Iyo utekereje kumibanire yubusa, ikintu cya mbere kiza mubitekerezo ni ukubura kugenzura no kubuza kumufatanyabikorwa. Ariko, mubyukuri, abantu bake bazi gutekereza no gukora batitaye kubice bya kabiri. Kubera iyo mpamvu, uhereye kumubano wubusa uhinduka ubwubanga, aho umuntu akora ibyo ashaka, undi azihanganira imyitwarire ye. Muri ibi bikoresho, tekereza ku byiza byose nibibi byubusa.
Abafatanyabikorwa batandukanye nishyari
Niba uri mubuzima bwa neurotic, ugerageza gushaka amayeri mumico myiza yumusore, noneho umubano wubusa ntabwo ari byiza neza. Ihame ryingenzi hano ni abagore benshi badakura mubucuti bwurukundo nyuma yimibonano mpuzabitsina. Bitabaye ibyo, ntabwo uri mu mibanire y'ubuntu, ariko gusa "ufite amahembe." Tekereza niba witeguye kumenya umugabo wawe yamaze nimugoroba, ahura nundi rubyiruko rwonyine. Nubwo mu nzozi igitekerezo cyishusho yumugore wica isa nkibyiza, mubuzima biri kure yiteguye guhinduranya nuwakundaga kuva mubyo ukunda.
Witegure kubona ubuhemu nkibisanzwe
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Gukenera kuruka byose
Ntabwo bizashoboka kwihisha umufatanyabikorwa waryamanye ninama yambere nyuma yishyaka muri club. Ishingiro ryimibanire yubuntu ni ikizere no gufungura hamwe. Witegure kuvuga kubijyanye nibisobanuro byawe byimbitse, niba ibi byashakaga igice cya kabiri. Intego nyamukuru yuburambe kuruhande ni ubumenyi no kudineri mutumanaho hafi numuntu mushya. Uzumva rero icyo ushaka kuva mubafatanyabikorwa muburiri, kandi urashobora kumenya ubwoko bukunda ari bumwe mubyiza bidashidikanywaho.
Ntutinye abanegura
Niba ujugunywe numuntu utazi kurinda umwanya we mubitotezo no kugira isoni kumenyera abantu, ntibishoboka ko uzaba witeguye kunegura abo ukunda. Umuntu wese agomba gusobanurira umukunzi wumukobwa, wahamagaye mu ijoro agira ati: 'Nabonye amatungo yawe, muri iyi kipe n'undi mukobwa!' Ntuzigere ureka abandi bagutuka kubera ko utuye ukundi: ubuzima bwawe ni amahitamo yawe.
Muganire hamwe na mugenzi wawe byose kugirango bidafite ubwoba
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Kwigaragaza - Ntabwo Soz, kandi birakenewe
Nubwo byari byiza gute, ariko rimwe na rimwe bizaba bisa nkaho umukunzi wawe yahinduye imico yemerewe kandi ashyirwa mu mva yose. Ishyari n'umujinya ni amarangamutima asanzwe, ikintu cyingenzi mugihe cyo kubihagarika. Hano wowe ubwawe uzaba umukunzi mwiza wa psychologue wenyine: tekereza impamvu mbere yuko uceceka ubugambanyi, none babaye ubwoba. Umubano wubusa tekereza kuvugana nabo kugirango umenye ibyifuzo biteye ubwoba kandi ukemure ikibazo muri stardi cyangwa ibi kandi bigomba kwitegura.