y'umukandara". Birakenewe kuvuga ko umubano we nabagore be wababaje cyane kandi urangirana. Iyo amaherezo amenyereye yahisemo guhindukirira inzobere, byagaragaye amakuru ashimishije: Bigaragara ko mu muryango ", Mama na nyirakuru barabujijwe" bakurikiza isuku y'imyitwarire kandi bagahanwa rwose umuhungu Niba arenze ku mategeko y'umuryango.
Nigute? Ese koko ni umuntu muto utagira isoni (kandi mbere yimyaka runaka abana bose bari kandi nta mipaka na bibujijwe? Urashobora kandi ukeneye, ariko biratonze, witonze kandi utamaganwa. Kumyaka itanu kugeza kuri itandatu, Siblos zawe zigomba kuba zifite akarere runaka, umwanya utekanye wenyine - kandi ugomba gusobanura ko nta soni yonyine nawe, cyangwa ubwoba, ahubwo ubonekemo ibikorwa, Kubera ko bidakwiye.
Gupfuka Mechanism
Noneho ...
1. vino. Akenshi aragenda ateye isoni, kandi ntidushobora gutandukanya imwe mu zindi. Ariko ibi ni ngombwa. Ikimenyetso cy'icyaha - Ntagusiga wenyine hamwe na we, mu gihe habaye ibyiyumvo rusange.
2. Ubwoba. Undi muvandimwe wa hafi ni ipfunwe. Dufite ubwoba bwo gusuzugura, tutinya ko tuzafatwa ku kintu kiteye isoni, tutinya kubona inzitizi n'isoni. Ibi byose bifitanye isano n'amahano yo kwangwa no gutinya ko twe, nkatwe, twanze.
3. kunyurwa. Igitangaje ni uko bamwe bafite umunezero mwinshi mugihe bahuye n'ikimwaro. Abahanga mu by'imitekerereze babyita gutandukana, kandi abantu bashaka guterwa isoni barimo abantu bafite imyitwarire yo gutandukana.
Ariko niba byose byari byoroshye! Wabonye ko abantu batandukanye bafite isoni mubintu bitandukanye? Byose kuko ababyeyi bacu batandukanye bakumenyesha ibitekerezo byabo. Mu bwana rero, nari maze kwita ku mubiri wanjye, ariko ndaseka cyane, kandi muri rusange ntabwo byari ngombwa kwerekana umunezero no ku mugaragaro mu mugaragaro. "Ntabwo ufite isoni zo guseka cyane?" - Narakajije. Ubwa mbere ntabwo byaragaragaye neza ibyo abakuru bagezeho, ariko buhoro buhoro natangiye kubona ko bigaragara ko bigaragaye ko byatewe "muri societe bitemewe kandi birabujijwe" nk'ifarashi "Igipfukisho ubwacyo hamwe n'isoni ye y'iteka. Ariko umukunzi wanjye afite isoni zo kurakara no kurakara - nyirakuru yahoraga atera umukobwa gutera sponge, ashyira amaguru. Mubyukuri umukunzi washenye muburyo bwo kumarangamutima mabi (birimo guhura na buri wese muri twe!). Kubera iyo mpamvu, mukure, ntashobora kurwanya nta hafi, cyangwa umunyamahanga, yaka kubera uburakari bukiranuka buzamutse. Vuba aha, mugenzi we yavuze ko igihembo cye - nari guhindura ibibi byose ahantu h'umukobwa (kandi siyabikora?). Ariko yahawe amarira gusa, hanyuma amezi make (!) Byari biteye isoni amezi menshi, kuko imbere yari abitse uburakari.
Mu ntangiriro, isoni zabaye intego nziza: kugirango wigeneho ibihuri byacu hasi, kugirango wigishe umuntu muri twe. Rero, ubushakashatsi buvuga ko umwana ufite ubukana bukabije bukamba mu iterambere. Ushinja Usanzwe muri twe ni urufunguzo rwo kuba tuzagerageza gukurikiza amahame mbwirizamuco no kwinjiza. Ijambo ryibanze hano ni "karemano", ariko, ishyano, urutonde rwibibujijwe (ntabwo ari akaga cyangwa bitemewe nabenshi) birashobora kuba birebire kandi bitangaje. Izi mpande, noneho twiyemeza mumyaka nyabagirana, tubabaye kuri kirazira idasanzwe yahoze habaho ababyeyi bacu kutuyobora mubitekerezo byacu bikomeje. Nibyiza, ukuri nuburyo "useka" cyangwa uburakari? Kugaragaza amarangamutima y'abana ntibishobora gusuzumwa duhereye ku myitwarire myiza. Ntidushobora kumenya ibi kwigaragaza - muriki gihe, umurimo nukwigisha abakiri bato kwigaragaza "ibidukikije", ni ukuvuga inzira yemewe kandi ifite umutekano. Iyo umwana akubite nyina, urashobora kwiyambaza isoni n'umutimanama, kandi ukamuha aho kurwana no kurohama n'ibirenge byanjye cyangwa gukubita umusego, pullook. Ariko burigihe "gukomera" umwana wuburakari, rimwe mumarangamutima yibanze, ukeneye gusa kugirango wige kubaho, ntugomba kwiga kubaho, ntukeneye.
Ingingo ikunze kugaragara, kubagore ba none bahinda umushyitsi, bakomeje kubaho
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Mu cyifuzo cyo kwifuza
Usibye ababyeyi batanga umusanzu mugushinga kwacu bidasanzwe, hypertropysts, tugengwa ningaruka za societe aho dukora ibintu bimwe na bimwe. Urutonde rukomeye: Uyizi ni umwizerwa ku ngeso ze arahagarara, ashoboye kumenya umunezero, yiga kuvuga ati "oya" adafite ishami ry'umutimanama. Abasigaye - kandi bo, ni twe, ishyanga, ubwiganze busesuye - gutegereza ko isiganwa ryo kwemerwa n'imibereho. Ibyo utazakora kugirango wirinde kumva ufite isoni, kuko rwose utanga ibintu byinshi kumubiri no mumutwe.
Ingingo ikunze kugaragara ko abagore bagezweho bahinda umushyitsi biracyari status yabo. Gutandukana, nta bana, tutagize umufatanyabikorwa? Ikigaragara ni uko ikintu kibi kuri wewe. Kuberako njye ubwanjye, bigira isoni kubaho, kwishimira guhitamo no kwigunga - ni ubuhe buswa? Kandi niyo wahitamo "ikibazo", gusohoka no kubyara abana babiri, ntabwo urinzwe mumaso rusange yose. Noneho isoni kuba umugore na nyina mwiza. "Wagaburiye umwana hamwe na Macarona?" - Natunguwe amaso agororotse, nambajije inshuti imwe iheruka. Noneho akurikira inkuru ivuga iki kubabyeyi nyabo bigomba kuba (kandi nibyo ntari kumwe?) Kandi ni ubuhe bwoko bw'umuhungu wanjye Nano, amuha ifunguro rya nimugoroba. Muri iki cyo gutanga ibitekerezo, nahise numva nabi Mamino "uburyo utagira isoni!". Nahise mbabazwa n'isoni, naho, nihise nifata mu ntoki, nibutse ko ndi umuntu mukuru, nshobora kumenya igihe ufite isoni.
Abagabo bafite ububabare bwabo. Tumaze kwandika uburyo abahungu baturuka mubana bashyizweho kubitekerezo bikarira umugabo - agasuzuguro nyako. Usibye ko banyarwanda babujijwe kurira, ntibashobora kunyeganyega kandi bakabona abagore bake. Niba kandi umukunzi wawe atari yiteguye kuba hafi (ntacyo bitwaye, kubwimpamvu - byarambabaje, birashoboka ko Lee yarwanze) - byose, urashobora kuvuga ko mugihe cya vuba ufite ariho gusa umwanya.
Uburezi, Inyungu, Horizons - Ibindi byinshi bidafite amagambo yo guswera: Niba utarasomye Platon na Hegel, ntushobora gufatwa numuntu nyawe? Nahisemo umwuga w'akazi, nahisemo kudarukana nk'amashuri makuru - bisobanura umuntu w'igicucu kandi mugihe gito nta mfuze. Nahisemo umwuga wo kurera abana - ntabwo ari ikintu icyo ari cyo cyose, nuko ihunga ububyeyi. Urukundo rwinshi kongera kongera no kugaragara. Muri slang igezweho, ijambo ubuhehiro ryagaragaye (rivuye mu nshinga yicyongereza kugira ngo isoni - "isoni"). Umubyimba cyane, umucyo cyane cyangwa, ku buryo bidasubirwaho, wambare amajipo magufi, ntabwo wambara ijipo muri rusange, ntidukinisha umutuku, umuntu ukurikirana ibisabwa n'abaturage kuri Reba nkuyu mugaragaro ukeneye, urashobora kwizihiza umutima ubwoba.
Sheyming iraduhakana no kwigaragaza kwacu, ituma tudashaka, tutagera ku kibaho kinini cyashyizweho na sosiyete. Kuva kera nagerageje kusa nabandi bambonye. Mama rwose yashakaga ko ntwara imyenda kandi yari igitsina gore. Umwe mu bakundwa yabonye umugore wo mu rugo w'intangarugero muri njye, undi yashakaga ko nagira uruhare muri politiki. Igihe cyose ntigeze ngira neza ibyo umuntu yiteze, Nashushanyijeho - kubera ko atazi guteka ifunguro rya dische eshatu, niki naburaniraga munsi yumuhungu ... igihe nacyo nari mfite cyo kohereza mu mutwe byose Abagerageza kuntera ikintu mubitekerezo byabo, murugendo rurerure kandi rushimishije.
Kenshi na kenshi tubona amarangamutima mabi, twumva bidakwiye ubwabo, isura yacu, ntabwo ari ukubera ko bakora ikintu kitemewe, ariko bitewe nuko batujuje ibyifuzo byumuntu. Ni ngombwa kumenya ibibera, no gutandukanya ibinyampeke nikibazo. Udafite gucuranga, kandi rimwe na rimwe ubufasha bwinzobere, ntukore. Amakuru meza nuko ibisubizo byakazi kawe kuri wewe bizaba ibyiyumvo byubwisanzure n'imbaraga. Nyuma yo gusubiramo amakoko y'ibinyoma, isi itagira iherezo yubushobozi nubushakashatsi izakingurwa.
Ntugerageze kunoza abantu bose
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Isoni kuri wewe ...
... gukora bike. Sosiyete idutegeka: niko amafaranga menshi, uko uri. Kanguka, ntabwo aribyo! Imibereho myiza ni igikoresho gusa, kandi ifite isoni kugirango umushahara wawe uri munsi yurwo nshuti - imyitwarire yashyizweho. Gerageza kugota ibidukikije bizagerageza kugutera isoni, ikibazo cyoroshye: "Kuki nagize isoni?"
... Ntugaharanire kugabanya ibiro. Ntabwo tuvuga imanza iyo umuntu agira umubyibuho ukabije - noneho imiterere ye igira ingaruka muburyo butaziguye. Ariko niba turimo kuvuga ibirometero "byiyongereye", urashobora kwerekeza ku bajyanama neza gukora wowe ubwawe, ariko ntabwo ari wowe.
... Hitamo ubwoko bumwe bwimibonano mpuzabitsina. Niba inshuti zawe nabawe bagerageza kuzana mubuzima bwawe bwimbitse, ibuka ko ntamuntu uri muburiri bwawe muburiri bwawe. Mubisanzwe, tuvuga gusa kubijyanye no kwemererwa n'amategeko!
... ntusome / reba / sura amasomo yo kwiteza imbere. Urashaka gukora ibi byose? Kora wenyine, ariko ntukagire inama abandi!
Subiza wenyine
Utandukanye bihagije nkumva aribaza isoni. Nubwo dutoroshye, mwisi muri iki gihe hari ibitekerezo rusange kubyerekeye icyiza n'ikibi, kubutabera, imbabazi nubupfumu. Niba usohotse neza muri aya makadiri kandi wambutse umurongo, kumva isoni ni ibintu bisanzwe kandi bikenewe. Mu bindi bihe, birashoboka cyane ko washushanijwe mubintu byibinyoma.
Niba ufite ishusho hafi, reba neza, ariko wizeye. Baza umuntu ugerageza kugusoma cyangwa gutera isoni, kuki bikwiye kubaho? Witandukane n'umuntu ukunda, ukoreshe gutandukana: "Umva, Mama (Papa, umuvandimwe, ndi njye, kandi nta kintu na kimwe nkora, nanjye Ntukureho umuntu wese kubikora. Ndumva ko udakunda, ariko ntacyo nshobora kugukorera. "
Niba "Isoni!" Urasakuza mubantu b'abandi, ntutinye kwerekana ko uteye ubwoba no gukomera (wibuke ko igitero atari ikibi). Reka ubutwari n'imbaraga biguhe gusobanukirwa ko ibyo biterants byinjira mukarere kawe kandi ugerageze kukuvuna. Ntugerageze kugira neza kuri bose!